hes really sexy and i know we would be happy but i don't want to have to comprimise my future!!!! help me!!!
2007-04-04 11:18:30 · 29 answers · asked by xXxEnticexXx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
hes sort of touch and i dont want him to be offended and run away
2007-04-04 11:26:58 · update #1
i ment touchy not touch
2007-04-04 11:28:05 · update #2
i feel like if i make him wait to long he'll decide he wants somthing better. i know, if he really loves me he'll be willing to wait but i love him so much, and somtimes i think its to much to risk it
2007-04-04 11:40:42 · update #3
im twenty, hes twenty-one
2007-04-04 11:42:29 · update #4
Do not agree to marry someone if you are not ready. Especially if you are afraid he will lose interest and move on. If that is the case, you are better off. If you do want to marry some day, accept, but request a long engagement and marriage once you are done with college. If your education is your priority, you need to stick to it. Both of you need to be equally ready to settle into married life. It is too serious of a vow to rush into.
2007-04-04 12:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by pixieri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much longer do you have of college? If you love him and want to marry him, you can accept the proposal and ahve a long engagement. I got married when I was 20, we were both still in college and I dont feel I have jeaperdised my future at all. We have a great life together.
You do realize that marriage isnt just a signature on a paper, its also a Holy Sacrament. And depending on how you want to look at it, by using college as an excuse to not get married you are putting you ahead of the Laws of our Lord. However, if you feel you are not ready to get married, that is another situation.
2007-04-04 18:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An engagement may not be a promise to marry tomorrow, but it is a promise to marry someday. If your boyfriend is asking you to marry him now, then he probably won't want to wait.
Tell him that you're not interested in being married until you've been out on your own out of college for at least a few years. Tell him that you want to be your own person and not just go from being dependent on your parents to being dependent on him.
Tell him that once you've been out there a bit you might be more interested in getting married.
If he can't accept that, well, it's good you learned this about him now rather than after you had a couple of kids.
By the way, congratulations on being so level headed about it. You'll be glad you were.
2007-04-04 18:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by Dave R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but from reading your question and all the additional information, I don't think you two are ready to get married. First of all, you are both young, and can afford to wait a year or two. You shouldn't get married just because you fear you'll lose him, or because he's so sexy. And he should be willing to wait until after you graduate, if that's what you want. Going to college is a full time task, devote your attention to your studies, and enjoy those years. Even if you get married when you graduate, you'll still have a lifetime together.
2007-04-12 14:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can say yes, but as long as he understands that you want to finish college before getting married. There is nothing wrong with a long engagement. If he loves you enough now to get married then he'll love you enough once you've both finished college. Being a newly married couple if hard enough..the first year is very rough..but to add to it the stress of college classes and all that goes with college. I don't say this to try and preach, but as from someone who got married when I was 21 and never finished college.
2007-04-04 18:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He asked you to marry him. He will wait! He has been with you for 4 years already, so whats a few more as you both start your lives? I was with my current FI thoughout high school and college. He asked me to marry him during our senior year spring break trip to Paris. We waited until he was out of Pharmacy School to start planning the wedding....yeah it's a LONG engagement, but at least I am totally 100% sure I want to do this (I have had 8 years of dating and 5 years of engagment to think about it!!!). If you are worried her will "run away" because you want wait until you graduate, then you are going to be worried about him "running away" your entire marriage. If he cant stick around for a few years with a new kind of commintment, then why bother marrying him? I know that sounds cut throat, but serisouly.....why marry someone you are worried is going to pick up and leave if you make him wait?
2007-04-04 19:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with him. Tell him how much you love him and your concerns. Getting married and going to school can be done, but it is very hard work. The more you add to the equation the harder it gets, such as family, bills, a new married life. Don't get me wrong being married also has it benefits but you can only reap those benefits by working very hard at your marriage, and also school can take a back seat if you "accidentally get a little pregnant" if school is very important to you tell him, make a plan, and stick to it. Push yourself to finish school fast and then get married.
2007-04-12 14:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by Savi S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he will understand about your future. The fact that you have to put the question on here doesn't make it seem to promising that you are sure about what you want. If you are afraid, tell him. You have to start with honesty . I was engaged when I was in college but we didn't get married until I had graduated. If it is important to you-- it should be to him as well. Good luck :)
2007-04-04 20:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by AJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is probably one of the most, if not THE most, important decisions of your life. So it should not be treated lightly AT ALL.
You need to have a serious discussion with him. It is the beginning of an entirely new life. Give and take will be critical. If you are afraid of his reaction to a discussion on something as important as this, what will happen in a discussion on children?
You could plan on the marriage and set the date for sometime when you will both be secure financially and emotionally....kind of an agreement to agree...later.
2007-04-04 18:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by superbird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, until you have both graduated, and have careers. Love will last if it is truly true love. Getting married to young and without a solid footing will endanger the relationship far more than waiting a little longer. Be smart, as you both have the rest of your life ahead of you.
2007-04-10 09:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by H. A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋