A hot guy I met through work two years ago and I recently got in touch again three months ago. We live in different cities. I will be seeing him in a month. our emails started off casual, catching up with each other, but in the last month, we were emailing Monday-Friday almost every day. The last two weeks, we emailed about eight times a day & got flirtatacious. I decided to email and tell him I loved being back in touch, but that I didn't feel comfortable with the frequency of contact if he were in some committed relationship, because if I were in the other person's shoes, I would not like it. He immediately emailed back and said he was shocked by my comments because he believes in having friends. He has never said to me we are friends or asked me if i was dating. He said he does not tell everything to his girlfriend but if she were to ask, or she found out, he doesn't find what we were saying as jeopardizing his relationship. If he were single I'd be after him. How to handle?
2007-04-04 10:39:20 · 7 answers · asked by defiantshamrock 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me tell you more. I totally would be interested in him-IF-he were not in a relationship. I am not interested to pursue him-ESPECIALLY after what he said about not telling his girlfriend everything, and writing if she were to find out, or were to ask..but I know him actually for 6 years. I think he is interested in me but afraid to take the chance. So what I wrote back to him was a very friendly reply, let's see what you all think, cuz my coworkers thought it was a very clever way for me to reply:
"Aha my friend…
I don’t think there’s anything for you to be shocked about at all…I’m not judging you at all, or asking you what you say or do not say to your girlfriend….I was just making you aware of how I feel about that much contact if I were in the other person’s shoes....
And, friend to friend, good to know you are apparently so happy in that area.."
BECAUSE CLEARLY HE ISN"T SO HAPPY, hee,hee. Players should be played right back ladies....think this was a smart idea?
2007-04-04 12:57:12 · update #1
He sounds like a jerk if he's emailing flirty emails to some girl on a daily basis while trying to justify it by saying he's deceitful (or "does not tell everything") to his girlfriend.
I wonder how she's going to feel when he goes out on a date with you when you arrive in his city. Or will he call it "hanging out" IF he even tells her?
If he were single, why would you want him? I'd stop the emails and decide not to see him.
2007-04-04 10:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already learned some very important thing about his guy. He doesn't tell his girlfriend everything and obviously would not see any problems with having a highly flirtacious relationship with another woman while he is in a relationship citing it is because "he believes in having friends". Do you really want to end up being on the girfriend who is in the "committed" part of a relationship with this man?
2007-04-04 10:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, If the guy has a girlfriend and your AWARE of it, back off. Do it before anything serious happens that makes you wish that you did it long ago. Put yourself in her shoes. Would you like your boyfriend to be talking flirtaciously with another woman? I think not. Try and look for someone else. There are plenty of fish in the sea! Hope i helped! :)
2007-04-04 10:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by colorfulgarden 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is in a relationship then I would surely stay away from that all the will bring you is greef you don't need.
Tell him to stop e-mailing you and you don't want to see him I feel bad for his girlfriend because she will surely be the one to get hurt in all of this and for what.
Good Luck!
Lola.
2007-04-04 10:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by h18lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will get the message now because I think you have made it clear. If he wants to ignore it, you can ignore any contact with him. Don't email him again or try to explain it to him again if he doesn't want to listen.
2007-04-04 10:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by goodness 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you leave him alone fornow because he has a girlfriend. After they are done then move in to be your BF!!:)
2007-04-04 10:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by shell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. How would you feel if you were the girlfriend?
2007-04-04 10:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by ropman1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋