I was wondering if anybody else on here gets "parenting money" from their husband for taking care of the kids all week?? I get $100.00 every sunday for taking care of me and my fiancee's 14 month old son(i also have a 9 yr old daughter that i also take care of but i get child support for her)then every sunday on my "day off" i spend it on me for clothes and going to the movies and whatever else my heart desires.
2007-04-04 10:30:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My fiancee owns his own business so he works 9-12 hours a day...most husband do the daily grind of 9-5 p.m.
2007-04-04 10:32:03 · update #1
I do not take my daughter's child support and spend it on myself..that is for her needs only. My fiancee who i live with now just rewards me for taking care of the house and our child with money i can spend on for just me
2007-04-04 10:55:27 · update #2
since i am a stay at home its just a day off i can do for myself and have $ to do with whatever i please. it jsut a nice refresher to start the parenting all over again. I love my kids but it is noce to be rewarded and for my fiancee to aknoledge that it is the hardest job
2007-04-04 11:01:39 · update #3
Don't listen to all those people with negative answers, they're just jealous that their husbands don't do that for them. That's great for you. I don't see anything wrong with it and actually my parents kinda do something similar. My dad works while mom stays home and when he gets his check, he gives it all to my mom. She pays the bills and gives him $100 for the week. Mom has permission to buy whatever she needs or wants so long as there is food on the table and the bills are paid. My husband and I both work and I give my check to him and he gives me $50 a week to do whatever I want with it. I find that we save more money this way. I'm having a baby soon {another 4 months} and he says he'll give me $100 weekly but that I have to share it with the baby. He just jokes but even so that's not that bad. Take care! God bless!!
2007-04-04 11:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by wendy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a little strange. However, it is more cost-effective to send letters/packages overnight to a business address instead of a residential one. Second, if they sent it special to your home, could they be sure that someone would be there when it was delivered. Third, how did you find out about the money? Did your husband tell you or did he hide it? Fourth, what did your husband DO with the money? It all needs to be filtered through the type of relationship you have with your in-laws, and your husband. If everything is good, then I wouldn't worry; but if things are strained, then I'd address the problem. Any time a spouse attempts to hide such things, there are issues to be resolved. Good luck to you.
2016-03-28 23:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The money is our money. If I want something then I'll buy it or if it is a big thing we discuss it together. I don't do anything stupid and spend more than we have to spend.
i haven't really seen being a SAHM as a typical job with a day off and a paycheck.
I think that my aunt and uncle have a strange situation - they have grown children but my uncle works and my aunt stays home. She is given $400 a week to do whatever she pleases. This doesn't include shopping for clothes or food or anything - just money to spend going out to lunch, vacationing, etc.
Take Care. SD
2007-04-04 10:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by SD 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You get money for taking care of you? That's odd to me. lol
BUT, if the child is his, the 14 month old I mean, and not yours I don't see why you shouldn't get paid for taking care of his kid. Do you spend your child support on yourself? If you do that's kind of wrong. It's not for YOU. It's for your daughter.
But as far as your fiancee goes, if he wants to give you money for taking care of HIS kid, take it! I would.
I get child support for my son too, but it goes to him. It also goes to bills which he helps run up. But with every check he gets some clothes, special treats he wants, a couple cars or something. I look at it as his money too.
EDITED TO ADD: To me it sounds a bit like you're bragging. Like when you say "whatever my heart desires". It's great that you're taken care of but I really think this question was asked just to be a bit braggy.
2007-04-04 10:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't get "parenting money," per se, but I think that the fact that you do is great. Raising kids and running a household is hardwork. If your fiance wants to reward you for that with the chance to spend some time and money all on yourself, I say that's sweet and thoughtful of him. Whatever makes you happy, I say.
2007-04-04 10:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't get that. I rarely even get a thank you (from the kids anyway). I think it's wonderful that he does that for you BUT, it would be hard for me to not see it as an "allowance". I have free reign with all of our money even though I don't earn any. I pay all of the bills and do all of the shopping, it's rare that my husband even knows what is in the checking account.
2007-04-04 13:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh, it's a neat idea. Basically you actually make money for your efforts which is really fair if you ask me. It should be a little more though, in thought.
I'm tired of women who think that their husbands money belongs to them too though. Yes, most stay at home moms work very hard, but not much more than their partner, so they should be paid fairly as if it were a job of their own. This is more than fair in my eyes.
2007-04-04 11:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So basically, you get an allowance of $100 a week. Wow, that would not fly with me if my boyfriend tried to do that once we're married and have kids. Even if he is the one making all the money, it's still our money, and I'm going to have just as much access to it as he does.
2007-04-04 10:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's giving you the money for "taking care of the kids" I think he knows you had a long week and he wants you to enjoy yourself for the day. I think you should relax and enjoy your day off. Good Luck!
2007-04-04 11:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by Pretty Woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he pays you to be a babysitter?
I stay home with both my kids and I don't ask my husband for money. It's our equally.
and the fact you spend your child support money on you is wrong it's ment to take care of your child,
2007-04-04 10:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by princess2423 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋