The age old dilemma (no dilemma at all, if you ask me). I still see my friends, not nearly as much, but we have jobs and most of us serious relationships now anyways. But w/ summer coming up, there will still be softball and the occassional weekend debauchery we all grew accustomed to. Anyways, one of my good friends is being a real *** lately. It centers around me spending way more time w/ my gf now who I am knowingly and happily getting pretty involved with. I know it's just sour grapes, but anyone go through this with one of their best friends? He's rather spiteful and curt lately and I had patience for it, but it's running thin. I am going to get him out one night, we're going to have lots of drinks and we're going to put this to rest. Any tips?
2007-04-04 10:29:30 · 5 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it is important to balance your new love relationship with friends that have been with you for many years. I mean seriously this has to be a bit of a loss for him IF you spent a lot of quality time with him and now you are spending that time with your new girlfriend. I mean if he is your "best friend" I assume you spent some quality time with him that is now being taken up with your girfriend. Here is a dilemma for you..and it will be one, if you ask me: As the embers cool a bit and you look to reconnect with friends for BALANCE you may find they have all moved on and well...then that might feel exactly how your "best friend" feels now. You have the right to tell your friend that you choose to spend most, if not all your time with your new love...and he has the rigt to tell you that he does not like it. Resolution? Sure. Pick a time once a month or every two weeks when you meet him after work and do something together..just you two. It is healthy to have friends and it is healthy to have a girlfriend. But you have to work out your relationships if you want them to thrive and survive. If you are not interested in your "best friend" anymore,, tell him when you go out. It is all about choices and how you choose to spend your time.
2007-04-04 10:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be in love with you, and that might be the reason he is acting different with you. So, before you get drunk and say and do things you can't take back, talk to him over coffee.
2007-04-04 17:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's jealous and childish. The next time he acts like a fool, tell him so. Sometimes we outgrow our friends. This is one of those times.
2007-04-04 17:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yea, do it without lots of drinks. sounds like it is going to be a serious discussion and they usually don't mix well with alcohol and people can say i was drinking i don't remember saying that or doing that ...eeeeeven if ..they ..do..!
2007-04-04 17:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by gone fishing! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When he's drunk, just lay him out. Use your elbow ... go crazy.
2007-04-04 17:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by Bob_123 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋