i split up with my first love recently,because he had acted badly,and i couldn't forgive it,although most girls probably would.We had been together nearly a year,and hadn't had sex,although we were really in love and eventually would have.i mean,we're 15.once when i cried,he promised he would always be there for me even if we split.He always showed how much he loved me,and i and everyone believes that.But,when we split up,he had sex with a girl i hate a week later and is seeing her.And he's going out getting drunk all the time!=s at first i was ok,but now i feel completely heartbroken.sometimes i just want him back,but i know it wouldn't be right.whenever i do see him,he awkwardly attempts to talk to me and bring up memories,even though he's with 'her'.What's wrong with me?!I need help.and What's wrong with him?!
2007-04-04 10:26:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your both growing up. Your gonna feel uncomfortable for a little while. But you will get over him. It takes time to emotionally move on, and you'll hold a special place in your heart just for him. The best advice I can give is keep yourself busy with things you feel passionate about. You said you guys dated for a year and never had sex, but a week after you broke up he had sex with someone else. That's how most boys are at this age. They want to have sex and don't want to wait around for it. Even though he's having sex with this other girl he probably doesn't have the same love for her that he had for you. Boys and some girls at this age want to hurry up and start doing grown up things like sex and alcohol. It usually leads to trouble. Good for you for waiting, I sure hope you can get over this boy and understand that it's not you personally. It's tough growing up.
2007-04-04 11:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by jeni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong is that no one told you that you were going to meet your one and only at age 15. So he's your first love, great. You got that over with, now you have some lessons to look back on on what worked and what didn't. There's nothing wrong with you, you're just sad. There isn't anything wrong with him either, he's a 15 year old horn dog, that's normal. Guys are not looking for a wife at 15, just don't worry about being serious until it's time to be serious. And for the love of God, don't have sex until you're married, save yourself the aggrivation!
2007-04-04 17:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you have learnt the hard ways that everyone has a nasty streak, even those who you love.
I dont think there is anything wrong with either or you, I think he has moved on, which is better for you in the log term because if it didnt happen now it would have happened later on in the relationship. And I think its understandable you still have feelings for him, but I think you will just have to give it time for the bruises to disappear (if not heal) and then move on. It will take time though and in time you will look and wonder why you were ever hung up on him. He better without you, you are obsviously to good for him.
2007-04-04 17:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with him is he feels guilty and cant handle it so he is drinking to cover it up and has caved to peer pressure. There is nothing wrong with you, I wish I would have had your courage at your age. It probably will hurt for a long time, but giving in and having sex just to get him back will only make you feel worse. Maybe he will wise up and come back on his own, and the fact that he brings up memories whenhe is with her proves he has no feelings for her. Just give him time and he may come around, if not you are truely better off without him.
2007-04-04 17:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, I can understand that this brings you a lot of pain, however you also have to understand that this pain will pass and as you get older you will meet boys that make you feel good, and can also be just as if not more supportive. Please understand that you are sooo young, and you deserve sooo much more than this boy has to offer. Let him act a fool and do stupid things. Once you succeed and show him how great of a life you have he will know what he is missing out on.
But you should already know what he's missing out on.
2007-04-04 17:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by Lenka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys always say things to girls they feel in the moment, but they don't mean anything later. It's not always just them being a jerk. They may really mean it at the time. But if he wasn't willing to stick it out with you, and admit that he may have had bad behavior that you didn't like, he can have that other girl! He obviously didn't care for you if he just went and slept with another person. Don't feel bad. it wasn't your fault. Just take things slow. Don't get involved with another person too quickly, but you need to move on. And you are only 15, slow down with the dating! You have plenty of time!
2007-04-04 17:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lorenia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know almost exactly wut your going threw. i am only 16 and broke up with my first love the day before valentines day. even though we live in separte towns i know while we were dating he had been "charming up" other girls telling them he loved them and after we spit he made it more known that he is in wanting madly to be with this other girl. a few actually. Even though he made me feel like i was the only girl and that we'd be best friends even if we broke up. we broke up and he shut me out of his life completly. You will never get over your first love. NEVER!! but you can move on. and the whole bringin up old memories, its a guy thing. especially if he truely did have feeling for you. he wants to revisit those memories, they were days that made you both happy. If you are ment to be together than in the end you will be together. maybe right now just isnt the time for you both. we are all still young and need to explore, its in our blood. and its goin to hurt losing your first love even if its only part time while you both figure exactly wut you want out.
there is nothing wrong with you. nothing at all. boys will be boys and want to play the feild like all there buddies. its just something they do. As long as he isnt rubbing it in your face that he is with another girl you should have to worry about never having another chance with him.
2007-04-04 17:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by Celestrya M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to understand why you feel that way to this guy who hurt you. My advice to you is to stay away from him, no matter what. When you get a little older, then and only then will you comprehend why I have given you such a simple but the best advice you could ever have under the circumstances you have mentioned in your letter.
2007-04-04 17:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds. Broken hearts are the toughest. Its good to have experience this early in life. It will prepare you for when you are older. Just have the attitude, if it's meant to be it will be. You cant force love in any way shape or form.
2007-04-04 17:44:34 · answer #9 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are soooo young yet, what he did was wrong, especially a week later! and with someone you hate!
If you want to salvage a friendship with him, by all means, but I would get over him! Move on to someone who respects you!
2007-04-04 17:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋