why did my boyfriend cheat?

Question

me and my guy have been together for 5 years i moved 12 hours away from home to be with him with no friends or family of my own i took his kids in when their moms were too unstable to keep them and even gave him the occasional 3some so why when i was seven months pregnant with our child did he cheat on me with my first cousin

Answer 1

because you let him. you let him do what he wants and you just follow his lead,,,evidently he's very immature,

Answer 2

This cannot be answered with the limited information. I am sorry you are hurting. I have been on both sides of this issue. I learned my lesson. Guys cheat usually for a sexual reason. Women cheat for emotional ones. Find out if there is something you could have done to prevent this. Sometimes there is nothing you could have done. But talking is the best answer. Not yelling but really talking. Here what each other has to say. As for the threesome I don't believe in a minute that he thought it was then ok to cheat. I have been in that situation and never cheated. If you want to chat I am at [e-mail]

Answer 3

Because you gave him the chance. A relationship will never survive a threesome, if it does things like this happen. You catered to his every need and so he felt like he could do whatever he wanted. Now it's not all your fault because then this guy is also an as shole. He knew that you cater to his every need and would let him get away with anything. So he cheated with your cousin. And probably some other women too you just don't know about them ditch him and save yourself anymore grief.

Answer 4

Why? Because you obviously never learned the meaning of the word "NO" and how to use said word.

You do anything this man wants, and he has no respect for you because of it.

You have to move on, accept that he's a scumbag and count your losses. He will continue to find insecure women who don't know how to say "no" so if you have self respect it's time to leave.

Stop acting like he should be ashamed, it won't ever happen. He is a scum bag and trash, and the only thing you get to do by staying is proving him right.

Please don't ever tell another man what kind of pushover you once were...find a great person and be happy.

Answer 5

because he could you made it easy for him you bring other women into your bed and wonder why he would cheat? hes a dog he has kids all over the place and has probaly never married any of the mothers and probaly doesnt work or pay child support.is he an illegal immigrant too?dont let any man treat you that way get some self respect and get a life baby girl next time find a real man not some boy looking for someone to take care of him and his problems.good luck to you and your own child.

Answer 6

sounds like your man has a history of unfaithfulness.
He doesn't sound very stable himself. Why do you give so much and allow him to 'slap you in the face' by cheating on you. I'd be booting his a** to the curb!!!! You don't need that kind of behaviour in your delicate condition or in the future for that matter. You want your child to grown up in a good home, doesn't sound like that would be the case if you stick with this loser. Sorry to be so blunt but I just can't forgive something like that.

Answer 7

Because men do only what you allow them to. I'm not taking up for him in the least, but since you have no control over him whatsoever, it would behoove you to focus on what you can do in the future to prevent things like this from happening.

Whenever you make decisions surrounding a man, trying to cater to him, he'll lose respect for you and messed up things like this happen.

A 3-some to keep him happy?!?!?!?!?!-----that speaks volumes of your self-esteem.

You, honestly, don't need to be dating until you can:
1. Figure out for yourself what you did wrong and learn from this.
2. Learn to love yourself.
3. Realize your worth.

You experienced this once, and it's hard enough and I know it hurts, but if it happens again with him or another man; it's gonna be shame on you; not him.

Answer 8

I hate to sound harsh, but seems that he doesn't love you. If he did, he never would have been able to cheat on you. More importantly, it seems as though you put himself first and made him your priority before yourself. That was your #1 mistake, now all you can do is do whats best for you. Keep in mind you can't change a person unless he/she wants to change. So if you want to stick with him, thats your decision, but keep in mind, if he can cheat once, he can cheat twice or thrice if not more than that. You have to remember to be independent and to always put yourself and you soon to be born baby first before any men.

Answer 9

because he is obviously not stable. If his other babies' mommas are too unstable to take care of their children, you gotta look at the man that was with that type of woman. Dont let him ruin your life. If you can I suggest move back home with your baby, and leave him be. Thats no way to treat anyone.

Answer 10

He cheated because he is morally bankrupt. He is not a good partner and if you choose to stay with him you're telling him that even though it hurt you it is ok because he can get away with it. The things you did for him, with his kids, or in the bedroom are not relevant to why he cheated.

Answer 11

Sorry, but I agree with what someone else mentioned--it was probably b/c of the threesome. I understand that you wanted to please your man in every way, but perhaps you went a little too far with fulfilling that fantasy. From what I've heard, often time inviting another woman into the bedroom encourages infidelity. If a threesome was what you truly wanted, then fine, but if you did it solely to please him, then maybe next time around you should just leave it as a fantasy.