Are ppl disgusted by your scoliosis??

Question

I was first diagnosed w/ scoliosis when I was 10. I had surgery when I was 13. Now I’m 17 and unhappy with my self-image. Despite the surgery, my backbone is still crooked. Every time I bend over, you can see the curves on my back. So, I rarely bend in public. I always wear hoodies and jackets so that nothing could expose the scar, or the fact that my back is curved. It’s been 4 years and the scar is still pink and visible. Because of this, I don’t swim as much as I used to. I’m so self-conscious that I’m stiff when I walk. I think I have to walk a certain way just to hide the curve. :( Sometimes I think my arms are long. I just hate it. I don’t know how to cope. Everybody I know doesn’t have it worse than I do and no one in my family understands my pain. I’m Asian, 5’0, and skinny. But I don’t feel pretty. :(

Answer 1

I really think you could use some professional help such as a therapist to resolve these issues. We are all our own worst enemy at times. Dont be so hard on yourself. Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

I can relate so well to what you're saying. I have dealt with scoliosis, for 18 years (i'm 33) now. (sigh) i still feel self-conscious, like having to get psyched up to go swimming, or not wearing tighter shirts. And my degree of curve, isn't that bad.
You're probably gorgeous, what i learned from friends, and girlfriends, is that i was obsessing, no one is paying as much attention to your scar and back as you are.
You could get a tattoo around the scar, now that would be pretty cool; and you'd turn something that embarrasses you into something beautiful you created.
Right now you're not living because of what people might think. You're 17, go out and experience, forget about what anyone else might think; and enjoy life.

Answer 3

My husband has this since he was a child. And I think that he went through a lot as a kid. Most people don't really notice though unless we point it out to them. And I think he is perfect just the way he is.
I don't even notice it. And I have never had anyone even comment on it. And I think that when we have something we think is different from other people, it's hard to feel normal. But, you are. And you are beautiful just the way you are.
And you will find that other people just don't notice it as much as you do.
My son has a friend with it as well, and he found a girl and they are going to have child together and get married.
So I guess all I am trying to say is that for every person there is someone out there. And your real friends will love you no matter what.
But, you have to start with yourself. You have to love yourself first before others can come inside the wall you have and love you too.
So, try not to let it bother you so much. I know it's hard, because you are at a stage in life when this all seems so much more important. But, as time goes by and you get done with school, you are going to find the world and the people in it are much different than the pressures you are having now.
And you will find that people will accept you just the way that you are.
I even know people who say it's a turn on for them.
For me, the things that make my husband unique, are the things I find most attractive about him. It's makes him mysterious and interesting. And you will find someone who loves you the same as I love him.
But, you have to let yourself love yourself. And know that your unique. And that makes you beautiful.

Answer 4

My brother's wife was born with severe scoliosis and had the operation-to this day she has a scar on her back and does walk with a slight limp;but she wears bikinis and low backed dresses and high heels, if someone stares at her she says , "Oh, that scar, I hadn't really noticed it, hmm.""Oh, it's all the rage in Paris this year-the alternative to tattoos." She dresses beautifully and is a very successful clothing designer. She had it rough when she was in her teens. But, using humor and being a bit of a snob got her through it. She married my brother who looks just like Tom Cruise. A lot of girls would give anything to be thin and have long thin arms. So what you have a scar-everybody has something-I'd give anything to have lovely straight Asian hair, instead of masses of curly undyeable white hair.Smile-that's makes anyone pretty :)

Answer 5

What you went through was hard. I know. I just had my surgery 2 months ago, but it helped me with my image. My biggest problem used to be my hips, I'd always wear baggy clothes to hide the fact that they were uneven. I was always trying to stand up straight, or to hide the fact that I couldn't with large sweaters and jackets. Since my surgery, I see myself as a beautiful, strong, young woman. I know that I walk a little different than most, but I don't mind. And my scar is still fresh and I won't let it bother me. It took a lot of strength to go through that surgery, I know that pain. And that had to be hard on you being so young. But I was strong, and I did it. And that scar is a reminder of my strength, and I am not ashamed of it. And I do plan to incorporate it into my next tattoo. Don't let someone else's definition of beauty dictate who you are.
You are a beautiful, strong young woman embrace who you are and be proud.

Answer 6

No...I am definitely not disgusted by scoliosis...I don't even think it's that much of a big deal and I even think it looks pretty cool...besides I think it's peoples imperfections that make them more attractive...here is a site that you will find interesting...you can meet people that you can talk to this about http://www.teenscolinet.org/ I wish you the best and don't worry so much...we all have imperfections and this makes us all unique and much cooler

Answer 7

its not that a big deal...i have long arms too..i also have a 51 degree curve of scoliosis...i have to wear a brace to school every day..atleast its better than that..just be glad that you took care of it earlier...and just be glad that you dont have a more serious disease like other people..
people dont even notice im wearing my brace sometimes..im pretty sure they wont notice your scoliosis..its all in your head..and about the scar just try using some scar- removing stuff..go to a pharmacy..
trust me its alll in your head...

Answer 8

I think your a little self conscious of the issue. Most people never notice it...be yourself and enjoy life. Don't worry about others..

Answer 9

i hear where you are coming from hun=try to get that self-esteem up=God made you this way for a reason only he knows=start swimming at a beach where nobody knows you and have fun =play in the sun=soon you will have enough confidence to hang around with your friends=the only way the scar is going to fade is if it is at times exposed to the sun=enjoy your teen years hun =happy swimming

Answer 10

you need to not worry what other people say or think, there are things you can still do to stretch or lay the bones straighter. go to an orthopedic surgeon and discuss options, this isn't something you have to live with.