does this really matter?
2007-04-04 09:08:27 · 29 answers · asked by Sambug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How young are we talking about?
If is a school age girl, yes, gross and nobody wants to dat the high school slut that already has a kid before even graduating.
Nobody wants a promiscous lose girl and deal with pooppy diapers and crap when all they want to do is age appropiate fun things with other teens their age. So you are SOL.
Of course is matters! Doesn't a baby matter?
You made the bed, now lay on it.
You priority should be your baby and not geting some else on the sack...haven't you learned anything?
2007-04-04 09:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes in the USA, they will. Having a child does not usually matter.Being a good Mother is what counts. However don't try to hide it or keep the child a secret. Mention this fact early on in the relationship and then talk about something else. When you have the first few dates try to get a baby sitter, so the two of you can spend time together. Then perhaps you can do something where you include the child. Just take it easy and try to let the man get to know you first. If he happens to ask about the natural Father and your previous relationship, tell him,also this might be good time to ask if there are any children that maybe calling him Daddy. Okay Good Luck and go for it! Don't just sit around but plan for your future.
2007-04-04 09:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the guy. Some will do it. It depends on if he is cool with kids or not. Some may not want a woman with kids because either he doesn't like kids or he may want kids in a relationship and feels she may not want anymore future kids. Especially if the woman is over 32. Some men fear the "baby's momma drama" Some may feel that when you introduce a kid in the mix, it may detract from the potential relationship because the kid has to come first.
The best thing you can do for yourself if you are a single mother is when you meet a man for the first time. Adhere to a 4 month rule before introducing any man to your child. This serves a dual purpose. You want to make sure you are not exposing your child to a potential creep and you develop a rapport with whom you are dating with to see if he is long-term potential.
2007-04-04 09:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who got married at 19, had a child when she was 20, and was divorced by 22. She had a hard time finding men around her age who were willing to date her, and most of them wound up at least in their late 20's or older.
I think it really depends on the the guy's age and his maturity level. I don't think a guy will think less of her, and if he does, then he's not the type of guy worth dating anyway!
2007-04-04 09:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by mymammoth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make a guy think less of you. Certainly not. However, some guys aren't ready for a family. When dating a single woman, he can "detach" if things aren't going well and not feel bad. However, a woman with a child is "probably" looking for a long term partner, marriage, and settling down. If a guy is ready for that, there is NO issues at all. However, if he's only looking for something short term, he may feel guilty about dating.
2007-04-04 09:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well let me tell you this I met a wonderful guy 5 years ago I had two kids already and he love me and my kids then and now,now we have two of our own 16 months and 4 months and we are a big happy family if someone loves you it don't matter but make sure he has much respect for your kids Good Luck!!!!
2007-04-04 09:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they will and I have seen some who had. I'm better at saying what to do if you're a GIRL dating a GUY with a kid, but it can be the same thing. As long as they aren't toxic for you, try it out. Give them a chance
2007-04-04 09:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by YinxSphinxmen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some will, some won't. Depends on the person. Try to find an older guy that already has children of their own or someone that loves children. Some men just don't want to be bothered.
2007-04-04 09:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by Angela F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would depend on the guy and the girl also. Does she have baby daddy drama? Is she expecting him to jump in and play daddy? Did her life stop when she had a child or did she continue with her education? Are they both mature enough to deal with the relationship? I personally don't date men with children because most of them have that baby mama drama.
2007-04-04 09:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm pregnant, and I am getting checked out by every guy that walks by me, I have never gotten that and I'm really attractive too, (sorry that sounds like I'm conceded), I think for a guy, it is sexy that a woman has a kid or is bearing a child, I don't know though, hopefully a guy will answer your question.
I don't think it matters...
2007-04-04 09:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋