This question is related to my previous question.
Most of my friends like to joke a lot. It's mean and harsh jokes. If someone say mean things to me, I don't know how to reply, I'll just get angry.
I just want to learn how to talk back to people and defend myself because I'm always too nice to everybody. How can I train myself to talk back to others?
2007-04-04 08:46:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are who you are, don't try to talk back. You'll want to do that all the time then. I'd rather have a girl who keeps to herself then one with a smart mouth. You don't know it but you're more mature than your friends. Keep it that way, don't stoop to their level.
You can always find new friends or walk away when they start talking about you. Good luck.
2007-04-04 08:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by David C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should never take crap from anyone that is mean and insulting.
You seem a little shy......this is ok but one day when things that people say to you REALLY gets you peeved you WILL do the right thing!
just straight out tell them "**** you" who do you think you are? Next time I hear that out of your mouth I'll punch it in for ya!
OR you can try and tell them that this hurt your feelings But really I think the first would be more constructive and show them that you won't take crap from anyone!
2007-04-04 15:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by leroux3s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to learn to talk back. They are doing that because they are cruel and insensitive. Be the bigger person and just ignore what they say. I know that can be hard, but if you try talking back...believe me, they are only going to come back at you stronger nd more aggressively. It is not a battle worth fighting. Nobody wins. But you'll get respect by showing them that you are not going to let them get to you like that.
2007-04-04 15:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could buy a joke book or watch Comedy Central on TV. But I would say just smile and say "don't you wish" or "get a life" or "build a bridge and get over it" or something else snappy. You don't need to be mean to people and it actually is not a good habit to form. Keep your nice self and be proud of who you are. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-04-04 15:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a bit of an introvert, so talking back has never been one of my best talents. But, I learned how to make people leave me alone and not even think about bothering me by showcasing my hidden confidence: when you walk, hold your head high and actually feel like you know what you're doing. People like to pick on individuals that they feel won't retaliate; they don't mess with the ones they think might strike back. so be confident!
2007-04-04 15:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by babyv6024 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off.. sounds like me, hard to "lighten up". I wouldn't recommend talking back, because then you lose your so called "friends" If you are taking their jokes offensively, let them know that you don't think that's very nice, and would appreciate it if they didn't joke like that. I know it sounds geeky, but it is better than talking back... Or you could learn how to joke back... my teacher told me to reply with a compliment or something positive, it throws people off after they say something mean to you. "Those pants really make you look fat!" and you respond "Wow... really, maybe I should go buy more! Thanks for letting me know!" You need to learn how to joke with them, not talk back... it's hard, trust me I know.
2007-04-04 15:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by Annie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously feel uncomfortable being around these people (that make you feel bad); you need to surround yourself w/positive influences and friends who you enjoy being around. Learning to talk back is not easy if you're shy (as you seem) but gets easier after each time you find the courage to stand up for yourself. Be straightforward - your jokes make me feel bad; please dont joke w/me in that way. If they're your friends they'll respect your feelings ;p
2007-04-04 15:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by ritzimiranda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is find new friends. If they are constantly being nasty and mean, they are not your friends. I find it easy to make a come back but, I am an extremely sarcastic person. I am training myself not to do this because it is mean and hurtful to the people I speak to. Don't lower yourself to their level instead tell them that what they are doing hurts you and just walk away. Trust me people who like to hurt you are generally insecure people who need to make themselves feel good.
2007-04-04 15:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practise. Truly. Think of a short but snappy answer and practise it until it comes naturally. Then if someone says something nasty, and you need a moment, ask them to repeat it, if you need a moment to collect yourself. And then come back with your comment.
And a good one is always to refer to the comment - say: why do you say that? It pins them down, which makes them uncomfortable.
So prepare yourself.
2007-04-04 15:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some comebacks from your friends. What do they normally say as comebacks? Start using their comebacks or similar comebacks back at them, and then they'll most likely stop. If they say you stole it, practice making up what you'd say next. Trust me, I have friends JUSt like that!
2007-04-04 15:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by ... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋