Just hoping for some opinions on this one...I have been invited to the baby shower of my husband's friend's wife, whom I have known for three years. To be clear, I can not stand this woman; she is cold, aloof, and more than slightly in love with herself. We have zero in common, and on the rare occasions when we have been forced to co-exist, you could have cut the awkward silence with a knife. Her shower is in 3 weeks at a resturant 30 miles away and I would honestly rather eat shards of broken glass than have to attend. To complicate matters, my husband seems unable to understand that the baby shower issue is a sensitive issue with me to begin with, as he had a vasectomy before we met and it is not likely that I will ever be able to have a child of my own...So, would sending a gift be enough? My sanity is at stake here!
2007-04-04 08:41:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
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Heavens yes! Do not attend that shower under any circumstances.
It's pretty clear you would not have an enjoyable time, and your husband's friend's wife probably would not want a moody you there anyway.
Send her a "congratulations" card, with a gift card inside it to whatever store she's registered at. Save yourself and her the grief of having to make nice over teensy outfits and stuffed animals.
2007-04-04 08:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time going to the baby shower of someone you can't stand. There is no reason you should feel obligated to go. Either make up some excuse, or just say you're sorry but you can't make it. I think sending a gift would be the right thing to do if your husband is good friends with this woman's husband.
2007-04-04 08:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly fine. I wouldnt go to a baby shower for someone I couldnt stand. And if he doesnt understand how sensitive it is for you ask him how hed feel if he really wanted a baby and then found out you had been fixed So to say. Id send maybe a gift card or something so that way I didnt even have to see her. Good Luck
2007-04-04 08:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your husbands friend that we are talking about here. If this friend of your husband is a verry good friend of his i would attend. Even if you dont like the person you may need a favor from her in the future & and it is likely that this means alot to your husband. If this is somthing that really is an issue with you then maybe talk with your husband and get his insight on the situation. Maybe he can help. Guys think diffrent then woman do.
2007-04-04 08:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jill knows best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sending a gift is enough. there are some people who's baby shower's I've had to go to and I can't stand them so I say I can't make it and just send a gift.
2007-04-04 08:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by Kayla L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh yes, just send a small gift and call it good! Baby shower attendance is not a requirement especially if she's not even tehcnically your friend!
2007-04-04 09:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Politely decline with a little white lie about a previous, unbreakable engagement. Then....send a gift ahead of time. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with this. It is polite, responsive, timely and a sanity-saver for you!!!
2007-04-04 11:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by diapercakesbybecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes. Send a gift and make plans to do something else. Now!! Don't even feel bad about it.
2007-04-04 08:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by Stephene 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sending a gift would be fine. No reason to upset yourself by going and hanging out woth her and her friends who are probably alot like her.
2007-04-04 08:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by FTB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sending a gift sounds good enough to me.
2007-04-04 08:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋