Which way is best?

Question

I'm getting very tired of being single and I was wondering. Is it better to just go up to a cute girl and talk to her out of nowhere or is it better to wait for a cute girl that comes along so that you can make friends and then work towards becoming more than friends? Whichever one you think is better, why? By the way, I'm in college, and I dont want to date just for fun. I mean, I do but the reason I date is to find a girl that I want to marry. I'm pretty mature for my age, 18, and I'm a decent looking guy. Most girls would wonder why I'm asking this but I've never had a girlfriend. I've just been on dates with girls that later tell me they have a boyfriend. Anyway, thanks for your opinion.

Answer 1

I would start by being a friend get out and meet people get to know them and then start dating I think friendship has to be first before you can go to the next step

Answer 2

let me tell you that you should wait for a girl to come along and get to know her first. if you like her than great go on another date and she where it goes. you gotta realize that you are only 18 years old. you are to young to be worrying about getting married. enjoy your life, you only live once. enjoy the college experiance and see whats out there. do your own thing before you get married. live life to the fulist.

let love come to you. take a break stop looking and love will find you. it may come right away or it might take a while but it will come. it will make you in the face when you least expect it. i am 19 and i felt the same way waitin for mr. right and from a girls point of view just wait. dont make urself seem desperate or a girl will walk all over you.

just take some time and wait. bealive me it will happen.

good luck and i hope i have helped in some way.

Answer 3

I think that you might want to wait if you're looking for someone to marry. You should work towards becoming friends first so you get to know the person and see what they're like if you're talking marriage. If you just want to fool around, then sure, just walk up to people. Aww, you've never had a girlfriend. The right one will come along.

Answer 4

i want the same thing but im only in highschol. it really sux that there isnt anyone that goes deeper than looks :-( what i think that u should do is find a girl that u would be interested in and then maybe introduce yourself and ask if shed like to go for pizza or a movie just as friends and do that weekly to get to know each other. i hope this helps, im a girl by the way and i this is what id want a guy to do. it shows that u have initative. good luck

Answer 5

Dude - you might be mature for your age (18) but believe me, you're way too young to be wife shopping.
Sounds like you might like a girl that's good looking, but also has a head on her shoulders. Do you belong to any study groups? Maybe you should start one, and be sure to include some girls your interested in your classes. This will be a good lead in, and way to scope them out before you just walk up to someone and make an *** of yourself. Make friends first! Friendship can lead to other things, and it's a great network for meeting other girls!
I was in some study groups, and it was a blast! We'd get our work done and then go out and party together. It was a great way to make friends.

Answer 6

I think like you! But is too early to think about marriage!! You must meet new girls and then you will find the right one.
My friends says that i´m pretty mature too (i´m 17) because I want find a decent guy and I don´t date just for fun... I want find the true love.
Anyway, we´re very young and we must live our lifes!

Kisses!

Answer 7

I'd say go for it. Try to meet people and make the effort. If marriage is your goal, then you should treat it like one and work toward it like you would any other goal. You might want to consider eHarmony.com or something similar that will match you up with people in your area that are compatible with you. Its a great way to meet people who are also looking to meet people. That's how my best friend met her husband of two years. If you don't end up finding a mate, at least you'll have made some new friends.

Answer 8

You are wrong: don't stay willing things. If you stay willing, you will loose opportunities. Get the girls around you now. Your will get experience. And experience, about this, is very important. Perhaps you go chaning the girl. Each time, a more beautifull than the last one. Don't worry about getting married. The best thing to do is not loosing opportunities. Try don't like much the girl. Liking means suffering all times. When you thing you found ''the one'', say that to her.

Answer 9

You have to go out there and get the girl. Its impossible to think that if you wait long enough, someone will show up at your dorm/apartment door.

Going up to girls and approaching them is attractive to them. It shows confidence and that you aren't intimidated to ask them out. Waiting for someone to come up to you does not display confidence.

You know that if you find a girl that you are really into, you will ask her out. So, go do it. Forget trying to turn a friend into a potential girlfriend down the road.

If most of the girls you date later suddenly come up with a boyfriend, then that is another situation to improve.

Answer 10

Don't marry the first girl who goes out with you, and doesn't have a boyfriend. That would be a monumental mistake. It's hard to ask a girl when you don't know her, or some of her mates. My take on socialising is to buy everybody drinks. Once they get to know you and your warm personality. The rest is easy. So buy, buy, buy. There will be time for genuine discussion when you get to know some of them.

For Hearts, you're a ********. Give the man a chance.