Why do some parents treat their daughter different then their son?

Question

like for instance the girl cant be outside late but the boy can come in any time they want to i think that is not fair at all

Answer 1

Sometimes sons are treated differently than daughters in different cultures, sons and daughters can have different places, expectations or meanings within the family.
But here, in Western societies, parents sometimes give sons more freedom than their daughters, because they feel they don't need to protect their sons, and they feel they need to protect their daughters. There are a lot of bad things that can happen to guys and girls outside of the home, and not all bad things happen at night either.
I think the more responsible you are the more freedom you should get, regardless of your sex.

Answer 2

I actually learned about this recently in a Psychology class. Something like 75% of all parents to be still hope their first child is a boy. I think it has more to do with the ability to protect oneself in difficult situations. Parents often assume that a boy could handle himself better than a girl could if someone tried to hurt them. Not always true and I know I won't be that way because my little boy is my only boy and he is a Momma's boy all the way.

My oldest daughter is very naive so I worry about her a lot but my 2 year old, she is as tough as nails and I can guarantee I won't worry about her near as much as I will my son. My son is gentle and loving and kind, he is an angel in so many ways (the girls are too, don't get me wrong) but he is like an old soul and I worry about him a lot more.

It's all about the parents perspective. Boys tend to be more indpendant and physically strong and even psychologically boys tend to mature mentally a little faster than girls. A boy also can't go out and get pregnant like a girl can. He can get someone pregnant but it's not your baby girl coming home knocked up.

Answer 3

I think it's because parents want to protect their daughters from harm because they are girls, but they figure the boys can fend for themselves at a certain age. However I agree it's a double standard. I know several girls who are much tougher than boys and could kick some serious butt if they had to. The double standard has been going on since the beginning of time. If you want to change your parents you might have to prove yourself more that you are trustworthy and can stay out as late as a boy. Yes, it's unfair and it's lame - but your folks are just trying to protect you.

Answer 4

They don't all. My parents didn't. There were 5 of us and we were treated the same--the expectations were the same, the chores were the same, the sports opportunities were the same. I played basketball and my parents would take the whole family to away games, even. The educational expectations were the same. We all went to college. As far as dating and freedom, I don't recall any differences. We were so college oriented, none of us really dated much as teens. They kind of did my sister and I a disservice in many ways, because we were completely unprepared for the social biases against women in our society.

Answer 5

It's about protection of their little princess. Boys tend to get a longer leash. I know it doesn't seem right, but It's done out of love. I think this is a little old fashioned, I have both boys and girls and treat them very much the same in this regard. (Or try to anyway) I think these days you really have to watch all of your children like hawks! House rules should be house rules for all.

Answer 6

Because they think boys can't get hurt but i have seen on the news that a boy got stabbed and also read in the news paper that a man of 21 years old got raped but saddely boys don't get warned about it as much as girls. Because parents think that boys can defend them self better but there is always someone stronger.

Answer 7

This is what my mom said to me when I was a teen complaining about the double standard. She said, "If you see a young girl with a big, pregnant belly walking down the street, you are going to think certain things about her. It's not right, but it's a startling sight to most people, so it's instinctive. Now a day later you see the father of that baby, and he's just another anonymous guy. He gets the benefit of the doubt of being a decent human being because his private life isn't visible on his body. That's the way God made people, it's not fair, but it's still true."

So why should girls be treated differently? Because 1. girls can get pregnant 2. girls can be raped 3. girls can be emotionally violated and traumatized in many more ways than boys 4. girls can be physically violated and traumatized in many more ways than boys 5. girls have a MUCH higher transmision rate for STD's and AIDS than boys because during sexual intercourse, girls are more likely to experience microscopic cuts where body fluids can be exchanged then are boys 6. society continues to judge female sexuality much harsher than male sexuality.

None of these reasons is fair. But they are still true.

Answer 8

Daughters must be treated fairly but not the same as sons...
Sons are not subject to the same level of danger as daughters.

Answer 9

girls are more vulnerable to sexual predators and can't defend themselves as much. It isn't fair but that could be a reason why. Also...age difference could make a difference.

my dad is very protective of me and not my brothers just because i am the only girl and he knows whats going through guys's minds because he once was one. It's only a protection thing.

Answer 10

I don't know but it wont change. I'm 30 and my parents still dote on my brothers and treat me like garbage.