Been in this relationship for about 3 months.. I only told him that I loved him only because he brought up the fact that he thought I was falling in love with him. I have to add that we have known each other for 2 years and that I started to have feelings about a year before we started this relationship together. So obviously, my feelings are more developed than his I guess... But crap.. I really don't understand any of this. This is only the 2nd relationship (seriously..it is) that I have ever had.. my other one was 20 years long.. So I am not too "worldly" when it comes to things like this. Am I looking to much into it?
2007-04-04 07:51:58 · 13 answers · asked by SF49erGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just give it a bit more time..maybe he is scared he will get hurt again.
2007-04-04 07:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's told you how he feels. He cares for you a lot, but isn't at the point yet where he can say he loves you. Just enjoy the relationship and stop analyzing all the details. You've only been dating for 3 months and it's not that surprising that he's not ready to say he loves you. Just give him some time without pressure. When he falls in love with you, he'll tell you.
2007-04-04 07:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one wants to be SURE this one will last forever. But, you know that people can change. How long is forever?
Well, 20 years seems like forever to some people. I'd say you have more reasons to want that second look at the relationship than he does. So, maybe he thinks something that you've lead him to believe: you're desperate to be back in a permanent relationship. Hearing it that way, do you wonder at him pulling back on the reins a little?
Let it rest. Give him reason to believe you are more comfortable with him as a person now and less worried about him as the key to the rest of your desperate life.
Most people like to know that they are needed, but shy away when the other is desperate about that need. They start to doubt they can meet those heightened expectations. Let it rest. Have the fun you've earned in your life.
2007-04-04 08:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that means to say that he's got reservations for someone else. I am sorry to say but this is how I feel. If he cares deeply for you, then you're as good as friends only.
If I were you I would not be expecting too much out of this 'caring' relationship. Two years is a lot of time to sort out his feelings.
You might as well, look for someone else, if not wait till someone else comes to you by fluke.
2007-04-04 08:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by oscar c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cares for you as a friend but isn't in love with you.
2007-04-04 07:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I amnot crazy with him bringing up the idea that you are falling in love with him rather then him bringing up his own feelings...I think that's shady. Like he was testing the waters....to be honest, it sounds like he is just not as serious as you are.
So I would just take a step back and slow it down..... no more talk of love or falling in love and see if he takes a step toward you. If he continues to be ambiguous about his feelings, I would take a close look if this is the kind of relationship you want to be in.
2007-04-04 07:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg...your story reminds me of mine! ... look my bf told me that he cares deeply about me too but doesn't love me yet. at first i didn't understand but then i realized that it takes time, don't rush into anything girl. I also was kinda disappointed when he told me he just cared & really liked me alot...and we've been together 8 months...sometimes it takes longer for a guy to fall...or maybe he just hasn't realized that he loves you yet....guys are simple minded creatures...and they dont really pay attention to that kind of stuff like women do...we're more observant cuz we're more complex creatures & we're more intouch with our emotions. But just wait the time will come when he will tell you that he loves you...good things come to those who wait
2007-04-04 08:00:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him what he means. Put him on the spot. Ask him do he luv u or "care'' for u.
2007-04-04 08:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just needs more time, that's all. Give it to him too. Don't pressure him to say, the L word.. Scary to even say it.. :)
2007-04-04 07:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have patience, as you stated you started first feeling for him.
let him fall for you at his own pace. rushing him into anything won't help your relationship get any better than it is now.
just enjoy what you both have for now. and try to keep your feeling in check, give him time to catch up.
2007-04-04 07:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Means he likes you.. but he dosent like you that much (at present, that could change but its not there right now)... YUP yer "looking to much into it" as you put it.
3 Months? thats not a relationship, thats still Dating Phase LOL (or it should be IMO)
2007-04-04 08:06:22 · answer #11 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋