I know the Bible tells believers not to be "unequally yoked" with unbelievers. However, my boyfriend, who is a Christian, is willing to give us a try despite me being a Buddhist because he thinks God will eventually show me the right path.
Do you think he is displeasing God by dating me? I am a good person and I am open to change my mind if God proves me wrong. Plus, we have been getting roadsignals all over.
What do you guys think?
2007-04-04 07:39:13 · 28 answers · asked by G 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
BTW, Buddha is not a god, or God, neither did he ever pretend/said he was. He was just a regular human being that attained enlightment and gave some advice on how to live happy.
2007-04-04 07:54:50 · update #1
He should love you for who you are and not want to change you (nor should he want god to change you). He may be in love with an ideal form of you that doesn’t actually exist.
My husband is Christian, but his beliefs are such that he doesn’t believe I will burn in hell for my atheism nor does he believe I deserve it.
Your Buddhism is beautiful. Don’t change unless it's for you.
2007-04-04 07:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by A 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
God loves you regardless of your faith or lack of it. Perhaps he has something special in mind for you. If your boyfriend has prayed over this question, God has or will answer him. By the way, "being unequally yoked" does not mean that Christians can not associate with non Christians. Jesus did it all the time himself. It means that we should take care not to take on the same beliefs or sometimes actions as that non Christian person does.
2007-04-04 07:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deke is absolutely spot on. Reread his comments, please.
As a, ahem, mature woman, all of my experience says that his attitude is disastrous for a relationship. He's assuming that you will convert, that you'll see the light and do things his way. That's not an equal or healthy grounding for a relationship. That attitude will come up in other issues as well. You, and anyone else, deserve better.
Personally, I think that your best course here is to be good friends with him, but to date other people. If you still want to be together in a few years, you'll have that much more certainty that your relationship is strong enough to withstand the difficulties his faith will brings to it and the maturity and experience to better cope with them.
2007-04-04 07:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can judge what I think by reading ny own case. My wife has been a strong practicing Lutheran from infancy. I have been a non-believer since I was about twelve,
In the fifty-three years of our perfect marriage,I have incouraged her to attend church service. More and more, she started missing, now she's as much of a non-bepiever as I.
Individual beliefs should have no effect on a marriage if neither attempts to force his beliefs on the other. If one or the other is a died-in-the-wool religious person, there can be real problems.
2007-04-04 07:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should date a person just because they are on some personal crusade to 'save' people. What arrogance. No one person's approach to God is absolute. There are many paths to God. God pretty much likes them all as long as they include being kind, understanding and tolerant toward others. Respect for you as a person, as a whole person, including your religion is something this boyfriend apparently doesn't have. You didn't set out to make him a Buddhist did you? He really has no right to come into your life and tell you that your way to God is wrong. Just an opinion, but I'd drop him, not because of his faith, but oddly enough for his lack of it. Bless you and good luck.
2007-04-04 07:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by teacupn 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It won't work. You can't change anyone's mind but he can pray for your eyes to be open.
To be unequally yoked is bad news for a Christian and if you guys ever contemplate marriage it can be disastrous.
If you are not willing to try Christianity, hey let the guy go.
2007-04-04 07:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
God has instructed us to not be unequally yoked. At this moment in time you are not yoked according to God.
You both need to examine your spiritual salvations. I am Christian so I don't believe that Buddha is God....he is a god, but not THE God. The God of the Bibile instructs us in his commandments to have no other gods above him and that He is the only God. Buddha is a god, notice the lower case on the "g" It appears to me that either the God of the Bible is calling to you to come to Him OR you really think this guy is the one and you want to please him.
If it is the latter then you need to leave him but if you are hearing a calling to repent and come to God then you need to follow your conscience.
God doesn't need to prove you wrong though.....search Him out and you will prove Him right.
You will be in my prayers.
2007-04-04 07:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sheree H 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It depends. Do you want to be a missionary project? Do you want to have your religion waved in your face during every argument? Do you want conflicts when you have kids? Or do you want to be an equal in your relationship?
I'm not saying that all Christians will treat you like you're unequal, but it really sounds to me like this one is. Anyone who thinks they're doing you a favor by going out with you is *bad* news.
2007-04-04 07:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my personal opinion is that u ask ur bf to pray about the situation and see if it really is the will of God. I'ts really hard to have a decent relationship with two people of different faiths but if your open to change then like i said pray and seek Gods will. look into his religion a little more before you start to date to confirm with yourself whether or not you really are open to change.
2007-04-04 07:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetn_sour16 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend needs to examine his beliefs. It's never a good idea to start a relationship with the expectation that you'll change the other person.
If you're willing to put up with it and smile, then you have more patience than I would. Personally, if I was dating a woman whose goal was to convert me to her religion... I would let her know that it isn't going to happen, and if she didn't respect my choice, and kept on trying, it'd be over.
2007-04-04 07:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by Eldritch 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is not a good thing to date someone who is wanting to change you or waiting for you to change. I am a Christian and can not understand why your boyfriend thinks this is a good idea and I do not understand why you would find his statements a secure place to put your trust. It sounds like you are both asking for trouble. Someone is going to get hurt, because you are both gambling on your boyfriend seeing the changes he is looking for.
2007-04-04 07:52:27 · answer #11 · answered by shirewyn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋