Regardless of what loose society says, today - it is good and important to keep your virginity until marraige. Having sex before marraige, with more than one person, or with any other than your spouse - is sin. I know that we like to be liberal and are coming to hate the sound of truth - but it is the truth. And truth is timeless. It never changes. Keeping your virginity is not an abstract thing. And frankly - it isn't really for your future-husband's sake, as much as it is, having a love and conscience toward God, then yourself. You are too valuable, and your intimate gifts, too precious to defile by sharing it loosely. Saving yourself is called that, for a reason. You spare yourself emotionally, preserving your soul. You maintain your value, inwardly - and to others, by being chaste. Nevermind saving yourself STD and pregnancy issues. When you share yourself with someone - you are giving a piece of yourself, and are sharing the most intimate bond. You become tied on some level, emotionally. Add various partners, and you can see where that goes. It can get very messy. This is how we end up with desensitized, angry, bitter, or emotionally damaged people. You want to have something to give your future husband, that no one else has ever had. That is part of the magic of marraige. It wards against trust issues, among many others. Please think long and hard about this. While you can always change for the better - once you've given it away, it is gone forever. This will change you, and you won't like it. You may think me wrong, now - but later you'll realize what I mean. Remember that, and take care of yourself, precious.
2007-04-04 07:16:01
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answered by Anonymous
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It depends upon where you live and how you feel about the issue.
I have crossed 36 but am still a virgin because I want to do it the first time only on my wedding night though I know my wedding is still not round the corners.
The thing is your conscience should not pinch you for having done or not done it and whatever your decision and action, don't hide it from your husband. At least this he deserves to know and if you prefer not to wait and he has other ideas then at least he will have the choice of not marrying you not because you come out bad but because your set of values orexpectations don't match.
For the rest the choice is yours completely. Don't do something that makes you tell lies.
Your decision and actions should not affect your and anybody alse's life.
Hope, you you take decision prudently, whatever it is.
2007-04-04 07:15:44
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answered by sanjay 4
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Virginity doesn't hurt your social life, anyone that tells you otherwise is trying to get you in bed or trying to asuade personal guilt.
If I could go back in time, I would not have had sex yet. It wasn't worth it (I didn't catch anything).
There could be an argument that virginity is like the safety seal on goods. You are reasonably assured that the contents hasn't been tampered with.
But as long as you practice safe sex and get tested regularly you should be fine.
2007-04-04 07:09:05
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answered by Reformed Nice Guy 5
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2016-11-07 05:18:12
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answered by ? 4
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Everyone should decide this for themselves. Don't let society pressure you either way on it- if you feel the time is right to do it, then do it. If you want to wait, then wait. Nobody can judge us except the man upstairs, and what with the war and all, He probably has more to worry about than whether you lose your V-card. Just wear protection, OK?
2007-04-04 07:08:17
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answered by fizzygurrl1980 7
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virginity is just a personal thing. if you care you care if you don't you don't. now a days it is quite rare that people are virgins out of high school, much less college, which would be even more rare that they are virgins by the time they walk down the aisle. in short, there are people who are celebit till marriage, but chances are slim that you will find one. personally i don't care, there past is their past, and i would just make sure they don't have a disease and move on from there.
2007-04-04 07:08:03
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answered by melloncollieromance 3
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This all depends on you. My virginity never effected my social life. Then again, neither has me not being a virgin. And as for "is it bad" it depends on what your religious and moral views are. i don't believe that it is "bad," because I think that as long as you're in love, it's okay. And it depends on what kind of guy you're planning on marrying (or if you're a guy, what kind of girl you're planning on marrying) No matter what, you should marry someone who can accept you for who you are. Virgin or not.
2007-04-04 07:07:36
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answered by kasi 3
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i wish i was still a virgin i was proud to say i was. people kept guessing in school whether or not i was, but when i told them i was they didn't believe probably because i had alot of male associates. but i was a virgin until 4 months till a graduated from high school. damn i wish that i would have waited unleast until i graduated from college or eventually got married. be a virgin is like saying you have something everyone wants but not just anyone can get it.
2007-04-04 07:11:50
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answered by stacy 2
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I think that it is as important as you make it. If you put it up on a pedastal then that's where it will be and you may regard it as being more important than it actually is. WHen you find the right person you will know and then it suddenly won't matter anymore.
2007-04-04 07:07:58
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answered by karastin 2
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depends on the guy....a virgin is not going to be good in bed, so a guy would have to teach her everything and if she starts to like it she may want to investigate other options, so it really could backfire.....i lost mine real young, early teens, and am dating a girl who lost hers around 18. While i dont like the idea of my girl having been with other guys, we are open about it and there is no reason to be jealous about the past. We have a great sex life. Again, depends on the guy, but if you want to have sex and arent morally against it, try it. Itll be better for any guy your with in the future.
2007-04-04 07:07:54
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answered by Sean G 3
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