i just turned 20 a day ago and this guy i like is either going to be 26 or 25 , either way it's a huge gap, i mean i just turned 20 and i am not even 21 and he's old enough to drin
2007-04-04 06:48:27 · 22 answers · asked by amanda 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I dated a guy under the exact same circumstances. I think it is perfectly fine. I agree with an earlier post that you may feel left out at times, but once you turn 21 no one will know the difference.
Just stay true to yourself and you'll be fine. Good Luck!
2007-04-04 12:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by *ames* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not too much of an age difference. I'm 25, and honestly, I wouldn't feel anything bad about dating a 20 year old. It's really about how mature both of you are, and how well you both go together as a couple. Don't let the age difference alone keep you guys from having a relationship.
However, if he ever wants to go out for drinks, or something like that, you might feel a little left out. But hey, only one year left until your old enough for that stuff. And besides, you could always sip on a Coke while he has something alcoholic.
2007-04-04 06:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by I'm Still Here 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I think that's fine. I'm 23 and my bf is 29. The great thing about older guys is that they have had a few girlfriends and know the things to do right, like communicate and surprise you with things. The mature ones also know how to be a gentleman.
On the other hand, watch out for yourself. There are a lot of older guys who would love to take advantage of a sweet young thing. Make sure he's seriously into you before you let things go too far. You could very possibly end up with a broken heart.
2007-04-04 09:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by rosiecotton19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although compatability is mostly based on personality, a big age gap can stunt a relationships growth. There are quite a few differences between you and a 26-year-old. Life experience, relationship experience, education, etc. However, if the two of you get along and take things at a respectable pace [and you don't let him pressure you], things could work out for the best! Just proceed with caution and keep your best interest in mind.
2007-04-04 07:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by mochi mochi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably ... that is a very crucial age of transition ... you might be in college, while he's been out for a few years in the real world ... if not, he's probably got much more of a dose of the real world than you.
You can date him for a little while, but don't be upset if he breaks your heart. If he's into going out, he may leave you home a lot since you are not even 21.
If he was 30, and you were 25, I'd say definitely okay, but these ages are crucial.
But good luck in whatever you decide to do!
2007-04-04 06:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by Reserved 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how mature the two of you are.
At 20 I would've dated a 25/26 year old. At 22 I would date a 28/29 year old.
2007-04-04 06:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by notsoswan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I f the criteria is solely based on his ability to drink and you not being able to drink with him, then get someone your exact age. I was 15 years older than my wife when I married her, and we were together and happy for 43 years. Of course, you have another option.Grow up. I'll bet that when you hit 30, you will be staying at age 29 as long as you can. Age has very little to do with gf bf..Does he care about you, is he courteous to you, does he treat you with repect. Those are the important things that matter, Not a 6 year difference in age.
2007-04-04 07:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's look at it this way . . .Ask yourself this question: Why would a 26 year old man think a 20 year old is mature enough for a relationship? If this seems an odd question, would you, at 26 think a 20 year old boy is mature enough for you? Another good question to ask of yourself is this one: If I had a 20 year old daughter, would I want her to date this 26 year old man who can go into places she cannot or could introduce her to things she is not ready to handle?
Just making you think like a 30 year old.
smiles, PollyAnna
2007-04-04 07:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by pollyleft360 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's more about "Lifestage" than age. If he is divorced with kids for example and you are a student, the gap is wide. If you are both single, never married with a fair amount in common, it might be a good fit...women are still usually more mature than men at 20, so a 20 yo female and 26 yo male are probaly a decent match.
2007-04-04 06:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you have to ask, then you already know the answer. You are an adult, not legally so for drinking, but you are an adult. If you do not feel comfortable in this relationship for any reason at all, end it or keep it casual until you are older and have had time to think things through. Drinking age has nothing in common with maturity.
2007-04-04 08:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by teacupn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋