My grandmother moved in with us and it will be 2 years she has lived with us in September. My grandma left her house to us and it was in shambles. Things were all over the place there was bearly a hallway to walk in. Dust was everywhere and we had to clean it out (luckily we had the help of my aunt). When cleaning it out we found all these new things that had never been used. 15 sets of dishes, 20 pots and pans, 100's of clothes, and so on. Now that my grandma has moved with us it's the same thing again. She has at least 3 packages a week coming to his house and her room is full of boxes with things she has yet to use. My father's stepfather left her with 13 houses and she has no money whatsoever from that. She just charges everything which is going to be a problem because when she goes my parents might have to pay off the charges. Is there some sort of person we can get to manage her money for her?
2007-04-04 06:37:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get this my grandma's cousin is over right now and she saw UPS delivering a package so she went to go get it. She brings the package in and my grandma acts all oblivious and goes who's that package for? I mean she knew my family doesn't order anything and have it shipped like she does. I think she is just in denial.
2007-04-04 06:39:40 · update #1
How would you tell someone I think you need to go get help? She is 85 years old and she doesn't leave the house often maybe 5 times a month at the most because she can bearly walk.
2007-04-04 06:48:55 · update #2
Mrs. Brewer, Sorry I don't think I made it clear but she sold all 13 of the houses and has no money to show from that sale.
2007-04-04 06:51:02 · update #3
First of all, I would have her psychologically evaluated. Hording is often a sign of mental disability. And yes, if you have her declared mentally disabled, you can have a power of attorney appointed to manage her affairs. Contact a lawyer.
2007-04-04 06:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by leaptad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a money manager, or an Estate Trustee. She needs to unload those properties and stop letting her order whatever it is she is ordering. It sounds like she is probably sickly, if that is the case your family as the caregivers need to lay down the law. If she doesn't like the smart suggestions of simplifing her belongings, properties and other worldly possesions for the time when she will no longer be around, then she has other mental problems. Usually an elderly person does not want to burden anyone and all this excess is burdening you, your parents, etc., maybe convince her to sell most of the properties (just keep the one house for her piece of mind) and limit her spending to only things she REALLY needs.
2007-04-04 13:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grandmother is demented. She should see a physician about her mental status, you might start with a doctor who is a geriatric specialist. You can't let her go on like this. She is definitely a hoarder. If she is buying stuff like this, you may need to take the credit cards away from her right away. She may put up a fuss, but you need to remember she is not in her right frame of mind, and you need to do this to protect her as well as your parents. She definitely needs a psych evaluation asap.
2007-04-04 13:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grandma has mental health problems and the only responsible thing to do is to get her help. I've seen this on Dr. Phil several times. It's called hoarding.
2007-04-04 13:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should consider getting a conservatorship over her estate (finances). That would remove her from power and she could no longer do harm to her financial situation.
One of you relatives or a professional fiduciary/conservator can hold this position.
2007-04-04 18:40:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad needs to take her to the doc. There is something serious going on here. If she is declared incompetent because of whatever is going on with her (emotionally, physically, or mentally), your father can make her financial decisions for her.
2007-04-04 13:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents need to talk with her about this and if it doesn't work, one of them can try for Power of Attorney. She is obviously dementiated and will continue to do this until someone steps in. Good luck.
2007-04-04 16:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like a mix of hoarding and stress. hoarder constantly collect and put things around and fail to use them. people can develop the syndrome from stress and other things in their life. i think that you should not give her the abilities and allow her to buy things herself, like keep the phone off limits to her when she wants to buy things, and take her to therapy to sort out the hoarding issues.
2007-04-04 13:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be the beginnings of Alzheimer's, it sure sounds like that. My husband's grandmother was the same way.
2007-04-04 14:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by suki's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
amanda you should move out i would lived you too
2007-04-04 15:23:22 · answer #10 · answered by ilovedadq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋