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we have been dating for about 7 months,he has mental stimulation...I cant tolorate to be around him but for so long before I get irratated and Im sure it goes both ways.Ive tried to break it off but he shows up at my home wanting to talk about the situation. I even think he follows me from time to time. I dont really know what i want or see in him other than physical pleasure these days, He also tends to make me feel older than I am and act older which aint going to fly because the reason he's sprung is my spirit.. I really enjoy the time spent,Im confused and dont really know what to do here.... any advice?

2007-04-04 06:26:10 · 25 answers · asked by tavia20019 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

well those are all questions I have told myself too,i thanks you all for the feed back...

2007-04-04 07:39:55 · update #1

well those are all questions I have told myself too,i thank you all for the feed back...

2007-04-04 07:40:17 · update #2

25 answers

Tavia you already know that you've had enough of this male...apparently in the beginning he had something to offer that you wanted...not saying that you a gold digger or anything like that...but it was something that made you agree to date him. Maybe he was good in bed...or great with gift giving...whatever it was...you sound as if...you've gotten enough of it and you don't want to continue turning into an old maid before your time. When your ready to call it quits you will....but one thing to consider...most older males who date younger women can sometimes become a little too controlling...and when the relationship is over they don't handle it too well. So be careful and find the time to let him know that you need to move on...tell him that YOUR not good for him and that you don't want to bring him down. Tell him he deserves someone that he can eventually just retire with or whatever...the thing is...let him down slowly and make it seem as if its....me...not you...lol..lol...its the best way to end a relationhip or to get rid of a stalker.

2007-04-04 06:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well, even though she's older, that doesn't necessarily mean that you can't date. If it were a 32 year old man and a 21 year old woman, no one would even hesitate to encourage the relationship. If you're mature enough to be with someone who has responsibilities that you dont, like her son, it's alright. But keep in mind, you are too young to be a father to her child if that's part of the deal. Have him call you Uncle Ashton... or Uncle Jason, lol.

2016-05-17 05:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

I would tell you to break it off but if he's following you around, he most likely won't take it lightly. You're young though, so if it aint love, dont waste your life on someone that old. Don't let him trick you into thinking you're in love either. Chances are, since he's older, he's more likely to get attached than you are. He sounds like a potential stalker so that's obviously unhealthy. Basically, staying in the relationship is not a good idea.

2007-04-04 06:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by Rae G 2 · 0 0

Be firm. Tell him you are not "Ready, willing, or able to continue this relationship". End of story. You need to be blatant and firm to get it through his head.

When he comes over, don't let him in. Tell him you are on your way out for an appointment and then leave. Say it like you mean business, don't dilly dally around. Go. Or tell him you are expecting company, no need to tell him who. If you smell any sign of physical violence at all, get yourself some help from authorities. If he threatens you in any way, don't wait to wake up hurt or worse, be smart, protect yourself.

I've been in these. You have to be street smart when dealing with someone who won't take no for an answer. 21 years is fun for awhile, but not for a long term relationship. They rarely succeed.

Find someone who is your ideal and don't settle for any less than you want in a relationship. That will help avoid future failures.

Good luck!

2007-04-04 06:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by mim 6 · 0 0

If you can't stand him after awhile break it off. He kinda sounds a little nuts, following you around... If your with him just for physical pleasure, I'm sure you can find some one that won't die in a couple years and you could probably stand to be around them, that can give you as much pleasure or more...longer

2007-04-04 06:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Josh G 2 · 0 0

so he's about 47 right?

you know, from the way you described it, even being 21 years YOUNGER,
you are so much more mature than him.

I've always beleiived there to be no age in love. If it is pure, but you gotta know when it's purely sexual, or not.

Tell him it just won't work, he is not what you're looking for. And if he goes crazy, then take it to the law.

2007-04-04 06:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by danksprite420 6 · 0 0

your just growin up so you want a guy who knows what hes doin and
you want a romantic and there is none your age
at least that you can find
but you should move on cause if he is actin like a stalker than you dont need him.
but AGE doesnt matter.

2007-04-04 06:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by Livin by each second 2 · 0 0

Hey girl... are you crazy ? do you really think its going to work out ? NO... I mean it.. you belong to two different generations. he would never understand you. for physical pleasure you dont need anything than stick shift. I would say maximum 10 years apart. But from your story, he definitely does not speak your language.

2007-04-04 06:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by LabradorRetreiver 1 · 0 0

Wow. It's a little freaky that he follows you. I'm sure you can find a younger guy who you will actually enjoy spending time with. Good luck!

2007-04-04 06:32:34 · answer #9 · answered by swimmer2 2 · 0 0

I know what you mean I date older men and sometimes they can get very controlling or start making you feel like they are trying to mold you into something your not....I think you need to sit him down and just let him know how you feel about your relationship ....Good Luck

2007-04-04 06:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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