My daughter gave our number to a little girl in her class. Now this little girl is calling 2-3 times a day. Recently, the girls mom asked (over the phone)if the girls could have a play date at their babysitters house. I said I didn't feel ok with that because I had never met the babysitter or the mom. This woman then went on to tell me her whole life story and about a messy custody battle and how the girls dad is always trying to nab her from school, and that the girl needs a play date. I said the girls could play at my house. So she did. But then the woman asked to have them at her house one day and I said maybe.The following day my husband went to get her from school to find this lady leaving with our daughter. She tried to tell him that she had ok'd it with me, and she got miffed when my husband said she couldnt go. There's something fishy about this woman. Her little girl is very nice, but they seem very manipulative. If we dont answer when they call, they try again with blocked #.
2007-04-04 06:21:02 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
When it comes to your children manners and pleasantry can go out the window. I would not feel comfortable with this situation either. You should mention this to someone at your daughters school so they can make sure that other children are also not leaving with this woman.
It takes all kinds and somtimes we meet them.
if you like just talk to her and tell her that you have a very busy family life and dont have the time right now for pleasantries as family needs come first. Tell her that if things change you will contact her and not her to you. Tell her you are sorry to seem rude, but your family needs to be left alone.
Hope things get better and less worrysome. Oh ya, did you call the lady that day after you talked to your husband? i think i would have ripped a strip out of her.
2007-04-04 06:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds very serious. "This woman then went on to tell me her whole life story and about a messy custody battle and how the girls dad is always trying to nab her from school", then she tried taking your daughter.
Raises many questions, does she have legal custosdy. Is she wanting this really as a play date or give your daughter to her frieds dad or keep her as a "live in friend" for her daughter. This sounds scarey definatly notify the school of this so she doesn't try it again and contact missing children she if this little girl is not with the custody parent. Also, notify the police department and put a restaining order on this woman.
2007-04-04 06:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by 2shay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you should talk to the counselors at school about the little girl and the mother. But it sounds like she want s her daughter to have friends so bad. And also she might need a friend to. It sounds like you had already had you mind made up about her from the beginning. So you really don't know what she is like give her a chance invite her and her daughter over one day BBQ or something. Now don't let you daughter go anywhere with tell you feel safe about that. But if I were you try to get to know her it sound like they just need someone be there friend very badly.
2007-04-04 06:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by mysticangel23princess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that sounds really weird. First of all, you cannot have your child going to someone's babysitter's house without the sitter being the one to okay it. That makes more work for her and she needs to be okay with it. But if I were you, I would continue to look into the situation before I let my daughter go off with these people. If she is really persistent (and your daughter really wants to go), maybe you could go with your daughter and hang out with the mom for awhile and get a better understanding of the situation. However, I don't think you should let your daughter go by herself at this point, as it sounds like a volatile situation.
2007-04-04 06:29:21 · answer #4 · answered by maddie1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound very safe to me. I think you need to let the school know that your daughter can't leave with anyone but you without your express permission, for starters.
I also think that you need to have all your play dates with this child in public--the park, the library, etc until you know a little more about the family. This will protect both you and your child.
One reason she is so pushy may be that she thinks the father won't take the little girl if another child is there, but that is just so scary....
2007-04-04 06:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jensenfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust your motherly instinct! The fact that the girl's father is trying to nab her is a red flag that you don't want to put your daughter in that same danger. I know we don't want to look down on anyone and have prejudiced thoughts, but when it does concern your child's safety, who will blame you? Just tell the mother that you don't feel safe leaving your daughter at a stranger's house and leave it at that. She cannot try to bully you into doing something you don't want to do. The girls see each other at school, and when I was young, I never got to go out after. 8 hours a day at school together is sufficient in this instance.
2007-04-04 06:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by keonli 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would NOT be comfortable with that. I would sit down and have a talk with my daughter immediately about waiting for Mom & Dad, unless a teacher or principal says otherwise. At our school children that age have to leave with a parent unless the parent says otherwise in writing. Also discuss your concerns with the teacher so that they can hold onto her until one of you comes for her.
And frankly I would tell that other mother your rules flat out. Number one being, your child never goes anywhere without your direct consent. I would be LIVID. Change your phone number while your at it, and get privacy manager so that you cannot receive calls from blocked numbers.
2007-04-04 07:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This woman doesnt sound trustworthy especially since shes trying to take your daughter home with her without consulting you first. I wouldnt have a problem with my daughter going to a friends house with a mom like that as long as I was present also. You should probly just invite her friend to your house though and keep your daughter away from her house. Dont take chances with your daughter! If they keep harassing you by phone call the cops. And if she ever tries to take your daughter again call the cops also. Maybe they can charge her with attempted kidnapping or something.
2007-04-04 06:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is definitely wrong here. I'd get the police to check the woman out, she can't just take your daughter from school, then lie about being asked to pick her up. Tell the teachers not to let your girl go with anyone but you and your husband
2007-04-04 06:27:34 · answer #9 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would let the school that she is NOT to leave with this woman or anyone else for that matter! I am surprised the school was letting her go with her. Tell her how upset you were that she was going to take your daughter home with out your permission and tell her you dont feel comfortable with the play dates anymore. If she keeps calling back then block her # or just change your #
good luck and please tell the school about this
2007-04-04 06:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by samira 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋