just found out hes been cheating on me since october....and i found it out all by myself otherwise he would never have told me.i knew my instincts were correct...and he had told the girl i was his ex....and he had lied to her just like he lied to me the same story...he slept with her im so hurt....i cant believe it im in shock yet i knew all along...he was never worth it in the first place he had a temper issue but i never thought he wud cheat...
the only consolation for me is that the girl works with him and is now going to tell all the workates wat hes like and noweveryone hates him and hes too ahsamed to go back to work...the only thing is in front of her he admitted to her that he did love me and only me i wasthere too...
hes been caling me atleast 500 times leaving me texts saying how this has all been a big bang for him but he does love me etcetc i dont want him back i just want to move on but i cant i cry.we were together for 2 &half years, he got caught monday.wat do I DO?
2007-04-04 05:16:01 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Drop him like he's hot sista.
2007-04-04 05:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by woodynbabs 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get out and move on. If they cheated on you and carried on like that for so long why would you think he will change. He probable doesn't love you and if he does that is the worst way of showing it. You will probable never trust him again even if you love him and stay together. You will find yourself fretting at work, worrying all the time. Checking on him constantly. Trying to follow him and seeing what he is up to. You will live a life of worry and stress.
Sound's like your a good person and deserve better. Don't be hard on yourself he is the fool and the one who carried on. You didn't do anything to be ashamed of.
Some people are just like that and can't be committed to one person. It's just their nature. Guess it make's them feel better and some guys' just like to see a woman fight over them make's them feel more wanted I guess. Low self esteem
My first husband was like that, always had to be with another female. I never really knew or caught him but I suspected. Along with other problem's. I lived a long few year's of misery. Now I'm with a man I can really trust and let me tell you what a differance it can make in your life and happiness.
2007-04-04 05:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him and don't get all worked up because of him. Like you said he wasn't worth it in the first place and he certainly isn't worth it now. 2 1/2 years is a long time to be with somebody and to have it end like like this is terrible but don't let that fact override your feeliings of not wanting him back. If it was me I'd be happy that I found out now before things got extremely serious. In the future trust your instincts. The best thing that you can do is to continue to ignore his calls and texts and remain firm in your decision to leave and I think you'll be fine.
2007-04-04 05:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by dreamer.rc42 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that u know wots the rite thing to do here!! Ur womens intuition told u that he was cheating so it wont be wrong on the whole takeing him back thingy....wot im saying is.......
DONT DO IT!!!!
I don't know how u feel about this but I have found it a great healing process....revenge! It is sweet & it does help..
He has betrayed u & let u down soooo now its get ur own back time...ive read a few of the above answers & there good but u must have some piccies (nude r better)..print em off in to little A4 posters & stick em to lamposts etc,etc stateing that he is a cheat & to stay away..u can always add ur own bits in to (maximum embarresment)!!
Or just get ova him in ur own way...good luck darling.xxx
2007-04-04 06:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by bakebeanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you say you don't want him back & just want to move on, do just that. Tell him to leave you alone, it's over & since he was sleeping with this other woman for so long apparently he liked her more or he wouldn't have done it. Girl, move on. I know it hurts but the more days that go by the less you will think about it. Maybe he will regret it or feel like a jerk for what he did & realise he lost the best thing that ever happened to him.
2007-04-04 05:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by Tracy H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A few years ago My ex cheated on me with his ex. I took him back but I could never forgive or forget what he did. If I were you I would forget him. I know how hard it is and how much it hurts but if I could turn back time I would have walked away and left him. Be strong I know it's hard. At least people know what he is like. They will respect you more for walking away from him. I lost the respect of some of my collegues at work for being weak and taking him back. Trust me you won't regret getting rid of him. Please don't make the same mistake I did. There are many more fish in the sea cheesy as it sounds. Keep your head held high and don't give in to him. You deserve BETTER!!!!!!!!
2007-04-04 05:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he cheated sweetheart...and you feel like your whole world has just caved in around you...your stomache feels like it's been punched and the tears are none stop...you will get angry, you'll cry...and what for? because he is the one who's put you in this horrible situation because he is selfish and inconsiderate, he was not thinking about you when he was with this girl...so what does that tell you?....leave him NOW because believe me...he WILL do it again...you need to start focusing on yourself and map out a new future for yourself, leave him out of it, he does not deserve you and you do not deserve to be treated so badly...it's hard to get over some one you love but are you able to trust him again?...i mean he works with this girl and he will see her every day....don't just blame her, it takes 2...ok....? dump him and get rid of the hurt and anger, it's not healthy...if this is the first time someone has cheated on you, then it will feel much worse now, you'll have this experience to look back on if you meet someone else....it's hard t let go but please...for your own sake...let go....these people in here are giving you some great advice because they have been there and done that...so take their word on it....this time nex year you'll be wondering what all the fuss was about....stay strong and focused....do not seek revenge...it's only gonna prove that you can stoop lower than him, make the effort to go out and see people you have not seen in ages..get your life back on track...only you can make this happen hun...so count this as a blessing, imagine if you'd have had kids with him or got married, it would be 100 times worse than it is now.....think about it....do you want to be happy? if you do then leave him...he's not worth the tears....good luck
2007-04-04 05:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your head held high and carry on with your own life without him.
I had a similar thing with an ex of mine and I found out by accident and I didn't even suspect. We tried to make a go of it afterwards but it was the worst mistake of my life and I spent the next 2 years constantly thinking it would happen again. We split up and I found out afterwards by chance that for the last 6mths before we split he had been meeting someone regular and is now still dating them.
I was very upset at first even though we were going down the path of splitting up but I think I was more upset of being on my own and the fact that again I felt like a total fool. It's not easy I know but I got over it by keeping myself busy and seeing friends of mine and just talking it over and analysing it in my head.
About 3 months later I was fully over it, of course you have your down days and good days but you have to focus on what's best for you. At least you have the upper hand where it wasn't you that did this to your relationship.
2007-04-05 00:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had a problem with the guy and if he cheated on you than he is no good for you and it is wrong for someone like him to do such a thing to you so I would live him and start somewhere new or just stay single until you are ready to meet someone again or pray to god if you want someone new and he will do it but It won't be today or tomorrow but someone will come along and you can start again with a whole new life just you and the new guy that will meet
2007-04-04 05:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by Levi B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take some time out turn off your phone and let things die down for a while. He's feeling bad about it, but its too late, unless you really love him and are willing to forgive. You have said that its not what you want, so maybe this is a good time to concentrate on what you do want, to make yourself happy. Try and do that for yourself and have the confidence to be strong on your own for a while. When the time is right, you'll be more ready to find someone who is deserving of your love. x
2007-04-04 05:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by herbal ashtray 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband did the same thing and found out it had been going on for 2 yrs. He would do the same thing text me 800 times a day and call me, needless to say I took him back because he claimed all this love for me. Found out again it was going on and I divorced him. This is totally unfair. How can you just quit loving someone that you love so much? You need to understand this is not your problem it's his! He will do it again so don't every think in your mind he won't. I cryed the same way and finally went to my doctor about it. Good Luck.
2007-04-04 05:23:15 · answer #11 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋