I have a 2 yr old daughter and i just recently started working a full-time temp job. I am having withdrawls from my girl! I see her 3 hours every day, that's not right! When i walk in the door she gets so happy, she's even cried while laughing a couple times. I was going to work full-time, but this just isn't good at all!
I feel like changes should be made in the work world.....like a 40-hr work wk should not be mandatory for mothers with children who are not in school yet. Because i cannot find many jobs that would offer me hours like that!
2007-04-04 04:01:04 · 7 answers · asked by Kalinka 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
And yes, i am married. we just bought a house and we need to do a lot of work on it.
2007-04-04 04:48:14 · update #1
I have three kids, ages 7, 4 and 3 months. I'm back to working full time and it sucks. I wish I could stay home but I can't afford to.
You just learn to make it work.
Plus it is good for the kids to learn to socialize with their peers and get used to different people besides me taking care of them.
It still sucks though!!!
2007-04-04 04:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
They do it because they have no other choice. I finally had to go back to work when my oldest was 5 and my youngest was 16 months. It was horrible and I hated it, but we had no health insurance, but we made too much money to qualify for government aid, so I had to do it. Luckily I was able to find a job that allows me to work "school hours" and since both of my kids are in school now, I don't feel like I'm missing out so much. I wish that someone could pay women to be stay at home moms. I don't mean government aid, I just wish that more women could afford to stay home with their children. When I did stay home, we did without a lot of things like cell phones and eating out. You just can't really go without health insurance though.
2007-04-04 11:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sympathize with you. I was facing that a couple yrs. ago (I have a 2yr. old and a 10mo. old). But my husband saw how demanding a baby is and decided he would work overtime, or side jobs, whatever, just so I didn't have to. I'm blessed to have a man like that. I love being home with my boys, and can't imagine only seeing them a couple hrs. every night. Are you married? If you're single, I'm sure you don't have many other options but to work these hours. Alot of moms I know have started babysitting other kids in their home, just to make some extra money, and be with their own all day. If it's that big of a problem for your daughter and you, then I would suggest checking out every resource/option for working at home. Again I don't know if you are single, so it may be pointless for me to tell you what married moms do. My family had to cut back in all areas (we have 4 kids) for me to stay at home. We don't go out much, we shop thrift stores, we've just adapted to being "poor". Sometimes it sucks, but it's all worth my being able to raise my boys rather than a daycare doing it. Good luck, I hope you find a way to make this work.
2007-04-04 11:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well i know its hard. I have a six year old, and she was a toddler when i was going to school and working full time. I hardly saw her, but the couple of days off i would get in the week, I would take full advantage of. I know all you want to do is rest on your days off but i made activities for my daughter and i to do. Even if i had to get the house wrk done on my days off i would have her help, little girls love washing dishes and dusting so make it fun and sing songs while you do it. I know it sounds corny but it helps. It will get better, just gets some getting use to.
2007-04-04 11:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by dreaiscool20 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went back to work after my youngest son turned 3. The first few months were difficult, but I toughed 'er out. Now, I'm glad I did. I enjoy having a job, having my own money, and having some interaction outside of my home. Try and stick with it, it will get easier, and is really very rewarding.
2007-04-04 12:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would NEVER be able to leave my children, I really feel for you!!
What my husband and I do ... he works 7:30am and gets home around 4pm and then I take off and go work around 5:30pm till 2am. That way I still get to be w/ my girls during the day and I'm the one raising them!! And my husband gets his quality time w/ them while I'm at work.
If possible that's always an option OR you could see about working from home. Or you could see if you could work part time OR part time from home and in the work place.
Good Luck to you and I wish you the best!
2007-04-04 11:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by second time around 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's life, sad but true. On your days off just spend extra time with her.
2007-04-04 11:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by Spring loaded horsie 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋