we have fighting more and more..one of her kids is scared of me.. she will not tell me who..she told me that she loves me very much. but she will not have her kids scared of me.she feels bad about the way she treats me...she thinks that she is taking advantage of me in doing things.she is stubborn and big headed, i feel that she needs to give more in our relationship..she agrees ..but she doesnt know if she can.i do compromise in things.she thinks that i mumble about her when she walks away. but i dont.when she assumes i mumble she go berzerk.her sis told me that she is stressin money.. waitn on a suppoert check.she used to hold my hand, snuggle up with me,but now ... nada.she has told to grow up.she told me that i am very immature for her... then why am i still in the house. we r not married. she 35, i am 33.i adore her . i love her soooo much...what can i do?back off?
2007-04-04 03:48:51 · 10 answers · asked by country4skot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do i have a chance to b successful in this relationship? out of a 100 ?
2007-04-04 03:59:28 · update #1
i just back from being deployed... got a job...
2007-04-04 04:09:44 · update #2
i dont know what i did to scare her/him?her affection has changed .she wants to not touch her at all.. sex isnt on her mind at all.she says that i am needy.
2007-04-04 04:14:40 · update #3
Most important question is WHY are her kids scared of you? A good mother will choose her kids over anyone else. As for the rest, if stress is the only problem, just be patient and loving. Plus, just because you're madly in love with someone doesn't mean it will work or that you are right for each other. If there are serious problems other than the kids thing, you HAVE to communicate - both of you. If only one of you is talking it will not solve the issues. Take some time when she's in a good frame of mind and without distractions and talk about what you both want and need. If you do that and still nothing changes maybe you have to make some changes. Be willing to let go if its not going to work. No point in everyone being miserable all the time. Best of luck!
2007-04-04 03:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are a two way street. You both have to want it to work and you both have to be willing to do the work. There are always underlying reasons for a person's behavior. Look at what she's been through and that might help you understand a little better about why she's acting the way she is. Also look objectively at how you're acting and be brutally honest with yourself. Are you doing anything to contibute to her stress? What changed since you first got together that she's now not as affectionate as she used to be? Why is one of her kids scared of you? She's right to protect her children. There are a lot of adjustment issues in any relationship. If you truly want this relationship to work your best bet would be to get some kind of counseling for the both of you.
2007-04-04 04:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard decision, your feelings are evident 4 her, but what u must conclude with, is what is best in the future... Now it seems like things can't get better and it would be a lot easier to give up, but if there is a glimpse of hope at the end, maybe its worth toughing out.. look 4 signs of change and patterns of behavior. try to improve yourself first then, work on her. In time u will see if u guys can actually do this.
2007-04-04 03:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by Dre l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is pretty stressed out. Give her a massage, and be nice to the kids. Try to take some of her stress away. Can you help her with any of her problems? Listen to her problems, that helps. Keep the kids at arm's length, if you let them they WILL try to push you out. Just be nice but watch your back. They may say anything to make your mom breakup. Kids can be mean to a man who they think is trying to replace their dad. Good Luck. I really think you can work through this, with patience.
2007-04-04 03:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by ♥SummerRain♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is move on. This girl has emotional problems and there is too much drama for any man. You can't help her and it won't get better. Is this really the life you envisioned for yourself? Why subject yourself to this when there are plenty of good girls out there just looking for a good guy.
Move one and make everyone happy...especially you.
2007-04-04 03:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well to start off you have a lot of problems. They way you explained this either your not working or making very little money,she may feel like your a mooch. Second a child doesn't just become scared of you over night, you have done something you have failed to tell us. Sounds to me you have over stayed your welcome and you need to go......
2007-04-04 04:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by loving U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first u need to talk to her about how did you scare her child and say u are sorry for everything and ltyhen she might for give u!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-04 03:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you both sound like lovely losers i don't understand how you losers can't just get along
2007-04-04 03:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
move out and find a "sane" relationship
be cool...
2007-04-04 03:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you answer your owe question runrunrun!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-04 03:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋