Boyfriend problems?

Question

Is it just me being just too much or is my boyfriend getting worse. Me and him have to be apart for a couple of months because he is doing an intern overseas in Dubai.It's crap!We used to be so loving he would be more into me and i kept it cool and confident.He used to hug me from behind and kiss me whenever .When I went to visit him a month ago ..he seemed so different .Like not so loving .At times when I call him , he sounds kinda bored.But he said it's because he's tired from a long day (yeah right).He calls me, texts me and emails me almost everyday. (which he said he does not do for anyone else)Today I sent him a long email and then he replied with a one liner! .We have been fighting over two weeks now.Me being upset because i felt the change and he does not put in enough effort and he is getting fustrated and annoyed because he felt that I am not the person he knew.He said my negativity is pissing him off .What can I even do to save my relationship with him?

Oh yeah ..I really want to save my relationship with him .It is hard to be far away I won't see him for another four months then we will be together again.At the same time please tell me how to remain calm and confident.My previous bf was the biggest jerk so it gets through head that my current bf might do the same.Ps His ex gf makes me feel like crap .She is a med student with a personality .How do I overcome that I am me and I should know I am better. As for saving my relationship with him .I really want the old him back! I want him to be crazy about me and missing me alot like he used to.Do I have to ignore him and refrain from calling him in order for him to miss me just as much as i miss him? I guess I gave him too much attention .I want all that to change and I want us to be happy.Please help !

Answer 1

hunni sorry to say it but the way ur puttin ur heart in this realationship u may get it broken.... you need to ask urself do u really wanna save ur realationship with him? is he worth it?
can you do better?
from wat i no ur a great loving gurl that would do anything to get a good realationship and i think u deserve to be in a realtionship that is loving and careing and that makes u feel happy and worth being on this earth.
if i was you i wood tell him how i feel about it and see wat he says.

anywaz best of luck with the realationship and i hope all things go well

Answer 2

Yea actual the old let the bird fly if it comes back is met to stay thing works, but is really depent on the individual. But the problem with what your doing is making yourself to aviodiable, to controlable, and to predictable. This is going to happen alot because your missing the real point of a loving relationship, which is to say it has little to do with this "love" and everything to do with compassion and passion for someone. You've apparently havn't seen much of it or else wouldn't have settle for him doing this to you, you would of seen the signs long before this and wouldn't be here fighting to get him back. Ether way you didn't explain why you guys are fight now, which tells me chances are its about the topic you brought up, which shows me he isn't really willing to work on the relationship, which shows me that the only thing left for you here is to start begin and bring yourself down all for the sake of a guy who isn't truly loving you anymore. Which in-turn is going to destroy your relationship. So destroy it well save it, honest it well, you need to "ballz" up on what you want from the relationship or move on... and let him know... if he loves you half as much as you think he does, he want let it happen for long, his heart will breck to much, and you'll have him. But if it isn't true you'll never hear from him again.... ether way time to call his bluff and stop giving him all the control. Let him know if you don't get what you need your not going to hang around deal with his bs, or your just going to be deal with his bs, and for that I don't feel sorry for you... you want to beat yourself up on this guy just for the sake of love, then you still got a lot of lesson to learn about it... man can love anything be it a tree or a god, but that stop the tree from falling on his head one day and killing him, and it doesn't mean he is worshiping the right god ether... be smart about your heart... thats why your brains there...