What is a dead-bet dad?

Question

Who is considered a dead bet dad?

Answer 1

A dead beat dad is a dad who has kids that refuses to support them, help raise them etc...who won't work and take responsilbity for himself or his kids.

Answer 2

Hello Tami,

First...do pay no mind to Richard's comment. He is an idiot with no compassion and probably will be a deadbeat dad himself some day...!

You are going to get a lot of replies that say the same thing, Tami, as most people have a single image of what a deadbeat dad is, sad to say. Most everything is true that you will read, no one can deny that, not even me.

But, don't ask what a deadbeat dad is, I am sure you know that pretty well already. What you should be asking is "why a deadbeat dad ?"

Couples have a child whether married or not, and feel a strong love at the time of conception. Some are too young and unknowing of the reponsibilty to raisng a child and get caught up in the system because they cannot afford the needs of parenthood. Some may not be able to find work paying well enough while some may find no work at all and give up. When the legal system steps in and demands more than a parent can provide, conditions grow worse.

Mothers will give up their children for this very same reason. Unfortunately, the legal system views the father as being the provider and will hound him for life to pay support when not being able to provide is the reason he abandoned his family in the first place. That makes him a deadbeat dad regardless of the reasoning creating it.

Yes, there are as many "logical" reasons as well as illogical ones for a dad to become a deadbeat dad and those reasons don't get enough attention.

The point I am trying to make, Tami, is that being a deadbeat dad does not always mean he has lost love for his child or the woman he loved enough to bear a child with. The system gives him a bad rap and he lives a life of a thousand deaths for loving a child and mother he is afraid to see again because the system is waiting to jail him. He feels he made the right choice and sacrificed himself so that the mother and child would have a better chance of survival than he could provide.

My only wish is that those whom find themselves abandoned will also try to understand why and find more compassion than anger with believing there was more love for making such a poor choice by a dad instead of simply irresponsibility. Then, when timing and conditions are right, to personally seek and find the dad and forgive him. His poor choice should not be a lifetime punishment.

If you are such a child, Tami, or know one that is...express faith and hope for a reunion of family some day and not of anger and hatred for the sadness left behind.

That is the will of God !

Answer 3

my mom was married to my dad. they had four kids in five years. he worked as a mailman from the time he was eighteen so he had a good job. he got caught cheating when he went away for a romantic weekend with another woman. my mom called the movers while he was gone and shipped all the furniture 3,000 miles away to where she had a sister living and we flew there. he came out to see us and to ask her back but she declined. she instead divorced him. he subsequently married the other woman and had three more kids. he considers them to be his only children not acknowledging us. no child support, no medical or dental benefits, no nothing! when we did talk to him, he would lie and say he sent our presents off for birthdays and christmas. my brother and i have bikes that are still "lost in the mail" over thirty years later! mind you, i said he was a mailman for the usps. his father died and left him a church where he is the pastor now having retired from the post office as a postmaster. he also sells real estate so he is pretty wealthy. he has sent his two daughters by the other woman to college. i don't even look at this man as being my father. he's just a man that had sex with my mother! she raised us and we never wanted for anything. matter of fact, had two houses built from the ground up as kids. all of this with no assistance from him. you tell me if he qualifies!

Answer 4

A dead beat dad is one who doesn't pay child support or care for his kids in any way

Answer 5

It's dead-beat dad. Someone who's a loser as a parent. No job, alcoholic, don't pay maintenance, no parental input on child raising. They just exist.

Answer 6

this is the way I see it: you chosen a guy with 4 different little ones and desperate that's the appropriate father on your newborn. there's a shrink to what proportion little ones a guy can help, however this isn't an excuse, you could have widespread extra efficient. additionally, you could detect a evening type in English, considering the fact which you could slightly communicate it.

Answer 7

It's dead beat- a father that does not financially support his children.

Answer 8

It's dead-beat..dad..one who doesn't help emotionally, financially to help with his children..People think it's just financial, but being out of their lives,,,to me,,,is even worse..

Answer 9

well first it should be dead beat parent because there are Mothers that are just as bad.
It means a parent that does not have custody of their child or children and does not pay child support.

Answer 10

"dead-bet"? I'm not sure. Maybe if he hits on 18 or is always getting beat on the river.