i fear my best friend is in trouble.?

Question

I've been best friends with this girl forever. I work and live with my boyfriend and she is a very independent girl that loves to date. I love that about her and that has never been a problem. She would always get upset at me saying my boyfriend was the reason I didn't go out and that wasn't true at all. It was either I was tired from working and school or had no money. Anyways she got a new job serving at a club at night and completely did a 180 in her schedule. She stays up all night than sleeps during the day gets up doesn't eat works out and has lost a lot of weight. She wasn't fat at all to begin with. She is a beautiful girl and I am afraid she might be on something and it scares me. A week ago we text each other about meeting up after work for some drinks and she was all excited saying she hasn't seen me in forever. I call her she never answers and I haven't talked to her since. She won't return my messages or calls...Nothing has happened b/w us.I just don't know what to do?

Answer 1

Actual something has slowly been happening between you. Namly the "driftin apart" saying. It happens and its espacially going to happen in this case. Independend girl that likes to date? I'm confused on the discription would seem an independent girl would have no need to date. Ether way she has a job serving at a club at night, you think she has a drug addiction, and she didn't keep her plans with you. All signs that this girl is caught up in the game, let her be she'll figure it out, sounds like with the whole loves dating thing that she is a social butterfly which is usually the opposite of being independent. Espacilly since she is in a club, enjoys a night life, and might have a drug addiction... hmmm seems to me like she is reaching out for company. I mean really why else would you tolerate working in a club and dating all the time? I think maybe you've crossed wires here I think your friend is caught up in the same game most of my generation is. Namly just trying to survive it because no one else is going to help us survive it, because there to busy trying to survive it themselves. I mean you said you were to tired to go out and you had no money, why not invite her over to your house? Whats this misconception that friends are only here for us to go out with? That most of hurt her because my friends have always been closer then that, and I've always been close enough to them to enjoy there house.... so it would seem you did a little pushing away on your end. What esle was she suppose to do wait on you to finaly feel like dematuring so that you don't have a life and you could go back out with her? So yes she is in trouble she lost her best friend along, long time ago, chances are before you even meet this guy you and her were seeing different on the direction you want'd to take in life... now the choose is showing itself... your not with out her thou, and don't write her off, just keep trying. Distration only last for so long, but love is true. Next time show her some compassion by showing her she doesn't need the fast life to be happy and get her over to your house for some cards and dinner. Drink some drinks and think about old times... being with a good friend makes it hard to be distrated and it might help her gain some focus.... but you got the rest of your lives to get it right, just don't give up on her!