Family funeral should I go ?

Question

my husbands uncle has died, he did a lot for his family when they were young ( above the call of duty )
I have been with my husbane for 12 years but only met him once at a wedding
Do you think I should go it is 3 hours away ?
We have 2 young children

my husband and his brothers and sisters are going
I dont know the man or his family

Answer 1

I would say no for the simple reason that it gives your husband a chance to talk to relatives he hasn't seen in ages without feeling he needs to keep you occupied and involved. Unless your hubby insists.

It depends on the family too. Most of the family members I used to see at funerals have themselves died. I no longer saw them otherwise, so it was pointless to take hubby. Relatives that I still maintain relationships with I see like every month or two and that would be different.

Answer 2

Sounds like he was a lovely man,but 3 hours is a long time for young children to be travelling, and funerals not really the place for them. I would go if you can get someone to mind the kids, but if not - well it`s a shame but you will have to pass on this one. Your husband represents the whole family so don`t worry.

Answer 3

It is a decision really that only you can make. Talk it through with your husband. He may need your support at the funeral or he may be happy enough for you to take care of the children.

You also need to take into account how you are feeling about it and what you, in your heart, would like to do. Funerals are never easy.

Sorry for your loss and all the best.


:-)))

Answer 4

Not necessarily you but your husband should go'.I think the other family members will understand that with young children and a long journey it was difficult for you. It does not show any disrespect in any way.Funerals are not the place for young children anyway unless it was an immediate family member they knew very well.

Answer 5

Really speaking you should go to support your husband
but if no one can look after the children then you cant very well go
Talk it over with your husband then you can both decide whats best

Answer 6

i think people would understand if u didnt go as a funeral is no place for children my sister had 4 young kids an didnt attend my aunts or nans funeral an im sure that your husband will understand

Answer 7

Of course you should go, if to support your husband if nothing else.

If this uncle did so much for the family, a 3 hour journey is the least u can do in return.

Answer 8

I think you should definitely go but the kids shouldn't. Leave them witha trusted friend and go to the funeral, I think your husband would be husrt if you didn't and that would just be laziness. It's only respectful, besides it's not about that, it's about supporting your husband through a difficult time and being by his side. Good Luck.

Answer 9

You should go with your husband as moral support for him. Funerals are for the living not the dead. Your husband cared about this man and is grieving. You should attend the funeral.

Answer 10

I would only go if my husband wanted me to go with him. I don't believe it's necessary to go to a funeral for someone you hardly know. I would only go if it was to support your husband and only if he really wanted you to be there. Maybe he'd rather go with his family and you could stay home with the kids. I'd let hubby call the shots on this one.