He's almost 10 years older than me and I find that we only get physical if I initiate it. Then he gets all into it. Since he doesnt seem to want to be with me in that way, I am starting to feel like its my fault. I am not ugly or grossly unattractive and usually find that guys are very responsive to me. I just dont know how to fix this. Any ideas?
2007-04-04 00:18:25 · 10 answers · asked by spkthetruth6 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm way over 18...just to be clear on that
2007-04-04 07:05:08 · update #1
How can you say that "he doesn't seem to want to be with me in that way" when, even though after you initiate things, "he gets all into it"? I would think that if that were the case, he would never "get into it" regardless who initiates things. Sounds to me like maybe he's just got a rather passive personality. Work with him, guide him, make him feel comfortable and hopefully he'll "loosen up" a bit one day.
2007-04-04 00:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever think that he's just a nice guy and trying to be respectful of you?? Not all guys are aggressive every minute and only wants sex, it might be he is very attractive to you sexually but also wants to get to know the other side of you which he is equally as attractive to and just taking it slow...
Another thought... you said almost 10 years older than you.. are you older than 18?? if not that could very well be your answer.. It is illegal for him to be with someone under 18 and doing so could mean jail time.. I'd be afraid too.. Just a thought...
2007-04-04 04:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple! He wants you to take the lead! What is so confusing?!
He prefers the woman to take the initiative and he may be right...because he knows that's the best way to know when the woman wants to.
Occassionally, it is better. Maybe he does not want to force you in. I do think he is only being gentle.
I think he's a great guy!!!
2007-04-04 02:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by Cyrene J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 03:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's concious he can't do it right. Or he has reached an age when his sexual libido has subsided. Perhaps you would want to talk this over with him. That would be the best way to deal with this problem.
2007-04-04 00:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Leilyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't want to be pushy. Maybe he is shy about initiating sex. Possibly he is gay, try to live a straight life. There is only one way to know. Talk to him about it. If you know him well enough to have sex with him, you should be able to talk to him honestly.
2007-04-04 00:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he might not think that he's as good as you when it comes to the physical stuff. or he might just feel awkward about it. if you really have trouble with him not being able to initiate it then talk to him about it.
2007-04-04 01:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by Wilson J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's just a late bloomer. share the killer moves that you have there. you can do it girl, that's where woman power comes in
2007-04-04 00:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by chanz8teen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he doesn't like to initiate it. go to couples therapy and figure it out
2007-04-04 00:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Pea 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
start playing hard to get, sounds like he is actually in control and getting you to do exactly what he wants, time to turn it around!
2007-04-04 00:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by gone fishing! 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋