my girlfriend won't have an abortion and i want to ditch her.?

Question

all right so i'm 19 and my girlfriend is 13...don't give me any sex offender crap because i didn't force her to do jack...we met like a year ago and she agreed to be my girlfriend and we did it like seven times and the last time was two weeks ago and it was great except for one thing...it was three days after her period and she got dizzy so i had her take a pregnancy test and it was positive...and she wants to give birth. now i really want to dump her because i'm just an auto mechanic living hand to mouth and i can't deal with a kid. i thought we were really in love and the sex was awesome but a baby's taking it too far. how can i dump her?

Answer 1

you might not need to dump her coz once her parents find out how old you are they properly wont take it lien down and will call the police even tho she agreed to have sex she is still under age (i dnt mean to go on but its true) so there for you might be in prison by the time she has her baby!! other than that i suggest you leave the country now.....

Answer 2

Are you serious??? OK first off you know that it was wrong to sleep with a 13yr old and when her parents find out she is pregnant by you, have fun with the laws on that one.

But seriously besides the moral implications of sleeping with a CHILD!!! who emotionaly isnt mature enough to realize that being with you is wrong, you now get to enjoy becoming a parent at 19. Her life is already ruined and you demanding an abortion is not fair to her. She will deal with this "mistake" a whole lot more than you ever will. If you didnt have the money to have a child you should have used protection. And how can you say you thought you were truly in love, and then say that having a child is too much. If you love her you will support her and make decisions that are the best for all of you. You cant say you loved her if your going to dump her because you two didnt use protection!!!!

So instead of demanding an abortion, which is apparently not an option for her, start figuring out how your going to help raise your child. If you want to break up which is probably the best for the both of you, think about how your going to do it. But dont do it in a way that is going to cause her any more pain than she is going to deal with. You two made some DUMB and IRRESPONSIBLE choices but there is a bigger picture now. A child is going to be born and the question is will it have two parents or be forced to pay the price of two horny immature teenagers and live a life of not knowing its father????

Life sucks, and most of the crap that comes our way is because of our own doing. You cant take back a pregnancy and she doesnt want to end it. And she probably believes you will stick around because she is pregnant which is what a LOT of women unfortunately believe. You just need to decide why you truly want to leave her. Breaking up isnt going to release you from financial and emotional responsibility. That kid is going to need a lot and you now need to focus on how you can do the best you can for yourself and your soon to be child. At 19 you should be able to be young and free, but you made the choices that limit your freedom. And at 13 she has just wrote herself a life of drama and pain becoming a parent.

Good luck, and unfortunately aborting that baby because you didnt think the situation through isnt the answer to your problem. Just remember you have feelings and so does she, and she is now carrying YOUR child. Dont forget instead of killing that baby think about giving it a real shot of life and putting it up for adoption. There are a million people who cant have kids and would give anything to love a child and raise it! If you cant handle or afford to raise this child let someone else who would give your child the world do it. Think about that.

Answer 3

Hi !

I am not trying to preach here, but instead of dumping her or running out of the situation do something responsible.

Whatever you do dont ditch the baby, think of what might have happened if your parent did the same to you.

Dumping a pregnant girl must be last thing on your mind, years from now you would be very very sorry for this. God has given you an opportunity embrace it.... you will never be able to forgive yourself if do something nasty....

Who knows the baby will bring lots of luck.. it might give you a direction in life.

Next time use condoms..

Answer 4

First of all, when did she take the test? There's no way to tell for sure unless she goes to a health department or doctor for them to do a test. Then, sometimes, women create a hormone that automatically creates a positive pregnancy test. Take her to the health department to find out for sure before going off the deep end. If it is positive, you better step up to the plate because if you dump her.... you're possible looking at jail time. Do what's right.

Answer 5

wow i gotta agree with every single answer on here.....you are some piece of work if you are really thinking about ways to ditch a pregnant 13 year old. i take it you are from country and this is a normal thing....where 13-14 year olds get pregnant..i have seen it happen myself in michigan. its in your interest not to piss off the parents and grow some balls. you gonna have to take care of the baby and the 13 year old or end up in jail.
the girl shouldn't have that baby either.....she is only 13. you have to do whatever it takes for her to get that abortion....and dumping her is the last thing u should do. tell her what she wanna hear and get that abortion....i know this sounds kind of evil but its the right thing to do.

Answer 6

First of all, you are 19 years old, and she is a minor, according to the law. And it doesn't matter if you didn't "force" her to do "jack", in the eyes of the law it is statuatory rape. And now that you intend to dump this girl, I'm quite sure the next step will be for her parents to charge you with rape. So I'm seeing a jail cell in your future, and trust me, you WILL go to jail. ( I'm an ex-cop, I know these things. )

Secondly, she was your "girlfriend" as long as things were going right for you, now that they aren't, you're going to run. That tells me that you're nothing but an irresponsible a**hole.

You're man enough to get a 13 year old girl pregnant, but you're not man enough to pay child support to help that child? That child didn't ask to be born, so why does it have to suffer? She's 13 years old, where in the hell is she going to get a job to support a child?

And who are you to tell her to kill her child, you SOB!! You think because you're not man enough to provide for that child that you have to cause her to murder it? I'm glad she's not going to do it, because YOU are going to be responsible and pay up.

You can "dump" this girl........but I can assure you, you will be dumped off in a jail cell for a long, long time. And THEN, you will be in arrears for child support when you get out. So however long your in there, those debts will accumulate, and if you don't pay them when you get out, you will go right back to jail for lack of support.

You know, son..........you don't have a very bright future. And I don't really care, you need to be in jail. But I feel bad for that child, because he/she will be the one to suffer.

Answer 7

You're 19? I'd think most 19 year olds brains would have developed a bit by now. You got her into this. It doesn't matter if she began it; you're older, therefore should take responsibility.

I hope people like you rot in jail.

Answer 8

WOW haha your an idiot no offense. Tell her, her life will be over if she has this kid she will be poor forever tell her she still needs t go to school and college. As for you if she has it your screwed man what the hell were you thinking. Is a 20 second orgasm worth paying for life. man your ignorant. And get a second test just in case. Next time remeber to use condoms and stay away from under age chicks

Answer 9

If you knew you couldn't deal with a kid then you shouldn't have been having sex, end of story. Next time think with your head not your dick, and grow the hell up!! As a sexually active person it is your duty to protect your self and others from unwanted pregnancy and STD's.

Answer 10

People like you really shouldn't be allowed to have sex. Ever heard of contraception? The Double Dutch method - use a condom and ask if she's on the Pill before you bound headlong into bed. If you're "adult" enough to have sex, then accept the consequences.