I don't understand men! I'm 20, slim, ok looking, GSOH, very kind and giving so why can't I get/keep a b'friend? I don't nag, I never say no in the bedroom... Seriously, what more can I do?
2007-04-03 22:25:13 · 29 answers · asked by Me! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Excuse me 'Cutie', I have self-respect! You shouldn't be so judgemental!
2007-04-03 22:29:52 · update #1
And I do love myself!... And I am NOT desperate!... And I'm not a slag, I have only eva slept with people I am seeing, its them I don't say no to!
2007-04-03 22:32:27 · update #2
Some people are so mean on here! I ask a little advice and some just want to critisise me when you dont know a thing about me! Thank you to all those who have been nice and helpful. I appreciate it!
2007-04-03 22:36:13 · update #3
Just be yourself, I prefer people that are who they say they are. Sounds to me like perhaps you have met the wrong kind of guys, you should never be thinking "How can I keep him" you should be made to feel loved and secure. Relationships take time to build and only ever work if you are honest and work as a team, you love and respect your partner and vice versa are always there for each other and take time to show how much you care. Start to believe in yourself and what type of person you are, develop and grow and the relationship will bloom. Find someone that will see you, not what you can offer, or what you look like, but the real you, someone who will take the time to get to know you all about you, and you will find these doubts and worries you have just melt away.
Good luck
2007-04-03 22:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by djp6314 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart, my mother will tell you that she was 35 before she found someone genuine who really cared for her...you're so young! Why are young women in such a rush for everything these days? Enjoy your life while you have it. If you're really like you say you are, then don't waste that trying to keep blokes who don't seem to know what they've got.
Just calm down, stop trying to please so much, and as everyone else says, you will get the special someone in the end...I'm 32, I'm still looking.
2007-04-04 05:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously the same for women as for men a no once in a while and a little selfishness is good. don't go overboard though. we like to know you are your own person as well as all we want if not you might as well be a blow up doll or a poster of a good looking girl. you are also young you haven't even seen that many guys or known that many yet. give yourself some time you don't need a serious relationship right away have some fun first. date some men find out what you like not just what they like. it is nice to have a woman who gives so much of herself. as we get older we learn we also like to give (if in a good relationship that is) if all you do is give (in and out of bed BTW) how do we know what to give. you don't seem to need or want anything from us then. only a small amount of men (though it seems to be growing in younger ages as it is all about them) want a slave most want a woman who wants to be with us not need to be with us as we do as well.
2007-04-04 05:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by Bear_Polaroid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 20, men (I mean boys) at that age don't want to settle down.
The important thing is to keep being you, there is nothing to be gained from trying to change that.
But nothing wrong with playing games, try saying "no" in the bedroom, men like a challenge ;-)
2007-04-04 07:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you just need to find a better man. I'm older by a bit than yourself, but I notice that a lot of the guys in your age group are very flighty when it comes to a long-term relationship.
Perhaps you should try looking for a guy a little older than yourself, perhaps 25 or so. A guy who has been on the job market for a while, or is a college grad.
2007-04-04 05:29:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mortis 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a girl every man would need, But hey, I ask my self the same question everyday but with the opesit sex. I feel as though I'm not blessed on having a committed relationship.maybe me and you haven't found each other yet.
2007-04-04 05:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by BZCranium 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Kate, Any relationship need to be understood first before even giving it a chance to grow.......
Its good that u described urself fit for any relationship u want to develop.....but also understand what others needs are and not just yours......i guess once u fullfill others needs also time to time ur own needs will definately get fullfilled automatically...but have patience too......
2007-04-04 05:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by At ur Service 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore all of the nasty comments and just be yourself.
You probably just haven't found the right one yet, I now have my first serious relationship at 24, and some friends have been older.
Just chill out and enjoy yourself, and the right thing will come along sooner or later.
2007-04-04 05:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by leper madonna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whoa love take it easy... you need to love yourself. You are only 20 and men should want to be with you and you shouldn't feel like you are making them keep you. Anyway men aren't the answer go out have fun and don't worry about being single!
2007-04-04 05:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by guapita 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well for a start you wanna get yourself some self-respect!!
No self respecting women would ever need to think up ways to keep her man
''i never say no in the bedroom''
you just answered your own question sweety
Your a walk over
grow some backbone n men will be eating out of the palm of your hand ;)
I wasn't being judgemental I'm answering your question, if you dont like the answers then dont post your question in a public forum
lol nobody on here is being mean to you!!
we are just telling you our opinion from what you described in the question!!
and if you look at the answers all the girls responses are pretty much the same
isnt that telling you something??
2007-04-04 05:28:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 4⤋