Im having a problem with my now as of yesterday ex. During a break we had for a month she dated another man while I was single. I hooked up with a girl she did not like because of a previous incedent I had with her during a complicated time I had with my gf while we where not together. I felt guilty and told my gf about it at the time. So now onto present time. Im back with my gf and she has done some investigating and assumed I had sex with the girl she did not like. I told her yes even though before we went back out again I told her no only because I feared she will not go back out with me. I told her that situation was in the past and should not effect whatever outcomes we have in the recent relationship. My gf said she could not forget the past when I told her she should because she is getting jealous of any female presence within 5 feet of me. She kept concentrating on the past and it was effecting our relationship/trust. Should she forgive what happened before tomake things work?
2007-04-03 22:14:02 · 10 answers · asked by richard b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think she'll ever forget. This sounds like it's going nowwhere fast.
2007-04-03 22:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you feel this is the girl for you, you should give it time. Sit down and talk about it. Properly. Make her understand that you love her - and use that "l" word - and that you want her to know that no one else matters besides her. Get engaged, if you're serious about her. She needs reassurance. Tell her you are committed to her and you would never cheat - what happened was only because you were apart.
If you talk it through properly, you can ask her not to bring it up all the time. Tell her it brings the girl back into your thoughts when you'd like to forget about her!
2007-04-03 22:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, i really think you and your gf should have a talk.....
coz if you don't talk things out, it will only get worse.....
hhhhhhmmmmmmm................... if i'm your gf, forgiving is not that easy...... coz you broke the trust i once have for you...... what if we turn things the other way around,
she was the one who slept w/ another guy, what would you do???? would you still trust her???? see?!?!?!?!?!!
it's not that easy.............
but if you really love your gf, convince her that she can still trust you...... prove it to her (and stay away from the girl that's she's jealous of)............
*past is past???? true but still it can affect the future............
just like what happened to you........
so next time be careful in the things that you do or say........
good luck!!!!
2007-04-03 22:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by Besy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen as what they said past is past and you cannot bring it back. Ok past affects your ways of thinkings in the present but "IT SHOULD BE FORGOTTEN" especially if she really loves you. try to prove to her that you are worthy for her trust now. It wil be nice and more helpful for teh both of you if she will learn to trust you again and start once again.
2007-04-03 22:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by noemi a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, its her step-brother, not brother-in-regulation. i became going to invite how previous she is, yet that fairly does not count. no person might desire to might desire to stay in an abusive environment, and that's what you're describing. She desires to speak to a expert as a fashion to handle what occurred to her. She additionally desires to speak to her mom approximately it. might desire to be the step-brother is having subjects dealing along with his father's remarriage, yet who truly cares? His habit has to end, not basically on your gf's earnings, yet for the step-brother's. he will meet somebody sometime who isn't keen to be a sufferer after which he's gazing sexual harassment expenses, probable even sexual battery. yet what do you ought to do? i'm getting the sensation that the two one among you're youthful, so she are able to debate this with a counselor in college. Failing that, if there's a school on your area they many times have loose counseling presented by potential of the psychology branch which she are able to take great thing approximately. What you're able to do is inspire her to do those issues and stay awareness of her. some will say lay off the intercourse, yet actually it would desire to supply her the effect which you communicate her "broken products" and that isn't help. in basic terms be conscious of her reaction on your advances and end if she looks in any respect hesitant. the nice and comfortable button is it must be her that talks to her mom or seeks help. As an factor observe, you could not make all of us chuffed, they might desire to do this for themselves in basic terms as you do. She may well be happier with you than without, she may well be pleased with the flaws you do to cheer her up (and robust for you, do those issues) yet interior the tip she has to handle her very own subjects to be chuffed.
2016-11-07 04:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by delpiano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the past behind, renew your life, become a better man, future waits in front..... cause time waits for no one, one should not regret what actions has been done...
2007-04-03 22:19:49 · answer #6 · answered by PaZ KarL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes of course you should both live in the present not looking always back in the past.
2007-04-03 22:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is evil. It destroys relationships. Tell her that if she can't forgive you, then it is best to move on. If not, you will be paying for that incident the rest of your life!
2007-04-03 22:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its a question of true love ...it has to stand the test of time and even the test of doubt,if it couldn then i suppose it gonna lead you both to no-mans land
2007-04-03 22:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by dreamer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a recipe for disaster but fight for what you love!
2007-04-03 22:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋