why am i always scared that i am going to do something to cause my fiance to break up with me?

Question

I am always afraid that i am going to do something in order for my fiance to break up with me

Answer 1

If you are always worried that he's going to break up with you if you make a mistake then he's failing in his obligation towards you ,,,, If things continued like this after you married then you'd be worried all the time about doing something that might cause him to divorce you ,,,, The problem here isn't with you but with him ,,,,

If he loved you the way he should then he'd do what ever it took to make you feel sure and secure in the relationship ,,,, If you felt secure in the relationship then you wouldn't be asking this question in the first place ,,,,

Better have a talk with him about it and get his reaction and input ,,,, How he answers should give you an idea as to whether you should seriously rethink your situation or not ,,,, He's evidently not putting too much effort into your relationship because you have questions and even possible doubts ,,,, A friend ship or relationship or even a marriage takes allot of effort on the part of both parties in order for it to work right and remain stable ,,,,, It doesn't sound like to me that he's bothering himself about it just too much ,,,,

Better to find out now before the ceremony where the two of you stand on this ,,,, Why get married now if it's only going to end in divorce some time later on ,,,, ? Yoda said this ,,,,

Answer 2

Hmm...unless you have something to hide from your fiance or moonlighting as someone else, there is no reason for you to be scared of causing him to break up with you.

I think what's the issue here is you are not too confident of yourself; perhaps you see yourself as unattractive; overly sensitive, having opposing behaviour as compared to your fiance etc.

You got to have more confidence in yourself. Your fiance is already your fiance, isn't it? Meaning he is certain he wants to marry you some time in the future.

One thing you can do is talk to your fiance about these fears. See what he says. Maybe it is the lack of communication and deeper understanding between both of you which causes your insecurity besides lacking confidence.

I sincerely wish you all the best with your fiance.

Answer 3

I'm not sure, but I may be reading more into this than what I should. Perhaps you feel that he's better than you and don't want him to see your flaws?? Makes me think that you may not be YOURSELF around him if you're constantly worried about that. Maybe you should think about this and if you feel that what I said isn't the problem, you should work on letting it go. I doubt that a guy who loves you would break up with you because of some silly mistake or something. Usually takes the bigger stuff that you would automatically know was wrong and did it anyways.

Answer 4

If you are that insecure about your relationship, there may be an underlining problem. Does he make you feel like you are not good enough for him, or is it just you being insecure about yourself. You must love yourself in order to be able to give love completely.

Good men love women that have self confidence. They tell their loved ones how attractive they are, and how much they love them. They want their women to feel good about themselves.

Men that are insecure about themselves, will try to make you feel that you are not good enough for anyone else. They do this to keep you thinking that they are the only man that will ever love you. If your fiance is doing this, then you need to do some serious thinking before you make that final comittment. Do you really want to feel like that for the rest of your life?

Until you feel very secure in your relationship, I would advise you not to get married. Eventually you will long for the security oft knowing your partner will be there forever. It will make you very unhappy.

Please think about this carefully. You do not want to bring children into this world to suffer the pains of divorce.

Answer 5

Awwwww... Honey sounds like to me that you are afraid of losing her. But understand that people call that self fulfilling prophecy... If you continuously think that this is gonna happen.... then one day... BAM!! You come to find out that it happened so fast it mad your head spin. Love her, enjoy time together, have more confidence in yourself. You seem like an awesome guy!!!!! Or you wouldn't be on this site asking these questions! Good luck handsome.

Answer 6

That means you are not sure about your fiance. Try to build your confidence and maybe do things more often with your fiance so that you know him well enough.

Answer 7

cous she made you to act like that- you are afraid of her !!!
if you don't do anything N O W it will be a damage for ever. but if you like to be treated like this keep on, it will rise the next years( if it disturb you now it will always do) so be a man, don't give life to lead you, act now...or never.







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Answer 8

Simple, cause you love him. That was what happened to me. Don't be afraid, be who you are because that is what he loves you for... =)

Answer 9

Very very low self-confidence.

Answer 10

You probably have problems associated with insecurity!!!!