im 19yrs old, and live on my own, completely independent. i pay my own bills, pay my rent, do my own grocery shopping, laundry, everything! my parents divorced when i was 5, n my mom left me, but took my sista later on. my dad took me to a shrink at like 3, n i have no problem but severe depression n severe anxiety w attacks. he would beat me cuz i didnt wanna go to church, he aint christian eitha. he always got ppl to stick up for him, n they tell me that his problems r my fault. he sent me to school one day w blooody nose, n didnt care. he made me out da bad guy. he started to ruin my future till i took control last year. he n i dnt agree on anythin, he pro-bush, im anti-bush, he rich, im poor.he dont support me bein independent at all.talks bad about to me to his coworkers.blames me for everythin.he racist, but im only halfwhite, he htes my mom. i aint talk to him in 3months n he want pitty, he messed up my comp n wont fix it, n gamme beatup trash furniture n say "oh,well".
2007-04-03 21:42:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
also, he sent me to a foster home n said it was for my own good, but i was internally scarred at da home. i realized aint nobody care bout me. he put a keyword block on my comp, n blocked out so many keywords, even blocked out da names of the languages i speak. i dunno if any of these words i type gonna go thru. i asked him to fix it n he go, "i dnt trust u". i dnt even do nuthin bad online but email my friends. my stepmom n mom cant stand him eitha. he weird. very unemotional. he always gotta blank face, but he very easily ed off at little things. but when im upset he instigates it n wanders y i get depressed. he steal from me too. he stole money outta a joint bank account i had my work money in, but his name still on it, n im already 19, n he would steal my CDs, books, anything that helped me. i aint talkin to him, n now he wants me to pitty him cuz he got da flu? he say he miss me, but only thing he misses is makin my life hell, he a liar, n very tricky. cant trust him!
2007-04-03 21:51:47 · update #1
Congradulations for being independant and making it on your own. I would stay away from him if its possible, if he cant be respectful towards you..keep your distance from each other.
2007-04-03 21:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by starla20026 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good person, and you need to sit down and write out a letter, put all your feelings into it, everything you ever wanted to say to your dad. This is not your problem, but his and he had no right to treat you like he did and does. Give it all back to him, and then burn that paper. Do not live up to his expectations, but live up to your own. Get friends who are upbuilding, and will build up your confidence. Long ago I had someone accuse me of a terrible thing and my mom told me, how I act, how I look, how I talk, and dress will tell people who I am. Also, the friends you keep. And I have always lived by that rule. I am also a Bible teacher and have a degree in councling....it hurts me to read your letter.... just know there are people who care about you who don't even know you personally... I am one of those people,,,, sherrie
2007-04-06 23:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by zena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a real assh*le mothe*fuc*er! He is seriously abusive and will knock you down whenever he can, it's his way of trying to control you. Best thing to do is to stay away from him until he can learn how to control himself, which may never happen. Enforce consequences because he's lucky to have you. You sound like your doing the right thing, don't believe him when he tells you your nothing. BTW, depression is serious and it is a problem. Try to reduce your expectations from him, he's not likely to ever grow up. You have to set your boundaries down because he's going down and he's taking everyone with him. His insecurities are sky high, and it's likely you will never achieve the approval your looking for. But that's OK, it doesn't reflect on you in any way, it reflects on him, because that's how he feels about himself. He hates himself and so therefore he hates. Keep your distance, you may have to eliminate him from your life entirely. He sounds like a junkie, is he addicted to hard core drugs? Sorry kid (I don't get along w/ my mom either, but it's not this bad for me, and I'm way older than you.) Keep strong, he can't break you if you don't let him. You might want to consider getting a restraining order, or report him if he's on probation, if he's driving drunk call the cops.....it may be what he needs.
2007-04-04 04:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still letting him come around? Don't you have a Police Department where you live? File charges on him and put a restraining order on him. that way you won't have to put up with this BS!! If that don't work, move to another state or somewhere so he can't find you. Congratulations on the independant thing. Most 19 year olds aren't that way. Keep up the good work and don't let him drag you down to his level. Good luck to you.
2007-04-11 15:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by God Bless America 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, i hate the situation you are in. It sucks not having any support at all. I think you should communicate with your father only when you have to. Let him know you are a man now and he should respect you and your things. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Don't let this hinder you, you can go on to be something great despite all of this! Show Him how awesome you can be without his support!!!
good luck and I'll be praying for you!!
2007-04-11 16:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by That Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him where he was when you needed some love. Don't associate yourself with him. Find you a good older role model--someone that is good to his family.
Your dad has no right to treat you like that. Most parents are good, but it makes me angry when I hear about a parent like your dad.
Don't let him stop you from being a good, successful person. If you need help, there are therapists that will help you get pass the mess that your parents caused. If you are in the US, there are usually free mental health clincs that provide that service.
2007-04-04 05:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow it seems like you have a wacked out dad. he is doing you wrong and he cant repay you for stealing from you. what kind of man would do those kind of things to his daughter? i think it is good that you are not talking to him it seems like he just dont like you and wants you to have it rough. but he is your dad, some say forgive and forget but i know with things like that it must be hard to do that. if i were in ur position i would not talk to him for a while and show him that you do not like the way he has been treating you and your belongings.
2007-04-04 05:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by MomOf2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its cool that you're doing your own thing and making it on your own.
i hate to say this but if your dad isn't trying to be okay with you may be you should forget about him completely.
i know its hard but you need to see him as a stranger and that you don't give about what he thinks of you
keep in mind tha youre going to meet other people who will respect and like you for who you are and you don't need youre sorry excuse for a dad in you're life
good luck
2007-04-11 11:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by delia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bully..someone who wants control but can't see what he does to others. Try surrounding yourself with people you trust and stay away from those you don't.
2007-04-10 17:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by Sheeda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dat's the worst example of trying to type black i've ever read. This question must have taken some really dumbass student awhile to write. By chance I'm wrong: buy a big gun and...............no don't.
2007-04-12 02:46:46 · answer #10 · answered by solapine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋