met a guy 3 years ago.We gelled & clicked right from the start we were like best friends as well as lovers while seeing each other, discovered that he didnt want a serious relationship at that stage. During the space of time of us seeing each other he had messed me about with broken promises due to his inability 2 commit. So I gave him 1 last ultimatum of what he wanted and that I was going to start seeing someone else. He still said that we should be friends for now as it wouldnt be fair to me as he isn't in the frame of mind etc and that I deserve the best. He was still calling me after 2-3 months to keep in contact to see how I was doing, but I just cut off all contact. Fast forward to 3 years & we have got back into contact, he's 32 and I'm 26. I have just brought a new house & am doing well so is he. Now we hav started talking again he really wants something serious and I have said no & he is gutted & has asked again? Do I say no after he messed me about b4 & had his chance then?
2007-04-03 21:23:10 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing is this guy is a gemini so he is like 2 people. 1 side of him was fantastic fun, the other was rude and ungrateful. When we were seeing each other back then I decided to lend him 1500.00 and it was meant to have been payed back in 4 months but took a year and a half!! He was rude and ungrateful about it when I would confront him. He was also very immature and erratic. I mean he had his chance back then should I say no to him and that we can just be friends?
2007-04-03 21:26:00 · update #1
ask yourself...why are you saying no? are u saying no because you have absolutely no feelings for him anymore and zero chance of rekinddling that? or because he hurt you and you dont want to give him another chance? it all depends....some guys deserve another chance, some guys are pompous a$$holes who blew it already. just ask yourself....why are u saying no? and if u find your reasons to be justified, stand your ground. goodluck!
2007-04-03 21:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by ryan 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had his chance--you made your decision and it sounds like a good one--you will never have the love and committment from him--it doesn't sound good to me either---Once it is over it is done--move on --he is a big boy--he will do alright with someone else. Tell him one last time--clearly state the fact and tell him no more contact--you will be just fine without him. Then say good bye
2007-04-03 21:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look back. This guy is bad news. Tell him that you have had 3 years to consider it, and it hasn't crossed your mind once. Find you someone that isn't afraid to commit and doesn't break promises. He probably just needs another loan anyway!!
2007-04-03 21:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋