I'm having a misunderstanding with my "important someone"
he wanted me to attend his graduation yet i don't want to go...
I keep on telling him I don't want to just because...
But he keeps on insisting to tell him why i can't go...
He said it means much to him that I'm there on that day...
I understand what he is trying to say but...
His parents are going to be there, and I'm not that comfortable staying with his parents, noting from a fact that we're just new.
I met his parents once, but he was there with me all the time when I met them. But this time, he's not going to be around me.
I just can't compromise to go to a place or rather a scene I'm so uncomfortable..
It's a girl thing I guess... being around with your "importan someones" parent.
As of now, he's mad at me and we are not speaking.
is it right to stick to my decision?
Or just go even if I don't really feel secure?
2007-04-03 21:19:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is looking to you for support and he is wanting to share this speical moment he has come to achive something and he would be honored to have you by his side.He has someone to look to You~
Enjoy his family as well, one day you both may be married and just simply enjoy each moment.
2007-04-03 21:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by happysissa2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, it is an important event and I would want my special someone there too; however, I do understand what you mean. Why don't you see if you can talk a friend into coming with you so that you will have someone there to take your mind off of the parents? I think you should definately tell him why you don't want to go. Maybe he'll understand completely. He might even have you over a few more times to get to know them better. Good luck!!
2007-04-03 21:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by ~Crystal~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cool to not go. You'd want him to do it for you. Besides, this is just part of life. It gets easier with time. You will have to get over this at some point, so it might as well be now. It's OK not to feel secure about this. But let him know how you feel, it's a shy and insecure thing, and that you just don't know how to handle the anxiety. Maybe he can help you through this. But if you don't go, you will appear selfish.
The biggest things we regret in life are the things we didn't do.
2007-04-03 21:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go.
it makes since that he would be mad. you should support him, and it sounds like your going to his graduation is important to him.
besides, sometimes spending a little time to get to know your guys parents is good. who knows, you could really hit it off. and also, with your guy not there they can tell you embarrassing things you never knew about him :p
but yeah, you should really go. supporting your guy is important, no matter how 'uncomfortable' you are around his parents.
2007-04-03 21:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are able to go and don't sit with his parents. Just tell him that you are going to go. Or dont tell him just go if you care. wwhats the deal with the parents, do you guys not get along? if so thats the bigger problem not whether or not you want to go to his grad. understand that graduation has diff levels of meaning to people, for some its no big deal for others its huge!
2007-04-03 21:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by john_connor_in_exile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly means alot to you, then you should most definetely go. I mean, I understand that you are nervous...but if it means so much to him, then do him this favor, and go. Im pretty sure everything wont be as terrible as you think it will. Who knows? Maybe you'll have a great bond with them at the end?
2007-04-03 21:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by Emma E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Graduations don't have assigned seats. Go to the graduation but don't sit with his parents. You are being kinda selfish here, this is HIS day not yours. Help him celebrate it.
2007-04-03 21:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's say you push yourself to do this thing that you feel uncomfortable about - how will you feel afterwards? Will you feel "I wish I hadn't done that" or will you feel "I'm glad I did that even though I didn't want to, because he knows I made an effort for him and he loves me for it".
2007-04-03 21:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're uttery wrong and if you don't go and be with your boyfriene on his special day then he deserves better. There it is!! If you love him UNCONDITIONALLY then you'll go and be with him, meet his parents and be nice and be yourself...
This day is about your boyfriend, not about you feeling uncomfortable. Get a grip!!
2007-04-03 21:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by Scutchseven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to go! if he really is special to you, compromise your comfortability for a few hours and make him feel special. relationships fall apart when an individual can not compromise. just try to enjoy yourself! :)
2007-04-03 21:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by ryan 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋