My mother and father separated 3 years ago. Mum left because police called. Now my dad who is 49 has a 23 year old girlfriend - I hate her - and don't want anything to do with her. My mother went nuts when she found out she says what is he teaching us boys (we live with dad). She sleeps over. Is this sick?
2007-04-03 19:10:30 · 15 answers · asked by Liz G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its a very bad situation for you. Unfortunately, there's not a whole lot you can do, except go live with your mother. This is clearly one of those situations, where not every one will win.
2007-04-03 19:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by cindy h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with it other then the fact (if its true) that your dad is still married to your mom. Otherwise there is nothing wrong with him having a 23 year old girlfriend.
And he isn't teaching you guys anything wrong either. If your mom was able to just give up on her marriage simply because the police called, and your father has found a woman who loves him even in bad times he is actually teaching you something positive.
2007-04-04 07:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by celtic_princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not sick, but not a good role model. There probably isn't much you can do though. Your dad is an adult and the more you push the more he will rebel. You could probably get your siblings together and tell him that you aren't comfortable with her sleeping over. If he's a good father he will take what you say into consideration. If not, consider moving with your mom.
2007-04-04 02:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by famurattla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your heart it would also be unfair (sick) to you. Every child would wants mum and dad to be together always, but you'll learned this is not always the case. Age is something we base ourselves upon, because of our education in this world.
Your dad moved on... as well your mum should too. You chose to dislike the 23. I would not think you'll really hate her because she loves your dad.
The only sin your dad have committee is infidelity. She should not be staying over night at your home and I don't blame your mother for being upset. He is not showing any example for you to follow and you have ever right to bring him to his attention.
I want you to get to know her. If she violates you, inform your mother and think of the possibility of living with your mum. But get to know her on a friendly bases because you are a good person and you know NO one can take your mother's place!
God Bless
2007-04-04 02:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends if they love each other than its not sick at all, love doesnt have an age and honestly your mum isnt going to be happy with any other woman around her boys especially on half her age it an insult to her (in her mind).
but how old are you boys??
if ur very young being under 13 (which u dont sound) then it would be confusing and maybe not what u want. but if ur older than he proberbly thinks ur old enough to act mature about it. oh and if ur 18+ move out if u dont like it or be happy u have a step mum that u can go clubbing with.
2007-04-04 02:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by mrs nevz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope..not sick...maybe your Pop found his soulmate...give your pop a break and don't listen to mum because mum is upset he is with a YOUNGER!!!!! woman that only makes MUM feel old and so will say anything not nice about POP I bet if you got to know his girlfriend she may be super cool ..hey don't worry about MUM she is an adult and can find a youngster too..LOL GO POP!!!!
2007-04-04 02:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you father who he sees. Your mother left. I think she wants her cake and eat it (as the saying goes)
you don't have to like her, but you can not hate or blame her. Your mother and father have split, I'm sure if things were OK they would still be together.
2007-04-04 02:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by Lolipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not sick, but it's in poor taste. Try calling the new girlfriend mom, and she'll get grossed out and leave. Or at least you'll get to move back in with your real mom.
2007-04-04 04:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sick, no. But if you have a problem with this lady then you should talk to your dad about it. My dad always says that he will not continue dating a girl that me and my siblings don't like. You should ask your dad to have a private talk about this situation.
2007-04-04 02:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is having what we call in England a 'mid-life crisis'. This younger woman boosts his esteem and he is enjoying that...although things may not work out and he may end up regretting it.
There is little you can do. I suggest, stand back and let him get on with it. Be selfish and think about your own life..let him get on with his.
2007-04-04 08:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by Fluffy ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋