Why do so many Christian women feel it is proper to be subservient to men?

Question

I expected a lot different answers than I got so far and the theme is scary.
Women are equal to men, in every way, why not master a relationship in equality and not subservience where you feel the need to "make your man feel like the man God wants him to be"....that is just too weird.

Answer 1

I don't know. I think those women are weak. Men should serve me! And the correct response is yes mistress.

Answer 2

I'm making the assumption that you are referring to the role of women in marriage....perhaps that wasn't the intent of your question.

There is a big difference between being submissive, as the bible states, and being subservient. The bible says that wives are to be submissive to their husbands. Does that mean that the husband always gets what he wants? Absolutely not. It means that the wife is to be willing to sacrifice her own interests for the benefit of her husband.

Likewise, the bible says that husbands are to love their wives, just as Christ loves us. Again, this means that the husband is to sacrifice his own desires for the good of his wife. God's definition of marriage is a symbiotic relationship between a man and woman. Each partner placing the needs of the other above their own. It's not a natural behavior, by any means, but it is a picture of Christ's love for the church.

This is a far cry from the modern, self-centered approach to marriage. Counselors will tell people, "If you're not getting what YOU need out of your marriage, then get out." God says, no....marriage is a covenant between two people. It is a commitment to love one another. When you say your marriage vows, you do not say, "I love you"....you say, "I promise to love you". A subtle, but very important difference.

It is not God's desire that a woman should be subservient. Quite the contrary, women in the bible are a central and vital component to the stability of the family.

Answer 3

I can't speak for all Christian women but I've been to several Christian services and weddings where people have read passages from the Bible and well, what is often read is how women are here to serve men. So maybe that is what is taught? By the way, I don't think this phenomenon only occurs among women of the Christian faith.

Answer 4

What I find really funny about this is that the Christian women who talk the most about "subservience" tend to be very strong-willed and opinionated, and you know their husbands won't cross them. My aunt is one of those, and her husband, whom she's supposed to be so subservient to, has to sneak around to listen to the Blue Collar Comedy Tour! It's ridiculous at best and tragic at worst. Why not just love and care for each other?

Answer 5

It's not subservience. Men and women both are to serve one another, but as Christ is the head of the church so the man is the head of the woman in marriage and in any regard where there is authority to be exercised.

Answer 6

I really don't think that's true. Look at other religions: Subservience to men is more apparent in the Islamic religion, in my opinion.

Answer 7

That is not what the bible teaches at all. There is an order in marriage that the husband should be head of the household. That doesn't mean the wife needs to sit with her hands folded and say nothing. It means the wife allows her husband to have the role God intended for Him in marriage, and for her to have the role God intended for her in marriage.

Put together in light of God's true purpose, a Christian marriage can be the most beautiful harmony between man and woman possible.

Answer 8

It is because some follow a very literal interpretation of the bible and what they are taught as children. I am not one of them. I am a liberated woman. But then I am an Episcopalian. You know... the ones with women priest.

Answer 9

Because that is what the man tell them it takes to be a good women.It is in the Bible women should do what the men ask. The Bible was all so written by man

Answer 10

I don't know, I'll try to think of reasons why this is wrong..(*fight my male ego-com'on-fight my male ego*) Well I think there is a verse in !st Corinthians that says women shall follow the lead of her husband or something---ahhh I can't look it up, I don't have a bible near-ask someone else. Not saying they should tho!

Answer 11

Some women being weaker than men, when bullied simply give in to them. That's why some men get shot by their wife. And may get their ding dong whacked off.