I broke up with this guy and i am stupid for it and he is hard to get a hold of he has a gf like everyday and i really miss him but then i was stupid and wrote him a rude letter on myspace and now i just want him back! =( Wat should i do?
2007-04-03 17:51:38 · 28 answers · asked by Dezi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Note: Please try to take this in the manner in which I am trying to present it to you as; some one who is trying to be kind and helpful...because I know you "really miss him".
Guy? ...You broke up with this guy! It does sound a little shallow... coming from you. Like maybe you are really not that concerned about him (this guy).
Have you been hurt by others?...don't answer this. Its just a question for your consideration.
Your not stupid...for breaking up with him. Most others who have gone through this think about it also (after the facts)
and wonder if they did the right thing including a "rude letter". You wouldn't have sent it to him if he didn't deserve it, right?
So, you might want to take you losses up front in this situation and write him off instead. You owe him "NOTHING" (excuse me for shouting), I'm very shy and quiet.
He has already come to the conclusion that he has already written you off a long, long, time ago... (even if it was just today or within the past few days).
You want to know how you already know this (that he has written you off) and that your not being brave enough to face up to it (its not easy, none of us like it either, including me).
You know that he has written you off because (using your own words) 1. "he is hard to get a hold of" and 2. "he has a gf like everyday".
...Ummh, "Clue Time", He is hard to get a hold of because he really does have a "new" gf...and your not helping
in his new pursuits (as he sees it) because you are alway interfearing now. And because it does not include you now...he's right (according to him...and I don't even know him much less have spoken to him to get his side).
You and I together do not have to talk to him... his body language is doing all of the talking for us/you...
If you know his body is somewhere but can't find it for the moment...or if you know that it's with someone else...You may not be able to hear each of his words or see each of his actions...but what you will know is his thoughts in both of these situations...are not about you.
If he cares about you he will always make himself visable without your having to seek him out.
Prehaps you can't find him because he wants to be somewhere else and with someone else...and it's not you or not you... yet. Yet!
Can you really see yourself back with him after he has had his fling with another? Its just a thought.
You may really want him back, but truly, he also, has to really want you back for the wonderful person you are.
You ask, "Wat should I do" ...And Your Answer Is...
"NOTHING" ...You Do...NOTHING!
However, here is what some others have done before...
Here are your two options (I just love options when I don't have answers...or enough money for that matter).
1. You wait for his very soon return ...accompanied and attached with his asking for your forgiveness... "How long does one wait", you may ask? Within the week would be good!
OR UNTIL
2. You fine someone new...which ever comes first.
Someone who will care for you, someone who is funny, exciting, and safe to be around. When there are no daily or progressive fears or tearful concerns then that is your clue that this time you will be safe and being safe brings confidence that your decision was not only correct but very wise in finding someone new to watch over you and to love you for who you really are.
I know, I will never know, how this will all turn out for you but I want you to know that I will be thinking of you during this time, that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Bless you in all that you do and in all that you will ever become..."Forever"!
2007-04-03 19:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by Paul 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are very simple. All we want is for you to need us and we will feel important. Just let dude know that you miss him and you made a mistake. Make sure he knows that you need him. He will feel like the man. Most women today don't know this. Chances are his girlfriend doesn't. You didn't either when you wrote him the rude letter. Now you know! Let the man know you need and his girlfriend won't be able to make him feel the way you do.
2007-04-04 00:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by mr_blackfish1999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make mistakes, but the thing not to do is beat yourself up about it. Also, you don't want to appear like some stalker chick by trying too hard to contact him.
Best way to get his attention is to send a heartfelt, sincere apology. Show him you are a person of integrity, that you realize you made a mistake, but try to do it in a way that doesn't sound desperate. Don't sound like you're begging him to get back together. Just enough to let him know you still care and that the door to your heart remains open (sounds cheesy, but don't doubt the simple things.) You want to be able to maintain your dignity no matter the outcome.
If it's meant to be, it'll be.
2007-04-04 01:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by â??Markâ?? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only way you will ever have a chance to get him back is to cease talking to him at all. Right now he probably feels great to be on top and have you dying for him. If you turn the tables, he may come after you. Then again he may not, but if there is a chance this is the only way. Otherwise just move on.
Also, he just did what I am reccomending to you and look at the effect :) You want him back bad.
2007-04-04 00:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by michael p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well explain to him that u want to be with him and don't want to be with out him and definately appolgize for that rude letter u did write on MySpace! He seems like a player if he is with a different girl everyday! You have to decide if u want that!
2007-04-04 00:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a gf, you don't want him back until he is free. You don't want a cheater. But, you can apologize for the way you acted. Then go on with your life; he may or may not ever get interested in you again, and you can certainly find somebody else if you don't act mean and rude.
2007-04-04 00:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going to his house or something, send him a card in the mail, try calling him until you get in touch with him. But if he has a new GF maybe he has moved on, maybe that's your sign that you should move on to. But if you really like this guy & don't think you can live without him, do everything you can to show him that you care & your sorry.
2007-04-04 00:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I missed a couple of nice job opportunities because of some stupidity on my part. The purpose of life doesn't include being comfortable in our mistakes, and often there are consequences that are irreversible.
If he wasn't popular, he'd probably be really easy to get back.
2007-04-04 00:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by Joe C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has already moved on, you should do the same.
It's a hard truth to face but he dosn't love you anymore, he's got someone else now.
You should find someone better, heard of the saying there is plenty more fish in the sea?
Someone else will come along it's just you have to wait for it.
2007-04-04 00:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy848 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sound of your desperateness and his fling with other girls, you two sound like a match made in heaven. Best thing is to call his house continuously until he goes back with you! and if that doesn't work stand outside his window belting out the lyrics to his favorite song
2007-04-04 00:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by derangdlilmonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋