Is modesty such an uncommon thing to see?

Question

I would like to get everybody's opinion on modesty and if the young (can be children, teen, young adult) generation is showing to much skin. I'm a teenager that is very self-conscious about the way I dress. Skirts can only be wearable if they are below my knees or at my knees, dresses are in the same guidlines as skirts. Shirts cannot have the neckline lower than my bras ( I wear mostly sport ones also), must have sleeves, and cannot be able to see my hand on the other side (white shirts are in issue with me). Many people think that I'm just to brainwashed by my parents (they guide me through life and they have a big influence on me) and that I should just let all this stuff go. But when I see so many girls wearing miniskirts ( I saw this girl wear a white mini with red underwear that the underwear was able to show from her skirt) and low neckline shirts, that I need other people's opinion. Am I to lame and boring for everybody?

Thanks for all of the answers, ppl!! I'm really sad that I can only choose one best answer.

Answer 1

Well, you should wear what you feel comfortable in, I think. Part of me thinks, "Well, if you're young and cute, show it off, 'cause it won't last." But often, it's insecurity that makes a young woman want to show everything off anyway--she doesn't think she has anything else to show off, or her body's the only thing worth noticing.

I don't think it's at all lame or boring to look the way you want. The people who say things to you like you're being brainwashed may simply have very limited imaginations and not understand that this is really how you want to look, or they may fight with their own parents over their clothes and think you must have lost! So you'll have to keep speaking up for yourself. That's not a bad thing.

I've been seeing some very cute long skirts and loose tunics this spring, so I'm sure you'll be finding some good stuff in the stores.

One last thought--please don't look down on the girls who wear less than you or act as if you do. Sometimes when people see that someone's being different, they think it's because you think you're better. (I get this a lot as a vegetarian, even though I genuinely don't care whether someone else eats meat.) Other people may not bother to look at their minds. You can do better than that.

Answer 2

I read in the dictionary that modesty is first and foremost simply another form of humility. These days people seem to be having the wrong idea of what modesty really is, and these misinterpretations go in two ways.

The first one is that modesty is 'out' and acting like a total slut is 'in'. And if you see anyone not dressed like a slut, you call them nerds.

The second is the Christian zealotry variety in which over religious people condemn anyone showing even the slightest bit of skin than 'neccessary'. These are the type of people who hate hip-hop, rock, or anything from the 21st Century if you know what I mean.

Don't be offended cuz I don't think you (or your parents) are like that. I believe that you can wear whatever you want cuz only your personality will show people how modest you are.

I've seen people who wear stuff that may not seem modest at first, but in the end you can even see that modesty blending within the clothes that they wear. The same can be said about the opposite. I've seen girls who wear mini-skirts and sleeveless but they turn out to be really modest people and the clothes they wear turn from looking sluttish to just plain simple and cute. On the other hand I've seen some women wearing very modest clothing yet they turn out to be egotistical big heads in the classroom who think that they know everything. They clothes they wear no longer make them look modest but more like cold military dictators.

You shouldn't judge the level of modesty nowadays just from what people wear. If you want to know how much modesty is left in the world you should see how people behave not what they wear. I know that first impressions count but that's nothing compared to a lasting one. You know what they say: 'Don't judge a book by it's cover."

Also to to your last question, even if you do like wearing clothes most people would find 'uncool' if you just show them that your a fun person then it won't matter to them what you wear.

Answer 3

Do as you think is right for you. Romans 14 covers this issue very nicely. You really should read it. This is an issue that is simply between you and God. What others say should be meaningless to you. In your heart, if what you feel that you are doing is right, then go for it, and don't look back. Stand strong for what you believe, and God will honor you for it.
That said, modesty, as used in the Bible, was used by Paul to encourage women to look nice when going to a "church" meeting. Beyond that, our use of the concept of "modesty" is a man made contraption made to try to be godly, at least on the outside with little regard to what was in the heart towards God. Modesty got it's foot hold in society during the Victorian era, which was more or less the church's version of political correctness. All of it was laws and rules to try to make people "godly" with rules and bondage's that the Bible abhors. Look at what the disciples, especially Peter and Paul had to say about such issues. Modesty, true modesty, is how you act, and think, not what you wear. Lets not call God's creation dirty or vile when He hasn't done so. It is spirit of man that is vile and corrupt, the body only goes along for the ride.

Answer 4

nope. your cool. without getting into the religious issues...you're just more conscious of how people view you which isn't a bad thing. And you're safer (no criticism please)
I dress very modestly (I come from a christian background) but i have friends that dress more modestly. I think it's what you're comfortable with. don't give into peer pressure. Do what's right for you,,,not what other people think you need to do in order to become an individual, or broaden your horizons. All of what you say sounds good...i'm even a little more conservative lol (i'm 22)

Answer 5

Good for you this shows you respect yourself. I am VERY proud of you. You go girl.

I am a woman in my 30s and I am careful of how I dress because I am a large size woman in certain areas.

I get a lot of compliments and I give the glory to God for how I dress and I notice people truly respect those who are modest and modest does not mean wearing your grandmas clothes are wearing all back and being restricted.

I am a Christian and I want to take Christ wherever I go and be a testimony. God bless.

Answer 6

You dress fine!! I'm actually happy to know that I am not the only one who thinks like this! Everyone should have some shame and be modest!

You are not lame and don't care about other people. Do what you want to do and wear what you are comfortable in! :)

Answer 7

modesty is probably more rare now, but it's about how cute an outfit looks, and the confidence of the girl wearing it more than how much skin it shows. If you want to be treated like a ----, then dress like one. It's like fishing, you need the right bait for the right fish.

Answer 8

i assume that's statement that tries to equate a supernatural divine God with fairly a ineffective animal. possibly the author has an identical opinion that a supernatural entity exists in the equivalent approach as a rabbit's foot exists. that's thoroughly which you could imagine that if this style of supernatural entity does exist then He will pay interest and act upon our prayers. I doubt a rabbit's foot can do the equivalent. solutions to prayer are not constantly advantageous.

Answer 9

I have a lot respect for someone who is modest. I feel that you can be respected as well as even look sexy with out your rear end or chest hanging out of your clothes. You also have a better chance of finding a boyfriend (husband) that will fall for you for who you are and not just decide to talk to you or take you out thinking they will get something out of you. Wear what you feel is right for you, not for everyone else!

Answer 10

At church, modesty should be quite common.
But a quick trip to the mall will show you that it is a rare thing out in the world in western culture.