My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. He is very Catholic and does not believe in divorce. I think this makes him more cautious about getting married. He also feels that if you tell someone that you love them, then you should get married shortly thereafter. That being said, I asked him if he had thought about getting married. He responded that he had. When I asked how in depth, he said that he had thought about what I would be like when I was in my older age, where we would live, if he would get a different job to be home more often (he travels with work), and also that he wanted to live in a place that had good schools for his future children.....
Okay! So, my question is, how do you know if he wants to marry you? I mean, with the things that he has been thinking about, do you think he is seriously contemplating it? I am unsure as he is very careful with his feelings.
2007-04-03 16:50:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
With all that you said just now about how he responded to your question, it sounds to me like he's _really_ thinking about it. More so, he's thinking about what it will be like having you in his life. He's thinking ahead and making plans with you in them. If he does pop the question, this may have been a serious hint that he is about to do so.
2007-04-03 16:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he's pondered all of it.
But here's a few words of wisdom and my source is experience.
I'd worry less about whether he's going to ask you and worry more about whether you really...and I mean **REALLY** want to me married to him. I might be wrong but it sounds to me like he's calling the shots in your relationship. I mean, everything seems to be contingent on what he wants..HE'S Catholic,.....HE believe in telling someone I love you and then getting married shortly afterwards. HE doesn't believe in divorce. HE'S careful with his feelings.
Answer this question: where do you fit in your life? I could be way of my mark and if I am, my apologies, but that's the way it seems to me. I just hate when I hear women compromising everything they want and need in their lives because it may mean landing a man.
Just don't enter into this lightly, please? Make sure you're both on the same page and that you both have hopes and dreams AND needs and desires completely met.
And that you bothare the two people that can do that for each other.
Good luck.
2007-04-03 17:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by I am Laurie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to increase your communication with each other. I would recommend going through a book called "The Intimate Marriage." It will help with the lines of communication and see if you both are on the same page with respect to what it means to each of you to be married.
This book is also for people contemplating marriage.
May God bless your time together.
2007-04-03 16:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by lovingdaddyof2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know when he asks and not before.
If you truly love him, let him come to it in his own time. Don't push and stop asking about it. It sounds like you don't have to wait long but you just never know. Don't worry about it, if it is meant to be it will happen.
After all, don't you want him to come to that decision on his own? That way you will know for sure it's what he wants, instead of just something you push him into.
2007-04-03 16:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm I think IF he wanted to marry you he would say so. My ex husband is catholic and being notice I said EX husband...they're human just like the rest of us and yes Catholics DO beleive in divorce...they just don't admit to it. (which tends to make some catholics hypocrites) I think he is seriously conemplating getting married but not necessarily to you.
2007-04-03 16:57:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you need more answers from him, you can't settle for what is not acceptable to you.
If he's not comfortable with saying more, express your dissatisfaction and concern. He'll wise up. Tell him you need him to be totally honest with you -- and if he says he's confused or not sure, as him to think carefully and honestly about it because you need to know more about where your relationship is heading.
these aren't unfair questions -- but if he's not going to answer them, he's not going to answer them, and you better be ready to accept that potentiality as well.
2007-04-03 17:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by Steve C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the best advice in the world go to Jesus repent, ask Him to be your Lord , have a relationship with Him, then watch over time how His wisdom is revealed to you. Your b.f. wants you to sit on the edge of your seat being insecure of his intentions, that is not what God wants for you. Be a confident woman. Majority of people I have known are catholic, very controlling, but I do not tolerate it.
2007-04-03 17:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
An engagement ring is a pretty good indicator. Or at least it has been for the past few centuries.
2007-04-03 16:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes he will or i'll beat his butt!
2007-04-03 16:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by radvair 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋