Where are all the NICE guys????

Question

Why is it that I always get the jerks??? Why is it that we hit it off for a little while, then they just stop calling? Why can't I find any NICE ones? Am I doing something wrong? WHY are all guys JERKS???? >:(

Answer 1

The reason you are attracted to jerks, is because its naturally hard-wired into your brain. Most women are attracted to "bad boys" who possess qualities attractive to women. Women find these men attractive because they display key traits that spark female attraction. For example, bad boys are also often confident, which is attractive, they will actually talk to you and aggress to where they want, taking charge, and showing other alpha-male type traits normal "nice guys" don't appear to display. Men are also attracted to women for traits that may not be particularly advantageous. First and foremost would be physical appearance. Every guy pre-qualifies a girl based on her looks. Sometimes this dominates so much so that no other traits matter. Just like being attracted to the "bad boy" is attractive for women, being attracted to beautiful women for men often leads to acquiring someone whom the person would normally not be interested in. Attraction isn't a choice, it happens at a sub-conscious level that you can't control that's sparked by a variety of factors.

What you can control is who you actually date. Screen your men a little more carefully. Just because you are attracted to them, doesn't mean you should be with them. Look for things that seperate the winners from the losers. You can find guys with a healthy balance of being attractive and successful - they're just harder to find, naturally.

Answer 2

You know I've heard the guys say the same thing about where are all the honest and faithful girls. I guess each gender has it's shortcomings huh? And by the way I have only had one woman in my life of 52 years call me a jerk after she had an affair with her boss and that was because I filed for bankruptcy so neither of us would have anything. Guess I'm a jerk for that huh? My second wife had a glorious 15 1/2 years of staying at home getting treated like a queen and received no less than 68 rings, four diamond tennis bracelets, and countless pairs of earrings and necklaces. She was showered with flowers and compliments. So don't catagorize us all the same. If she hadn't died of cancer she would probably have been able to tell you that you just look at the wrong men.

Answer 3

I'd have to sit down with you for a few hours & find out how you approach a relationship, first. But some ideas to ponder, seeing as I don't know you are as follows:
Are you "giving it up" too quickly? As sexist & as hypocritical as it can be, guys don't want to respect a gal who puts out immediately, regardless if they were pushing for it or not. Silly, isnt it?
Keep a guy at an emotional distance. Let the relationship grow slowly. Don't rush to pour your emotions out on him & if he's one of the rare ones who pours his emotions out onto you, be level-headed & helpful. Again, this is such a vague question w/ out knowing exactly how you appraoch these guys & knowing you personally; I would sya just bide your time & if possible, ask people who KNOW you to be honest & tell you what they think are your pros & cons when approaching a new guy! Friends will more often than not be the most up-front & honest & have the most useful information & opinions on your dating style. Be willing to take the good with the bad 7 Do NOT get upset at them if they tell you something you don't like or didnt want to hear! Take it all w/ an open mind & see if there is anything you need to adjust! Best of Luck!

Answer 4

<=== a nice guy right here...lol

well some girls tend to get into relationship routine where they repeat the same thing over and over again and each time they just end up getting hurt or unsatisfied. next time you go for the swing at the ball, re-think your routine. consider the possible outcomes and will it just lead to the same thing again. girls usually overlook this and just keep hurting yourself. but maybe its more that your routine, it could be the way you are, sending out the negative vibes to other guys can make them back off leaving you with the "not so good" guys. there are good guys out there, you just have to look harder, and possibly hunt for them if neccessary : P

Answer 5

Look for the guy in the book store or coffee shop. The Nice Guy probably isn't going to be at the bar hitting on you.

Answer 6

We're around. It just does't seem like girls want us at all. They seem to prefer the bad-boys.

I'm the best guy-friend of pretty much all the girls I hang around. They're always telling me how sweet I am and how great a listener I am... and than running back to their asshole boyfriends who make them absolutely miserable.

I haven't given up on the gig (being a nice guy aint easy), but I imagine a lot of my peers have... out of frustration.

Answer 7

it all depends where you are meeting these guys.
Love comes when you least expect it to you just have to live and soon than later it comes to you. and Yes we are out here at home not in the bar for dollar long necks.

Answer 8

Gone!


you'll find Mr Right someday...
try changing the kind of guys you're going after..

GoOd luck!
SMILE~ :)

Answer 9

theres no such thing! just joking! well someday you'll find the right guy!

Answer 10

NO idea where the good ones are.... if you find any, send one to me, would ya?