According to this website:
http://www.meaningfullife.com/
"When a loved one dies, two powerful and conflicting emotions are aroused: sadness over the loss and confusion about the future. The sages teach us that it would be barbaric not to mourn at all, but that we should not mourn longer than necessary. A week of mourning is sufficient; otherwise, a person’s death becomes a presence unto itself, continuously saddening us and impeding our progress in life."
What do you all think? How long should one mourn a loved one?
(P.S. No one I know has died... I just wanted to get some opinions...)
2007-04-03 14:29:19 · 14 answers · asked by sketch667 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
~ Sketch66...
~ The job or boss may tell you that you have THREE days to be away for the loss of an immediate loved one...
~ Your heart will be different than anyone else, based on your love for that person...
~ If you are a strong Christian, you will rejoice in the fact that he/she was a Christian and is in the presence of the Living God, Jesus Chirst... if you know they were NOT a Christian... you may be in mourning because you will never see them in heaven.
~ Pray for those you love and for your enemies too... to receive their Salvation...
2007-04-03 14:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by James N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mourning is a deeply personal thing. Because of this, the time of mourning will vary between person. Also, the more intimate a relationship the more one will mourn.
If something happened to my husband I can say that I would be in a type of mourning for the rest of my life. Why? Because of how much I love him. I would be seperated from him, and not able to be with him, his touch, his voice, his gentle presence, his smile, everything that made him him would be gone from me.
Would it impede my life? Not at all. Continuing with this hypothetical - if my husband passed that would not mean that my life would end too. I would have to keep going, to keep acheiving to keep living and finding beauty and meaning in life. He would want that for me. I would mourn him less drastically - but I would always mourn him.
Today we put time lines on everything and try to shove our lives into them to engage in so called normal behavior. I think it is awful to say that one can only mourn for a week, that that is long enough and if we mourn for longer we are wasting engery.
2007-04-03 14:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by noncrazed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mourning is a very personal and individual thing... It's "okay" to mourn a loved one as long as you need to in order to feel that you are ready to stop... The feeling of loss after losing someone you love may never end, but eventually you will know when your mourning is ended...
2007-04-03 15:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always mourn for that person, but the intensity of it lessens over time. For some people the mourning process goes quickly and for others it takes a while.My dad died 18 years ago(God rest His soul) and some days it is like it was yesterday. But he is always with me and the grief is there but not so noticeable as when he first passed.
2007-04-03 14:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think as long as you need to mourn you should mourn. For me it is the loss of them in my life I mourn. When my dad died the pain of not having him hurt so bad I didn't know how to go on. It's been 26 yrs and I still miss him. I miss having someone who lets me believe I can do anything. I miss his kindness. I don't mourn him anymore but I still miss him.
2007-04-03 14:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by Tedi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You never forget them and the pain may take up to 3 to 5 years to really lessen drastically. Find ways to celebrate their life so you're not stuck in grief. And find ways to talk about their life...when you're ready go back to living but know that your heart will still be mourning for a long time.
2007-04-03 14:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jan P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as your feel comfortable
And then it is time to let go so their Soul can more on
For some reason I don't grieve any losses I have had in the family I am glad they are not suffering anymore and know that their souls are in a better place and they always drop in for a visit so all is well on the other side : )
Love & Blessings
Milly
2007-04-03 14:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by milly_1963 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband died 7 years ago and i still mourn him. it is alot easier in time but you never stop greiving for someone you loved very much but you need to move on because the world doesn't stop and wait for you to get over it.
2007-04-03 14:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by ladyrider41 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its really depend on the person and how much they loved this person I know it will take me for years and other need comforter and the other way to get it is to turn to other for this help but be careful there are wolves that will work on your weak points
2007-04-03 14:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by Linda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 days
2007-04-03 14:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋