2007-04-03 13:16:38 · 28 answers · asked by Nicole H 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
hi nicole ,
well in modern times when u have all the communications means , i really feel that it is wise to inform people if u coming to meet them ... coz they may be in the middle of making love , ... or already have a guest over with them ..... or they may be going out themselves .. or any thing which can make both of you guys less then comfortable ........... so personally i find it very irritating if even my best buddy drops in without calling first .. and if i am in the middle of something which i dont like to be disturbed with ................. well occasions like birthdays and festivals are different as every body is in a expectant mood to meet frens and family ........... also what if u go to ur frens place for an evening tea and they are out for a movie .... so its better not to feel miffed and funny . do call up and coordinate .. life has got too little time to be wasted bcoz of these lill situations . hope u get the message .......
regards
2007-04-03 15:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by Smarts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your community and the relationship you have with the person you're visiting, but I really don't like it when people show up unexpected, I'm often quite busy with all kinds of stuff and I value my privacy too. Then I'm not that much of a social type anyhow, other people are delighted by the surprise. Know your friends, I'd say! And hope they know you.... :-)
Oh, and an unexpected visitor should always be prepared to leave with no offense taken... I wouldn't mind so much when someone drops by, but I *would* mind if I were busy, said so, and the other person acted all hurt... sorry but if you can't handle that then you should call, the dropping by itself isn't too rude but expecting the other person throw everything aside for you is. If they're happy to see you great, if they're not, graciously say 'okay, another time then'.
2007-04-03 18:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Growing up that is what everyone in my community did, you just dropped in. I lived in a small city in Maine and everyone knew each other. Now that I live in CA I do usually call first simply because no one is ever home. I have one friend that I routinely visit without calling because she never answers the phone and I love it when people stop by my place. So I guess it depends on the person.
2007-04-03 13:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by hattiefrederick 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes its rude. some people may disagree and call it visiting but what if you dont want someone to visit you gonna leave them standing outside while they know your in. that would be not only rude but maybe upsetting. its only when your a kid/teenager you knock w/o calling. Even mature teenagers will tell you to call first.
2007-04-05 04:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by dino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why they came by, if it was just a visit and they had no real business then yes it is rude. Always remember that the only way that the person can stay is if you dont tell them to leave!!
2007-04-03 13:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its an age thing. Kids are in and out of each others houses all the time. When I got my first place it was cool for friends to drop in. Now as a, ahem, grown-up I really treasure my privacy and I HATE it when people show up unannounced!
2007-04-03 13:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it depends who the person is and if they think its rude or not. personally i dont mind if my good friends or boyfriend just stop by without calling but i would prefer others to call. my boyfriend always likes people to call first. so if you know the person whose house you are going to doesnt mind then it is fine, it really depends how they feel and if you dont know then you should definitly call first.
2007-04-03 14:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by aly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends. If they're a neighbor you're very close with, it might be OK. Even then, it's nice to call first. If you're fundraising, by all means, go ahead. If you're planning to stay- not a good idea. New neighbors? Sure. Someone you're not really comfortable with? Call. Anyways, it's easier to call before you go over. Or maybe suggest they come to your house!
2007-04-03 13:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by ~Swish~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it really is totally impolite.. i'm getting aggravated at the same time as human beings merely manifest. What if i'm feeling crappy, or i prefer to be on my own, or i'm taking a unload or gazing a movie, or ingesting supper.. I merely imagine if human beings prefer to be welcomed they prefer to call first to substantiate the guy they prefer to visit is up for it. because from time to time you do not choose travellers, there are days at the same time as i prefer to be on my own and that i prefer to be on my own from time to time or i'm getting aggravated with human beings.
2016-12-03 05:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's rude at all. I do however prefer if people call me before visiting, but I don't find it rude if they don't. If they come at a bad time then I just tell them that.
Sometimes surprise visits can be very pleasant surprises.
2007-04-03 23:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋