I've been in love wit a guy for 8 years. What do you think ?

Question

Me and this guy have liked each other ever since we were 12, and now he is 21 and I’m 20. We both knew that we liked one another but never said. We first met 8 years ago but it was the fact that we were in two different states that kept us apart. Three years later we meet again and tell each other that we still feel the same, but mind you we are still apart as he went off to university up north and I'm down south, but he tells me he has a girlfriend (he met her at uni). He has now been with her for 3 years but has recently broken up with her saying he didn’t see them having a future, but keeps giving me the vibe that he still has feelings for me and all his friends say that he does have feelings for me. This guy that I have been in love with for 8 years has now graduated and now lives 5 minutes away from me, but I’m now transferring to another state because of uni too! What should I do? I love him so much

Answer 1

It's time to have a heart to heart talk with him about how you feel and see if he is feeling the same way. Don't just take your friends word on it, find out for yourself. If your going away for awhile you could loose him for good , just because you both aren't open with each other. Then when you move you both can work on your relationship and know you both are waiting for each other.

Answer 2

Are you willing to loose him again? Or do you want the chance to be with him? This is your opportunity to let him know how much you want him theres nothing wrong with you approaching him and telling him how you feel at this point you both care for each other. You have to talk with him don't let him get away from you. I have been there I understand sometimes you have to make the first move to get somewhere. Take some time out if you really love him like you say do whats in your heart and thats the right thing.

Answer 3

I think both of you should just be honest. Have you told him, "hey, i like you". Both of you have wasted enough time by keeping quiet. I'm sorry to say i think you should have moved on instead of waiting for a response. Be bold and tell him how you feel--once that hurdle is crossed then you can work on the "out-of-state" relationship--but see the trick is to actually have a "relationship" first. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

Long distant relationships are really hard to make last; even when you've been dating the person for a couple of years. You 2 havent even dated yet and you are going to try to make it work? It's going to be really hard. But as long as you two love each other then I guess there is hope.

Answer 5

Are you hesitating about his love, relationship, or just him? If you say yes to any of those, then let this relationship go. If it is as strong as you say it is, I'm pretty sure it can withstand a little distance and time. Also your future is more important for you will never know where life will take you to.

Answer 6

Trying telling him that you still have strong feelings for him and find out if he feels the same. I've run into an old girlfriend and realized I still had strong feelings for her. Sort it out now, it will prevent problems in the future.

Answer 7

I think it's good that you're not planning your future around where he is, for starters. That's a sign of a healthy relationship.

It's possible to love someone and not be with them. You're lucky to love anyone that way, anyway. That's companionate love, and that's what lasts. People end up getting divorces because they think that romantic love will last forever.

Answer 8

See him when you come back in town. Continue your friendship. If things are going to go in the direction you'd like, it will happen when you are both ready. Transfer to your school and enjoy the time there.

Answer 9

Either talk to him about it and figure out where you both stand...or move on.

Answer 10

that is friggin stupid. He's a habbit, not a boyfriend.