IS this bad?!
2007-04-03 13:10:35 · 83 answers · asked by cutiepie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No it isn't bad. There are guys out there just like you. It is better to wait for the right person, than to share those experiences just for the sake of having them. When you are ready for a boyfriend and the right guy comes along, things will progress as they should. You have many years of dating ahead of you...don't stress it.
2007-04-03 13:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its very normal just because u havent had a b/f or a 1st kiss just means its not the right time just concentrate on school and have fun in time some kid your age will ask u out then ull experince everything.. dont worry about what are happening on ur freinds or what everyone else is doing kuz an old saying goes good things come to those who wait and its true u wait ull find the right someone.. maybe not be today or tommorow but it will come to you just be patient and remember your 14 you have your whole life ahead of you trust me having a b/f and kissing isnt that big of a deal kuz sometimes relationships dont work out then ull be heartbroke
2007-04-03 13:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sean S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not bad!!! In fact it is good and sensible also. Many of your friends are stretching the truth and lying just to make it seem like they are a hot item. Some of the ones that aren't will either be going to the abortion clinic or join the league of unwed mothers. Although physically you and a boy are capable of having sex and reproducing you are not mentally ready to be parents nor are you in any position to support a child. In addition to the possibility of a child resulting from indiscriminate sex, there is the very real possibility of a venereal disease. Some of these diseases there is no cure for and AIDS is a death sentence. Many of these diseases have a long incubation period before a person shows symptoms, however they may still be contagious.
Considering the alternatives, I would say you are in a much more fortunate position than a lot of your friends. Is that good?
2007-04-03 13:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's refreshing. What's the big hurry to act like a grown up? You have the rest of your life to enjoy meeting people, to go on dates, and even to experience your first special kiss. Making out at 14 is playing with fire. Your body is mature enough to enjoy the natural sensations, but your mind and spirit are not ready for the responsibilities and the liabilities. Your good reputation is at risk. Once you've allowed it to become tarnished, you can never fully recover it. Protect yourself from embarrassment and heartbreak. Act like a young lady. Take your time and enjoy the full, unencumbered freedom of being 14 without all the adult sized issues. Have fun being young, and don't complicate your life. Your friends can live their own lives; this one is yours! Live it well. Save that kiss for someone who will appreciate it for the sweet token of first love it really is.
2007-04-03 13:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be in a rush. Boys are not as mature as girls. They dont tend to go for tall, smart, really pretty girls at this age. They are frightened by that. High School boys are a little different. They come around. 14 is VERY young and not having a boyfriend now only means that you will be more ready when the time does come. At 14 you really don't know much and tend to have crushes. Why bother being hurt now. Enjoy your youth, have fun. It will happen when it's right.
2007-04-03 13:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of pressure there...no, it's not bad. Do NOT just jump the first boy that looks at you, unless you feel really right about it.
There is a lot of emotion attached to that first kiss. If you can do it without getting too attached, ask a guy friend to kiss you. It'll get the whole 'first time' thing over with, and you may both decide you like it. Try to minimize in your mind the importance of the 'first kiss' - it can keep you in chains of fear, or searching for 'the perfect person'.
Are there any guys you feel comfortable with? Hang out with who are more-than-commonly sensible and sensitive? Talk to them, notice the not-so-hot-but-really-nice guys out there. They make great first BF's and lovers and friends.
I bet there is a nice, almost-invisible-but-amazingly nice guy right in front of you that would love to just hang out, and maybe you two could do the 'first time' stuff together.
Good luck...
2007-04-03 13:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by Randy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Calm down, go take a deep breath and think about it rationally. Now, are you calm and ready? OK, good.
I'm 14, never had a girlfriend, (most, I think) my friends have had one, never kissed a girl. Then again, I'm Asian, a nerd, and if you look up ugly in the dictionary, you'll see my picture in there.
You know, you're not the only one in the world with love problems, you know. Plenty of other guys and girls, some even older than you. So calm down and relax. Someone's bound to come around the corner.
2007-04-03 13:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by The World Ends with You 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well aren't we in the same boat? I'd never had a girlfriend or had a first kiss either and I'm 16. It shouldn't be bad at all. It's probally just because you haven't found that special someone yet. If you wanna talk more about, then come by my profile and give me an e-mail.
2007-04-03 13:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by Robby M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im 13 and have 2 boyfriends that i havent even liked and 1 that im crushing on a guy that likes me back but has a gf that he doesnt like and wont break up with and he lies to me about he is gonna break up with her everyday so dont worry about not having a first kiss just tell ppl that u want it to be with someone special wich u do right?? so at least u dont have my problem good luck and dont worry about it bc some of ur friends might lie to you.
2007-04-03 13:19:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! i hadnt had my first kiss by then either. Som1 will come along.. if u think bout wht other ppl do 2 much, u might start becoming 'desperate,' My friends just had her 1st boyfriend at the young age of 19. Shes over the moon. It'l come sooner or later.
2007-04-03 13:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋