Has anybody survived a long distance relationship?

Question

I'm going to the University of Minnesota next year and my boy friend is staying here in New Mexico. He wants me to remain with, I don't know what to do. My parents are continually encourgaing me to break up with him on graduation day. I don't want to, but do parents really know what's best.

Answer 1

dont listen to others,do what your heart says.i remained in a long distance relationship for a year and two months but ,it sucked you cant see him or hug each other.i decided for both of us to break of,i didnt want to hold him back from really finding some one who can actally be with him.i still talk to him as friends,well i have a diffrent boyfriend and maybe he has one but doesent matter,love fades by time and us it took us 2 years.

Answer 2

My older sister had a long distance relationship with her now husband for two years before they could live together and eventually get married, it depends on your life situation and personal feelings. don't break up with him just to please your parents, they don't always know best, and besides we all need to learn from our own mistakes and parents often forget that if you don't let your children fall down, then they never learn how to get up again.
My advice is to try the long distance thing, but make sure you are both clear about your expectations of each other and be realistic. if you are not going to see eachother for more than a few months at a time then you should probably expect to be lenient on each other as far as infidelity goes. I would expect that my partner had a fling or two over a long period of being apart, as I would too, and that would be okay as long as they didn't develop a relationship with someone else or vice versa.
If either of you is jealous and possessive of eachother than a long distance thing is not a good idea as you will be constantly worrying about it. I have found in my 8 years of marriage that when I let go of those fears of infidelity our relationship became stronger and happier, the less I worry about him cheating on me or vice versa, the less likely it is to happen. I hope this is of help to you, it is advice I wish someone had given me many years ago.
good luck and enjoy your youth!

Answer 3

I live in Minnesota and my boyfriend of almost 3 years lives mostly in Brazil. It will work out if that's what is meant to be. Just try it out and see how it goes. You'll never know until you try, right? Good luck!

Answer 4

No, I haven't.

When I was in school, my boyfriend lived in Iowa. We just couldn't keep it together.

It depends though on the type of relationship you have with your boyfriend. If you think it will withstand the issues that come with a long-distance relationship, then go for it.

You won't know unless you try.

Answer 5

Number one the only person that should make that decision of breaking up is you not your parents. Long distant relationships work out but it is a little harder. When you write to him or email him make sure you put smiley faces ect. So he knows how to read it. I wish you lots of luck.

Answer 6

I would say in my opinion i would break up with the guy and worry about your education for now. pluse i have never heard of a longdistance relationship working out very long. It a hard choice that your going to have to make.

Answer 7

i was told not to date before graduation because people were all going separate ways and i'd meet someone else at college... i didn't listen and i've been dating my bf since before graduation last year and we are still together, he went across the state to college and it's been hard, write old fashion letters, send packages, talk online, you can make it work if both of you are committed. its hard, i won't lie, but it makes the seeing eachother part all the better. I love my bf so much and idk if i would feel or know him as much as i do now if we weren't seperated for college.

Best of luck!

Answer 8

No dont listen to your parents. I live in southern Minnesota myself, and my current wife went to school in Bemidji which is 6 hrs from me. Our parents constantly nagged us to break up. I never got to see her, cuz i was still in H.S. but we stuck it out for 2 yrs and are now married going on 1 yr in june. just stick it out you'll make it i promise.

Answer 9

i have ..i would email and txt message and iim still in it im in indiana and hes in georgia and mabi u or him could visit...well i would call and talk for like50 minutes a week..!!!!! good luck cuz ur decision makes the rest of ur life...
if it still dosnt help think.. boy or brain

Answer 10

everyone survives, you just don't end up going out with the same person anymore. you can fight it and be miserable, or know it's coming and keep a friend. Pick.