My guy and I have had sex several times now and while it's wonderful, I've never had an orgasm. He would always feel really bad that it wasn't happening so I started faking it to make him feel better. I love him so the fact that it hasn't happened would never cause me to break up with him, but is it bad that i'm faking it to make him feel better about himself? And is there anything I can do to have one?
2007-04-03 12:46:04 · 24 answers · asked by c_tap77 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are millions of women of all ages with the same problem. You need to find what is that drives you wild and get him to do it for you. Stop faking it! Find info about the subject on the internet so he he won't feel like he's doing something wrong.
Personally, I think you need to let go (stop holding back) and allow yourself to fully experience the sex.
2007-04-03 12:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a long time for a woman to figure out how to orgasm. It's not like there's a text book. It's a matter of experimenting and playing around. There's nothing wrong with faking it, what's he know? It's quite customary to fake actually.
It took me a year after having sex until I finally had one. OMG was it amazing, so just be patient it will happen. And don't get the idea that you're possibly doing something wrong
2007-04-03 19:51:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't recommend faking it. It is like giving a child high praise for "C" work. He begins to feel that this is good enough. Let him know that you enjoyed being with him, but the world didn't move. Most women over estimate how weak the male ego is.
Before he can help you scream with pleasure, you need to condition yourself to do the same. Take time alone to explore what feels good to you. This may include your hands, vibrators, a shower massager, or even a running bath facet. Do what feels good and relax. You're likely to find a way to "push yourself over the edge". Once you're able to orgasm, you can move to finding other ways to make the same journey. Show your guy how you do it, and later he can participate. If you're nervous you can ask him to show you the same thing. I'm pretty sure he has some practice. His participation may include hands, mouth, or you could even bring a vibrator along.
2007-04-03 20:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by Nels N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you have one if you do it yourself?? Once you know what you need and like then you can show him how to move to help you achieve it as well.. I would not tell him you have faked it he would feel awful.. And now you have a problem because if you all the sudden tell the truth and just say sorry cannot orgasm he is going to think it is him.. Try just telling him you want to experiment things a bit more take control of him and figure out what way and movements you need to orgasm.. Good Luck
2007-04-03 19:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AwWw you shouldn't lead the guy on like that. Here he is thinking he's doing this amazing job day in and day out..(not that he's not) Just sit him down and let him know that most women don't orgasm when it's strictly vaginal intercourse.
Foreplay is always a good way to help yourself along, you can have him perform oral on your, or you could do it on eachother, you could bring in toys, or you could masturbate. All these things will help you achieve orgasm...but make sure you include him too.
You being on top will definitely make you orgasm. Your clitoris will be stimulated that way and help you achieve orgasm. Just be honest with the guy. If I was a guy and my gf was faking it and i found out..it would make me feel really low.
2007-04-03 19:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by iHEARTPiCKLES 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dint know your circumstances but it can be good to fake it or it can be bad ...have you had to fake it before? maybe like most woman you cant reach orgasm through intercourse and that is true its because that its as complicated as its simple ...if you feel right it will happen if not then no...my experience is and this is why i am answering is you all *** when you get it right..i can ring the bell every time and so can you but its not a competition its just 4 fun enjoy and it will happen maybe not first time but it will
2007-04-03 20:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 through #10 C O M M U N I C A T E ! !
If you never have an orgasm then the first thing you need to do is to practice on yourself. Learn your own body and what it needs. Then take charge of the lovemaking progress. Make sure he does what he needs to do to give you an orgasm before penetration ever takes place. He can use hands, mouth, or you can hump his thigh. COMMUNICATE! If you don't tell what you need, you aren't going to get it.
2007-04-03 19:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thisnis going to sound bad, but you need to explore yourself, find out what gives you an orgasm--then tell your boy. Maybe you need more clitoral stimulation, or g-spot stimulation. Maybe more foreplay.
Never, EVER tell him that you've been faking it. Just tell him that you would like to try some different things.
2007-04-03 19:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by Songbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its not good to fake an orgasam. its not fair to him or you. you need to tell him what you like in sex. tell him what turns you on and makes you hot.like where to touch you and how to touch you. im sure he wants to bring you to an orgasam as much as you would love to have one. you are missing out of an awesome experence not having an orgasam and when you do have one you will want more and more of them. so try talking to him and letting him know what makes you go wild and get hot. good luck
2007-04-03 19:52:30 · answer #9 · answered by babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah if your over 18 get some of that new "ky gel warming" and get a good porno you watch it together, battery diddo works for the forplay part to. trust me if you dont have a orgasm with all that I'de go see a doctor
oh yah warming gel!
2007-04-03 19:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋