My parents are divorced and i live with my mom and step-father. I see my dad on every other weekend. I hate my step-father and I want to live with my dad, but I don't want to hurt my mom by having her to choose between her husband and her daughter. What should I do??? help!
2007-04-03 12:06:31 · 7 answers · asked by so in love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't make her choose, you won't like the result.
Sorry to say, but the fact that you don't like him won't keep your mom from choosing him over you. If you want to live with your dad, just do it. That doesn't mean you can't have a healthy relationship with your mom.
However you really need to look at your step-dad from your mothers point of view. If he is good to her and she loves him, then you are in the wrong for even thinking the way you do. Are you so self-centered and selfish that you would keep your mom from the man she loves? Go live with your dad and be nice to your step-dad for your mothers sake if nothing else.
The world does not revolve around you.
2007-04-03 12:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your age, you may not have any control over that. You dont say why you hate your step-father. Is he abusive towards you? If so, then you need to get help and ask your father to assist you. You have a right to a safe home.
Now if its just the normal learning how to life with a new person in your life, get some counseling before you make any decisions. Talking to someone not directly involved in this problem will help you a lot.
As far as your mother, you are not responsible for how she feels. She is the adult and if she loves you, she will want to be happy and able to put her feelings aside.
2007-04-03 19:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your mother the truth.Tell her you love her and don't want her to take this the wrong way.Tell her things are not working out between you and your step-father.Tell her you rather go live with your father.Your mother shouldn't have got married to your step-father until she made sure he loves her little girl.Your mother not going to want you to live with your father because hes paying child support.
2007-04-03 19:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by La Tania W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't make her choose still be willing to go see her on her weekends but tell her you want her to be happy and you cant be with the step dad there so you want to live with your dad
2007-04-03 19:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by gibson8026 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have two choices here:
1) you can develope a better relationship between you and your step-father
2)you can come out and tell your mom the truth in a posotive way. just be optomistic about it.
good luck!
2007-04-03 19:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by Fazima♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you and your mom should have a nice talk about the current situation. I'm sure she would want you to live where you are happy. Does she know you are not fond of her new hubby?
2007-04-03 19:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by Jayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how u feel it's the right thing 2 do
2007-04-03 19:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by goodies make the boys jump on it 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋