What is wrong with people these days?

Question

Do people not know how to raise their children or are children that out of control that parents can not raise them? Why is that so many children (15 and younger) are having children, pregnancy scares, doing drugs, and other problems?

Honestly almost every question I have looked at on here is about some 13 year old questioning why he/she is still a virgin!! You're 13 that's why!!

Is it just me that is bothered by this?

Thank you for everyone's input so far, I love knowing that some people are just as sickened as me...


It also cracks me up that right after i posted this, a 13 year old posts a question stating that she wants to become pregnant and that she's mature and ready...

Answer 1

These days, with both parents working full time, there is no one there to raise the kids properly

Answer 2

A large part of this problem is due to the fact that we teach abstinence only in schools these days. It's something that doesn't work. Europe has a much less percentage of teen pregnancies because they TALK to there children about sex, give them the info they need and tell them not to until they are ready and/or married. Parents need to start talking to there kids more definitely. We also need to take in a account that some teenagers will always have sex no matter what is taught/learned and therefor birth control should be readily available.
Teen sex is a much bigger problem that it has been in the past yes, but it's been around for eons. Take the Kinsey reports from the 50's for example. When he surveyed women from all different ages and cultural, societal backgrounds it was shown that 1 out of every 3 women had had sex before marriage and that half of those women had had multiple sex partners. In the 50's!!

It will always be here and we are only making it worse now. Talk to your kids, give them the proper education and access to birth control and things will get better.

I know a lot of people don't like the thought of having condoms available for teens but seems to me the parents who think "My daughter never will get pregnant" are the ones who's daughter ends up pregnant.

Answer 3

No, it is definitely not just you that is bothered by all this. It breaks my heart every time I see these types of things on here.

I know that this type of thing goes on, but I guess I had hopes that some of it was a bit of an urban myth....

I feel so blessed that I was brought up to believe in saving my virginity for my husband, which I did and I am so happy many, many years later that I did so.

I hate to say it, but many parents want the child as a social statement, not as someone you actually have to spend time with and teach right from wrong.

I teach in the special education field, and I see this type of thing happening in the schools all the time. (Not with the special education students, they are generally much more responsible.)

There is no accountability expected of these young people by the parents, and the kids just learn all the incorrect things from their friends and classmates.

The children are out of control because the parents are out of control, they are more interested in their material possessions and their jobs, than the children that they have brought into the world.

These children are looking for the love and acceptance that they should be receiving from their parents, and thinking that if they have sex with someone, they will get the love and support that they need. It is some kind of twisted acceptance.

I cannot tell you how many discussions I have had with children in the tween ages that have already participated in oral sex acts with others, and do not think that it is anything out of the ordinary. They do not even consider it to be a sexual act. I am getting sick to my stomach just thinking about all of this.

I am so blessed that I was raised the way that I was, I thank God for my upbringing every day. My husband and I raised our son and daughter the same way, and now they are grown up and thanking us for the same type of upbringing. It is sad to think that our beliefs are the exception to the rule.

There are a small amount of people with a religious based background who are working to bring back the no sex before marriage beliefs, and many young people are beginning to sign agreements with their parents within a religious setting and ceremony saying that they will remain virgins until they are married.

This may be a step in the right direction, but why can you not just make the decision within your own heart and your own family that you are going to be a virgin and not drink and not do drugs?

There are some people on here who are not actually what they seem, if you go back and look at some of their questions in their profile, they are saying that they are several different people for different questions, I think they are just trying to stir up trouble or they find it amusing to get as many people answering as possible.

I am so thankful that I am most likely going to be gone off of the face of this earth before some of these confused young people take over the world; if we think we have problems now; it is bound to get much worse. I just keep praying for all of these misguided young people, it is so sad, they need all the help they can get.

Have a good night.

Answer 4

This is a sick world! However, I contest your use of the term "these days." Everyone seems to think about the "the good old days of Leave it To Beaver" and how American families were so innocent. It is just more open now. For instance, we're talking about teen pregnancy on the internet w/strangers when it didn't used to be discussed at all. My mom got pregnant for me when she was 16. My grandmother got pregnant when she was 17. I'm 33 and had my first child 2 yrs ago. It has always happened and always will. I believe we deal w/it better now. When my mom/grandmother were teens in trouble there were no "Crisis Preg. Centers",etc. They took their only option...they got married to losers! Thank God that's not the only solution today!

Answer 5

Parenting skills have gone by the wayside.

Mothers go out to work - just to keep up with everybody else (the Jones'). Families no longer communicate. Teenage sex is rife along with drugs and general delinquency.

Kids don't understand that rights come with responsibilities. And their parents don't want to teach them right from wrong.

Political correctness has killed family life. Parents are not allowed to firmly chastise errant offspring. When I was growing up, any misbehaviour was swiftly followed by a thick ear from my father.

What more can I add, except to say that if the world doesn't change its ways, the bottom of the barrel beckons.

Answer 6

No your not the only one who is sickend by society. I do blame parents but I blame everyone for the way our youth are. We let our children play very voilent games. Let them watch whatever they want MTV, scarey movies etc. It used to be that the whole community looked out for each other. Now we cant even let our children, preteens ride thier bikes on pretty days! Im either going to home school my son or put him in a private christian school. The NEA wants homosexuality to be taught in every grade from Kindergarten on up. Thats INSANE! Over my dead body will my son hear that having 2 daddies or 2 mommies is OK! The government etc used to be for children and families now its like thier against us. Parents are so overwhelmed because they are having to protect thier children from everything! We cant even let our children go to school without fearing what bull the teachers our going to be feeding them. Im not saying all public school or teachers are bad. I just know that im not going to let my son enter a public school.

Answer 7

It is every parents worst nightmare to find out that their teenager is pregnant. In today's world and in a few cultures there is no longer an adult male role model. The nuclear family consists of Grandma, Mom, and children. It's very sad and until these cultures realize their epidemic problem...it will only continue.

Men of the world.....where are you? Why have you abandoned your responsibility? Did you know that in these cultures....there is 80% single parent...(female)????

Why don't people address this?

Answer 8

society is what is wrong, look at the crap you see on tv and in the movies. most people except crappy behavior from others, so why should people change? all those teenagers who do drugs and have sex when they are thirteen are the product of scum parents who don't kno how to raise a rat let alone a child. then those children grow up and most of them repeat the cycle with their own children. All in all I say scum breeds scum.

Answer 9

I am indeed. I remember being 13 and sex was the FURTHEST thing from my mind. I had lots of friends who were having sex, but that just wasn't my scene. I don't understand what parents are saying so differently to their children now that they feel they need to have sex to feel accepted and loved. What is happening to our society? Are we raising an entire generation of children who are so insecure that they must use their bodies to get the attention they need, or as they get older, to get that promotion they want?

Answer 10

I agree, it's pretty sad. I wish more people had Jesus in their life.

Honestly, the answer is complex. More parents working longer hours, not raising their kids because they're too busy making $ to try and support them. Breakdown in the family, poverty, parents addicted to drugs and alcohol themselves. Media!!! tv, music, internet - it's full of graphic, sexually explicit images, it's no wonder our young people are so messed up.