My 12 year old is 26 weeks pregnant?

Question

my daughter is 26 weks pregnant with a baby girl and im very depressed and sad about this and she could see that and she tells me mom dont be sad but how cant i not be sad when she is so young and irresponsible..anyway she only has 92 days to go and i wanted to buy her a baby simulator so she could practice how hard it is to be a mom...all her friends in school are having problems with her and calling her terrible things...what can i do to make this all stop??Even some girls pushed her down the stairs today and she was sad because she got hurt very bad..what can i do to make her have a safe pregnancy in these 92 days left because the doctor said to make sure she is safe but i cant understand why....and yes my daughter is in big trouble and she is not allowed to never go any where until she is 17 or 18

amd yes i was pregnant but had an abortion

Answer 1

I got pregnant at 17 and had to endure the pain of my classmates snickers and stares. I really found out who my real friends were. I had some of my best friends (girls I had been close to since grade school) completely abandon me. However, I also found new friendships in some of my other classmates. In the end, I graduated in the top 2% of my class and went onto college. She definately has a rough road ahead of her.

If the problems are escalating to physical violence then you need to take immediate action. Contact the school's principal and/or counselor and demand that your daughter's safety be a top priority. Most schools also offer a home-study for kids that are physically unable to attend school. She would have to do her classwork at home. They usually send a teacher to your home a few times a week to work with her. If her doctor writes a note stating that she is in danger at school and that her physical condition warrants her being eligible for homestudy, I would take that route.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Pregnant At 12

Answer 3

oh boy...So sorry to hear you're having a tough time.
At 12 I thought I knew it all, and I think most teenagers do. She probably won't fully realize what sort of responsiblity she has taken on until the baby is there..and that might even be weeks after the birth. I'm not a mom, So I'm not sure my advice is the best, but I would do your best to make sure she takes a reasonable amount of responsibility. I wouldn't let her push this child on to you. There is nothing wrong with being a caring helpful grandmother, but she is the mom, and she needs to take that role.

Maybe you can get her an at home tutor, or does her school offer a teen mother's program?

Good luck

Answer 4

12 Year Old Pregnant

Answer 5

I think I would pull her out of school and teacher her at home. If you need a special tutor it is still better than having her hurt at school. It is either that or hire an armed security detail.

You know, I'm 59 with four kids and some grandkids one of my grand children is older than your daughter. I have seen kids from every possible angle and I can not figure out why they have to be so brutal toward each other.

The bottom line is you just can't have pregnant woman being pushed down the stairs. If ANYTHING like that happens again I think I would be tempted to get the police involved. That sort of an assault could cause serious injury or worse. She could loose the baby or her very life. I don't mean to frighten you but in my opinion this is a VERY serious matter.

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My 12 year old is 26 weeks pregnant?
my daughter is 26 weks pregnant with a baby girl and im very depressed and sad about this and she could see that and she tells me mom dont be sad but how cant i not be sad when she is so young and irresponsible..anyway she only has 92 days to go and i wanted to buy her a baby simulator so she could...

Answer 7

woa she is still a baby. She needs your help more than ever now. There is no need to be extra hard on her or yourself both of you are already experienceing that from the people that she taught were her friends. Now she will need you to help her understand the responsiblity for this little girl. Maybe you can enroll her into a childbirth class this will be good info for her. Also if there is a family member of a friend who has a baby that she can see hands on how it will be so that she will not be overwelmed and hurt the baby due to fustration. I commend you for holding it together she is very lucky to have you. Please please dont blame yourself there are already so many bad things happening in the world. As a parent we want the best for our children but sometime we can protect them and shelter them but when they are out they will be presueded otherwise unless they are very strongminded. Maybe you can find a support group for your daughter--something for young mothers--you can usally find them by calling the crisis hotline or health dept. also if you can remove your daughter from that school and home school her, or find a secondary school with other children who can relate. The worse thing in the world is not only knowing you made a mistake but having no one to be there to fall back on. All things will turn around try to think positive after all there is a little miralce coming soon that is no matter the circumstances a blessing in disquse. I wish you both the best and double blessing to the new addition. Hope this offers some comfort to you and from time to time you can email me for someone to talk too.

Answer 8

Okay so first of all don't ground her she has to many problems at school to be grounded and SHE IS PREGNANT. Okay it's probably to late to get an abortion but even if you didn't know you need to be there for her cause for all you know she couldn't live to 17 because birth on children is really hard maybe not for women but for children there stomach really stretches and just to be careful her hormones if she has some will get stronger i guess to say but I have seen lots of young people like 11year olds die from pregnancy so mothers out there who has a young child pregnant dont be so hard on them just help them threw it . If she's being bullied you need to stop it immediately talk to the principal and if no one does anything take in to your own hands ask your daughter who is doing it and talk to them and if it doesn't stop take her out of school

Answer 9

My heart breaks for your daughter. Though I'm sure in a while you'll probably see that being a parent at such an incrediable young age is more "punishment" than you could ever place on her.

I have to agree with one of the comments here, you just might have to pull her out of the school. Go and talk to the principal about the situation and ask what the school can offer her. I'm sure they have strict policies about bullying and harrassment. This being said, their scope of power I'm sure will be limited.

Home schooling or another school might be your most viable option.

As if being 26 weeks isn't hard enough, AND her body is not mature enough to handle it, AND the emotional trials for her and your whole family.... the poor girl has to worry about her daily safety. AND you have to worry about the safety, health and well being of your child and grandchild....

I wish there was more I could advise.

Answer 10

This is hard for you, think how hard it must be for your daughter! I don't think buying that doll for her will do any good. She's having the baby anyways. Your stress is definately affecting her and she really doesn't need more stress than she has. She's already being shunned by her peers. Grounding her until she is 17 is not a very good idea. Don't you think she's learned her lesson already? She doesn't need to look at a future full of punishment, it will discourage her. Right now it is time to focus on the present, Helping her to balance good parenting skills while finishing off her childhood herself.

Answer 11

Maybe you need to switch her to homeschooling. I am sure that the school system can help you with this. I think getting her a baby simulator would be a great idea, she is young and I don't think she eally knows what she is in for. I would also suggest you go see a counselor to talk out your feelings, I believe you are depressed and sad from built up emotions and you have every right to be. It is always good to work out your feelings through and talking to a professional who can help you deal with your feelings in a positive way, not habor them. I really wish the best of luck for you and your daughter.