it all started when i just simply asked my boyfriend if i should go on contraception, i couldnt understand why he doesnt want me to so i kept asking and he got annoyed and turned in to this person who wasnt him. he ignored me, gave me attitude, wouldnt cooperation with me, kept saying he wants to hurt me by not talking to me, and he did, he pushed me to my edge, he wanted me to leave him alone, and to stop talking but i didnt, iwanted him to snap out of it. and when i cried, he told me to stop sobbing. eventually i stopped taking and im in desperate need of advice of what to do. how to crack him out of this attitude hes in. hes only like this cos hes hurt.
Hes normally really loving, sweet, caring, kind, romantic. this is not him at all right now.
2007-04-03 11:28:33 · 17 answers · asked by shadyfridge4 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the relationship isn't open enough to truly discuss contraception, you shouldn't be doing anything that requires it. Sounds to me like your boyfriend is acting very immature and you are making excuses for him. Now is the time for you to decide if you want to spend any amount of your life with someone that treats you this way. If he acts like this over a question about birth control, how do you think he will act about something more serious?
2007-04-03 11:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand this...he is being himself.
He didn't turn into something he is not, this is what he will be whenever the two of you butt head on a subject. This is what you are looking forward to if you enter a long term relationship. Be warned and be wary, think twice and think hard about leaving him. This is a guy who has real problems and will cause you real problems in the future. This is him right now and will be often in the future. Please think about this, so many women make the mistake of closing their eyes to the signs and then wondering how they got stuck with a loser.
He doesn't want you to use contraceptives because he wants to knock you up. He wants to lock you down and keep you his possession. Go on contraceptives anyway, he don't have the right to tell you no and you don't need his permission. He is not a good thing for any person and you need to run from him and quick.
2007-04-03 11:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been together? Have you been having sex? How old/mature is he? If you are having sex then no matter what your boyfriend says, does or acts like, you NEED BIRTH CONTROL!!! It is a neccesity if you and boyfriend dont want to get pregnant. Imagine how emotionally unstable and volitile your boyfriend would be if he found out he was going to be a dad. He is definitly not mature enough for that!
As to dealing with your current problem... just ignore him. He will come around. Right now he is acting this way because he wants to you baby him (which by crying and talking to him when he told you not to, you are currently are). Once you stop caring about him talking to you and giving him all your attention he wont have any reason to act this way and will stop.
Put some thought into his maturity and good luck!
2007-04-03 11:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how long you've been with him but his showing his true colours now, before you've seen his good side now your seeing his other side. If you do manage to snap him out of this the next time you argue he'll just act the same and ignore you.
His testing you at the moment to see how strong you are it's what men do. If you keep running to him he knows he can do whatever he wants to you and you'll keep running back for more. If you ignore him and stop talking to him like he told you to i bet you he comes RUNNING back to you and starts being sweet again. I had a ex that was EXACTLY the same.
2007-04-03 11:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by Sexy Sel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him space. once he sees that u dont depend on him and u dont necessarily need him, he'll want u back more.-not that yall broke up, but u know what i mean- and he'll snap out of it. it could just be a sore spot that he doesnt wanna talk about so just respect him and leave him be about that and later if he tells u, then he tells u, but i would leave him alone a while and let him vent and cool off. let him come to u when he's ready to settle it
2007-04-03 11:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by foreveryoung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need your boyfriend's opinion if you should go on contraception? That is a decision you needed to make. Go on it if you want.
He's upset because you kept harping on him about why he said no. Sounds like you want him to give you permission to go on birth control and he wasn't giving it, hence the need to keep asking him. He did not like you to continually put him on the spot to make YOUR decisions.
In my opinion he has the right to be annoyed. If you can't make your own decisions about whether or not to use birth control than maybe you should think twice about having sex.
You owe him an apology for what you did.
2007-04-03 11:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would start by giving him his space. If he doesn't want to talk about it right then, wait and give him some time. I'm sure you will discuss it in the future. Besides it's your body and if you want to protect it then that's your decision. Are you ready for a kid? That is what you should be asking yourself. If birthcontrol is a sore subject then I would think about what "you" should do....
2007-04-03 11:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by remdine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well see, in every relationship, there's a stage--- and YOUR stage : bf/gf , is the " getting to know stage" , it's when you find out if he's the guy you wanna be with for a long time, if you can't accept that BAD side of him, then I think it's about time you think about moving on...
2007-04-03 11:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by RC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah,i had a guy who was loving,sweet,kind and romantic.and i felt ready.then one day out of nowhere,he started having mood swings like the one you described,even though we had been together a long time and he had never displayed behaviour like this before.i split up with him,and he started sleeping with another girl a week later,and i realise now, i've had a lucky escape.get out while you can =)
2007-04-03 11:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get pregnant by this man, you'll be trapped with this manipulating, control freak and a baby. Is that what you want for your life? I think you should get rid of him before it's too late.
2007-04-03 11:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋